Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:19     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:I can see the interest that schools families would have in pressuring this family into not breaking the ED contract, so that future applicants from this school do not suffer consequences from this college.

But how is this conversation going to go, exactly? "Hi, I'm Larlo's Mom, and heard Larlito was planning on abandoning his ED pick and going to another college?" I mean, that makes you look crazy, OP. Your reputation is on the line if this is not true.


How about “the kids are all worked up because they’ve heard Larlito plans on not rescinding their app to USC even though they got in ED to Penn. I’m sure it’s likely just a rumor, but would be great if you could look into it.”
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:18     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.


But what he's doing is legal. I know you feel stressed about it, but you knew that's how the game works. Kids are rivals within their grade-level.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:17     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
You couldn't pay me enough to be a college counselor at a top private. You are trying to police the behavior of parents who haven't been told no for years and who in many cases have achieved what they have by screwing others.
Nightmare job.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:16     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
I can see the interest that schools families would have in pressuring this family into not breaking the ED contract, so that future applicants from this school do not suffer consequences from this college.

But how is this conversation going to go, exactly? "Hi, I'm Larlo's Mom, and heard Larlito was planning on abandoning his ED pick and going to another college?" I mean, that makes you look crazy, OP. Your reputation is on the line if this is not true.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:14     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Our school has an accomplished student who got into their top choice school in non-binding early action and now he is waiting until all their decisions come in to commit to thE #1 choice EA school. So annoying because they are going to gobble up the spots at these other schools that their classmates really want to go to. Yes, this kid is exceptional in stats/ECs and will most definitely get in over the other kids.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:12     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.

+1 it's hearsay.

Plus, kids don't often tell the truth to their friends. It is very common for a kid to tell friends they were admitted ED when they were not, or be admitted but then have a financial issue causing them to seek to be released from the agreement. Plenty of motivation to lie or not tell the whole truth.


The counselor can figure that out after a complaint is made.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:11     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.

+1 it's hearsay.

Plus, kids don't often tell the truth to their friends. It is very common for a kid to tell friends they were admitted ED when they were not, or be admitted but then have a financial issue causing them to seek to be released from the agreement. Plenty of motivation to lie or not tell the whole truth.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:10     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I personally wouldn’t report anything that’s just second-hand info that could be inaccurate. How would you even frame your communication? It’s the high school’s counselor’s job to make sure families honor their ED agreements (as we’ve seen this year violations could impact the entire school in the future).


That’s why one would report to the counselor. They can confirm with the student.


Would you also email the school if you heard from your kid that another student cheated on a test? I think at a certain point it’s not your job to police other students and the school needs to handle things internally.


Why not? Private schools take their honor codes seriously.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:10     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.


There would be value now in the counselor telling the student the consequence of breaking which should be school refusing to send final transcript to second school and/or informing both schools.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:09     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I personally wouldn’t report anything that’s just second-hand info that could be inaccurate. How would you even frame your communication? It’s the high school’s counselor’s job to make sure families honor their ED agreements (as we’ve seen this year violations could impact the entire school in the future).


That’s why one would report to the counselor. They can confirm with the student.


Would you also email the school if you heard from your kid that another student cheated on a test? I think at a certain point it’s not your job to police other students and the school needs to handle things internally.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:09     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:MIT EA is not binding. It’s just 2 rounds and you can apply anywhere else you want.

DP. That's true, though what sometimes happens is kid EDs to an Ivy and then gets into both MIT EA and Ivy ED, and has a strong desire to break the ED agreement to attend MIT. Obviously that would be unethical, but it would not be surprising if there are some people out there who did that.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:07     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Planning on breaking isn't the same as actually breaking. May happen or not. I would report to the counselor if they do actually break it but not based on talk of a vague plan.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:05     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
MIT EA is not binding. It’s just 2 rounds and you can apply anywhere else you want.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:02     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
Anonymous wrote:I personally wouldn’t report anything that’s just second-hand info that could be inaccurate. How would you even frame your communication? It’s the high school’s counselor’s job to make sure families honor their ED agreements (as we’ve seen this year violations could impact the entire school in the future).


That’s why one would report to the counselor. They can confirm with the student.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2025 13:02     Subject: would you report a kid who is planning on breaking an ED for a EA school to your private high school?
How do you know this is actually true vs a false rumor started by jealous peers? Nobody knows what the student will do until the decision actually happens.