Anonymous wrote:DH and I started dating 20 years ago, and he disclosed up front that he had HSV2. He takes acyclovir. I do not have it, and we have two healthy kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

It’s comical how few adults understand how common HSV really is:

“As of 2016, about 67% of the world population under the age of 50 had HSV-1.[3] In the United States, about 47.8% and 11.9% are estimated to have HSV-1 and HSV-2, respectively, though actual prevalence may be much higher.[4] Because it can be transmitted through any intimate contact, it is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections.[5]”

The posts on this thread make is seem like genital herpes is:
Acceptable
Not bad
All the cool kids have it
It's normal

It is not. And if OP wants to have a normal dating life for the rest of his life he will not risk 3 minutes of fun for a lifetime of genital herpes.

Lol. I got it from a long term BF I dated from ages 21-24, 20 years ago. I proceeded to date and find a great husband with no issue. You just have to disclose. Maybe I am somehow lucky finding smart guys who understand public health, but truly I had no issues and haven’t given it to anyone.

......that you know of.

Uhh… how would I not know? I only slept with 3 guys after I got it and all of them were long term relationships. We’re still in touch. Pretty sure they would’ve mentioned it.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

It’s comical how few adults understand how common HSV really is:

“As of 2016, about 67% of the world population under the age of 50 had HSV-1.[3] In the United States, about 47.8% and 11.9% are estimated to have HSV-1 and HSV-2, respectively, though actual prevalence may be much higher.[4] Because it can be transmitted through any intimate contact, it is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections.[5]”

The posts on this thread make is seem like genital herpes is:
Acceptable
Not bad
All the cool kids have it
It's normal

It is not. And if OP wants to have a normal dating life for the rest of his life he will not risk 3 minutes of fun for a lifetime of genital herpes.

Lol. I got it from a long term BF I dated from ages 21-24, 20 years ago. I proceeded to date and find a great husband with no issue. You just have to disclose. Maybe I am somehow lucky finding smart guys who understand public health, but truly I had no issues and haven’t given it to anyone.

......that you know of.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

It’s comical how few adults understand how common HSV really is:

“As of 2016, about 67% of the world population under the age of 50 had HSV-1.[3] In the United States, about 47.8% and 11.9% are estimated to have HSV-1 and HSV-2, respectively, though actual prevalence may be much higher.[4] Because it can be transmitted through any intimate contact, it is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections.[5]”

The posts on this thread make is seem like genital herpes is:
Acceptable
Not bad
All the cool kids have it
It's normal

It is not. And if OP wants to have a normal dating life for the rest of his life he will not risk 3 minutes of fun for a lifetime of genital herpes.

Lol. I got it from a long term BF I dated from ages 21-24, 20 years ago. I proceeded to date and find a great husband with no issue. You just have to disclose. Maybe I am somehow lucky finding smart guys who understand public health, but truly I had no issues and haven’t given it to anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

It’s comical how few adults understand how common HSV really is:

“As of 2016, about 67% of the world population under the age of 50 had HSV-1.[3] In the United States, about 47.8% and 11.9% are estimated to have HSV-1 and HSV-2, respectively, though actual prevalence may be much higher.[4] Because it can be transmitted through any intimate contact, it is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections.[5]”

The posts on this thread make is seem like genital herpes is:
Acceptable
Not bad
All the cool kids have it
It's normal

It is not. And if OP wants to have a normal dating life for the rest of his life he will not risk 3 minutes of fun for a lifetime of genital herpes.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

It’s comical how few adults understand how common HSV really is:

“As of 2016, about 67% of the world population under the age of 50 had HSV-1.[3] In the United States, about 47.8% and 11.9% are estimated to have HSV-1 and HSV-2, respectively, though actual prevalence may be much higher.[4] Because it can be transmitted through any intimate contact, it is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections.[5]”

It doesn't really matter how common it is, there's still a stigma.

If you end up catching it, the ethical thing to do is inform future partners that you have it. Most will probably decide not to sleep with you. Even though it's common.

Just not worth the risk. It's going to impact your dating life forever.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

It’s comical how few adults understand how common HSV really is:

“As of 2016, about 67% of the world population under the age of 50 had HSV-1.[3] In the United States, about 47.8% and 11.9% are estimated to have HSV-1 and HSV-2, respectively, though actual prevalence may be much higher.[4] Because it can be transmitted through any intimate contact, it is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections.[5]”

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

It’s comical how few adults understand how common HSV really is:

“As of 2016, about 67% of the world population under the age of 50 had HSV-1.[3] In the United States, about 47.8% and 11.9% are estimated to have HSV-1 and HSV-2, respectively, though actual prevalence may be much higher.[4] Because it can be transmitted through any intimate contact, it is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections.[5]”

Anonymous wrote:HSV 2 is NOT common like HSV1 is. Those on you trying to cause confusion on purpose so I'll make it easy. Lip/mouth/cold sore are common. Genital herpes sores are not common. You do NOT want genital herpes people even if trolls are trying to sell you them on this board as common place.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

This is very true.

Most people carry the HSV virus of one type or another.

Anonymous wrote:Many people get HSV while very young, before they are sexually active. HSV-1 is extremely common, even among people who never had sex, because people share bottles, forks, etc., and HSV-2 can be transmitted orally too. There are reasons why standard STD panels don't test for either HSV-1 or HSV-2. The reasons are that all types of HSV are extremely common and not a very big deal for people who have them.

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Anonymous wrote:I take Valtrex but that is only when I am about to get a cold sore

That’s HSV1

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t take the risk unless married. If you catch it and you break up, there goes your sex/dating life.

Also not sure your child status but HSV can cause major complications during pregnancy. If kids are in your future, that’s something to think about.

Your dating pool would shrink, but it would not disappear completely.

Depends on OP's ethnicity really.
Very rare among whites at less than 4% and definitely a dealbreaker for most, but over 45% of blacks have it, and over 75% of gays have it and it's no big deal.
Other demographics vary in between the extremes.

Source???