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Post 12/19/2025 21:34     Subject: Covid and visiting elderly people

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Anonymous wrote:So tired of selfish people. How do you think it’s ok to expose anyone? You wait till everyone tests negative and to be on the safe side wait another week. I have a serious chronic illness. Your little Covid can have me hospitalized for weeks.


I asked how long to wait. Why couldn't you answer "a week after the last person tests negative". That would be an answer to my question. You don't have any idea of what kind of timelines I was considering so yelling at me that I am selfish is ridiculous.

I'm asking because quality of life matters, and my kids do things that contribute to the quality of life of the residents they help. People look forward to their visits. So, obviously, I want to be cautious, but equally obviously I am aware safety is a high priority, so I am looking to find out what's the right time.


Sure quality of life matters, but 99.999% of the elderly would prefer to still be alive versus having a holiday hour celebration with a volunteer and getting sick.


I love how you quote that like it's a fact you picked up in a research study. In reality a research study would have to be unrealistically huge to report that many significant digits.

Many elderly people choose to take risks every day to see people who are important to them, or to do things that are important to them. I'm asking at what point does the risk become low, because it will never be zero, but a zero exposure risk life would not be worth living to many people. Is that 10 days after getting the virus, plus a negative test? 2 weeks?


These aren't their grandkids. I'm sure they like the volunteer kids just fine, but not enough to die or be hospitalized. The events will go on with others and the elderly will enjoy them. Maybe OP can take the kids to visit there after the holidays.


These aren’t people who have family to visit them. The events are things we planned that won’t happen without us.


You seem hell bent on going ahead with your “planned activities” despite the fact that you all have Covid. I’ve never heard of anything so selfish.
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Post 12/19/2025 21:25     Subject: Covid and visiting elderly people

Anonymous wrote:OMFG

NO.

Your kids should NOT be doing volunteering with the elderly right now.

Keep them home.

THIS IS NOT EVEN A QUESTION.

Anyone who tells you you should not let your "anxiety" stop you from doing the volunteering is an idiot.

People can be contagious for 14 days and even longer. Even up to 21 days. And so all of you who AREN'T covid positive yet could catch this from the covid positive ones for 14 days.

Meaning, you and your third kid should not be around old people until 14 days after the covid positive house members reach the 14 day mark. That's 28 days from when they first tested positive.

PLEASE CANCEL THESE VOLUNTEER COMMITMENTS.


I completely agree. The fact that OP is more worried about her kids being sad to miss the planned holidays activities with the elderly is odd…worry instead about your kids giving Covid to the elderly. Stay away from them until at least the new year, please!!!
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Post 12/18/2025 17:27     Subject: Covid and visiting elderly people

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Anonymous wrote:So tired of selfish people. How do you think it’s ok to expose anyone? You wait till everyone tests negative and to be on the safe side wait another week. I have a serious chronic illness. Your little Covid can have me hospitalized for weeks.


I asked how long to wait. Why couldn't you answer "a week after the last person tests negative". That would be an answer to my question. You don't have any idea of what kind of timelines I was considering so yelling at me that I am selfish is ridiculous.

I'm asking because quality of life matters, and my kids do things that contribute to the quality of life of the residents they help. People look forward to their visits. So, obviously, I want to be cautious, but equally obviously I am aware safety is a high priority, so I am looking to find out what's the right time.


Sure quality of life matters, but 99.999% of the elderly would prefer to still be alive versus having a holiday hour celebration with a volunteer and getting sick.


I love how you quote that like it's a fact you picked up in a research study. In reality a research study would have to be unrealistically huge to report that many significant digits.

Many elderly people choose to take risks every day to see people who are important to them, or to do things that are important to them. I'm asking at what point does the risk become low, because it will never be zero, but a zero exposure risk life would not be worth living to many people. Is that 10 days after getting the virus, plus a negative test? 2 weeks?


These aren't their grandkids. I'm sure they like the volunteer kids just fine, but not enough to die or be hospitalized. The events will go on with others and the elderly will enjoy them. Maybe OP can take the kids to visit there after the holidays.


These aren’t people who have family to visit them. The events are things we planned that won’t happen without us.


Either way you have to cancel:

If this is a volunteer activity arranged by a group, then others in the group will do the visit and it will be fine for your kids to miss it due to contagious illness.

If this is an activity completely arranged and coordinated by you with no one else involved, you have total control over when it happens and can punt it to after the holidays.


This is a strange take. Some of these people are going to die before it would get rescheduled.


Some of these people COULD die before Xmas eve and won't be able to attend the event. You COULD die tomorrow and not attend the event. CALL the facility and see how they want to handle it.


That wasn't me (OP) you were responding to.

Both facilities follow the guidelines someone posted above. One kid has not yet met them, as he needs negative tests at 5 and 7 days, and is currently on day 6, but unless the kid who never tested positive suddenly does, we'll all meet them before the dates we're talking about.