Anonymous wrote:In 2 years, sophomore DD will be in a perpetual sleepover with zero oversight from you. I wouldn’t fight this.

Hopefully your parenting skills are better than your math skills.

In 2 years OP’s sophomore will be a senior living at home.

Following this logic why don’t we all just stop bothering at the start of high school.

In 2 years, sophomore DD will be in a perpetual sleepover with zero oversight from you. I wouldn’t fight this.

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Anonymous wrote:If you're too poor to take the kids on vacation, yes let them make their own. Don't drag your children into your misery.

Who goes on vacation for Thanksgiving?!!

TONS of people!

I don’t consider visiting family to go eat turkey a vacation.

A vacation is a trip to the Caribbean or Europe or whatever. Not that many people with kids do that in place of Thanksgiving.

If no school the next day, I'm fine with my kids doing it (I have a teen DD with friends sleeping over right now).

I'd limit it to just one night though.

No, I wouldn’t go for it at all. No sleepovers during holiday week.

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Anonymous wrote:High school sleepovers are for doing things your parents wouldn’t let you do. Sneaking out, letting people in, getting drunk/high.

Wake up OP.

Yep.

I remember stuffing the sleeping bags to make it look like we were in them lol

And I never did this, yet still had loads of sleepovers. We had a lot of silly fun. The one time we got in trouble was leaving the house at 11pm. Where did we go? To the grocery store to buy ingredients for brownie making.

NP and same.

For all the cries of "but it's not ye olden days" - you're right, it's not. Fewer teens are drinking alcohol and having sex than back in our day. Cannabis is a different issue, but that also doesn't mean that every kid who wants a sleepover is planning nefarious activities. Sometimes they just want to be with their friends and have fun.

Wild child from the 90s here. My kids are not wild and all of this is true. We still don’t allow sleepovers because now we are boring and like sleep, even if they aren’t going to do anything. They had plenty of these types in middle school. But they don’t need to be doing them in HS now, with either themselves or friends driving. They will be in college soon enough and can hang out all night innocently giggling or doing other stuff.

But yes, I would be fine if my younger DD in HS sleeps over at your house any 1 night this weekend except Wed night. NOT my 17 yo now, who has a car. Curfew still applies unless I know you really well. This kid hasn’t asked for a sleepover since middle school.

Other than Wednesday and Thursday night, sure why not.

People always complaining that kids nowadays have no social lives and are glued to their phone, then won’t let them do anything.

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Anonymous wrote:If you're too poor to take the kids on vacation, yes let them make their own. Don't drag your children into your misery.

Who goes on vacation for Thanksgiving?!!

TONS of people!

Anonymous wrote:If you're too poor to take the kids on vacation, yes let them make their own. Don't drag your children into your misery.

Who goes on vacation for Thanksgiving?!!

Not two nights in a row.

If you're too poor to take the kids on vacation, yes let them make their own. Don't drag your children into your misery.

Ugh, both of my kids are in this stage, and although it's sweet and fun for them, I find the crankiness and laziness the next day to be annoying every single weekend. As well as the mess that seems to get left behind when it's at my house. But, I know it's a part of being a teen.

However, I have decided going into this weekend that I will not allow a sleepover on Wednesday night for the reason that the next day is a holiday that I want to wake up with my family, and I don't want any tired cranky kids for the holiday. They can have sleepovers Friday or Saturday if they want.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t have a problem with it as long as we didn’t have other family plans.

As far as sleepovers in HS, I have been to some (as a teen) where kids were trying to sneak alcohol or whatever, and others that were perfectly fine and we just watched movies. You can check in with the other parents to make sure they are supervising.

Parents will say yes and their idea of supervising is being in the home asleep 2 floors up. Which is really all anyone can expect.

I have one kid who I think is in the let's make brownies and braid each other's hair crowd and one who would 100 percent be sneaking out and up to things.

BUT...the older they get the brownie/hair braiders will surprise you.

As a parent, I think the "my child would never.." type of parenting is ego-filled and also my observation is plenty of parents are clueless about their own children. Hell, maybe I am.

I wouldn’t have a problem with it as long as we didn’t have other family plans.

As far as sleepovers in HS, I have been to some (as a teen) where kids were trying to sneak alcohol or whatever, and others that were perfectly fine and we just watched movies. You can check in with the other parents to make sure they are supervising.