Anonymous wrote:Am I wrong or is this not a big deal anymore? BIL's wife told us she is spoiling my nephew - their oldest child - because he has kept all A's through 6th and now 7th grade. They both think this makes him a precocious genius. Our now college-aged children had all A's in middle school too but I don't recall things getting very rigorous for them until maybe 8th grade? We're close but probably not close enough to rain on her parade and reveal most of his classmates probably have all A's too.

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Anonymous wrote:If you aren’t getting A’s in public middle school you are not even trying.

You have to literally not show up to not get an A in non-honors courses. Honestly, even the honors track is a joke at most schools.

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone has that annoying neighbor or family member who doesn't seem to grasp that a 4.0 or high SAT score now is not the same thing as it was 30 years ago. They're convinced that their ordinary kid is some super genius, and will brag at every opportunity.

OP, the only proper response is to nod, smile, and privately roll your eyes. Anything else will make you look like a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know how teachers sleep at night scamming millions of parents like this. It's honestly gross. And it's not just middlemen school, worthless As are handed to kids who aren't even grade level all through high school.

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Anonymous wrote:The way you deal with this is to tell them that if he is getting all A's within breaking a sweat then the school isn't challenging his talents and he needs advancement or outside enrichment. If he is sweating for those A'S then he deserves a reward.

Nobody wants to hear this. These dopey parents convince themselves their lazy kid who hates school, never has homework, plays video games or scrolls on their phone from the time they get home from school to bed time, and still has all A's makes their genius that much more impressive! It's a losing battle trying to get such parents to wake up. If their kid isn't smart, why is every teacher giving them A's?! They can't wrap their head around systemic fraud to appease parents and administrators.

Why are you wandering around trying to "get parents to wake up"? Is this a frequent issue for you?

Sometimes I encounter parents who appear to be very proud of a child who seems unimpressive to me but it's never occurred to me that it's my job to disabuse them of that notion. It's normal for parents to think highly of their own kids. I prefer to parents who put their children down.

Two of our children are in travel sports and loudmouth parents are constantly bragging about their tweens having all A's.

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Anonymous wrote:The way you deal with this is to tell them that if he is getting all A's within breaking a sweat then the school isn't challenging his talents and he needs advancement or outside enrichment. If he is sweating for those A'S then he deserves a reward.

Nobody wants to hear this. These dopey parents convince themselves their lazy kid who hates school, never has homework, plays video games or scrolls on their phone from the time they get home from school to bed time, and still has all A's makes their genius that much more impressive! It's a losing battle trying to get such parents to wake up. If their kid isn't smart, why is every teacher giving them A's?! They can't wrap their head around systemic fraud to appease parents and administrators.

Why are you wandering around trying to "get parents to wake up"? Is this a frequent issue for you?

Sometimes I encounter parents who appear to be very proud of a child who seems unimpressive to me but it's never occurred to me that it's my job to disabuse them of that notion. It's normal for parents to think highly of their own kids. I prefer to parents who put their children down.

Two of our children are in travel sports and loudmouth parents are constantly bragging about their tweens having all A's.

Anonymous wrote:Am I wrong or is this not a big deal anymore? BIL's wife told us she is spoiling my nephew - their oldest child - because he has kept all A's through 6th and now 7th grade. They both think this makes him a precocious genius. Our now college-aged children had all A's in middle school too but I don't recall things getting very rigorous for them until maybe 8th grade? We're close but probably not close enough to rain on her parade and reveal most of his classmates probably have all A's too.

Anonymous wrote:Am I wrong or is this not a big deal anymore? BIL's wife told us she is spoiling my nephew - their oldest child - because he has kept all A's through 6th and now 7th grade. They both think this makes him a precocious genius. Our now college-aged children had all A's in middle school too but I don't recall things getting very rigorous for them until maybe 8th grade? We're close but probably not close enough to rain on her parade and reveal most of his classmates probably have all A's too.

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Anonymous wrote:The way you deal with this is to tell them that if he is getting all A's within breaking a sweat then the school isn't challenging his talents and he needs advancement or outside enrichment. If he is sweating for those A'S then he deserves a reward.

Nobody wants to hear this. These dopey parents convince themselves their lazy kid who hates school, never has homework, plays video games or scrolls on their phone from the time they get home from school to bed time, and still has all A's makes their genius that much more impressive! It's a losing battle trying to get such parents to wake up. If their kid isn't smart, why is every teacher giving them A's?! They can't wrap their head around systemic fraud to appease parents and administrators.

Anonymous wrote:If you aren’t getting A’s in public middle school you are not even trying.

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Anonymous wrote:The way you deal with this is to tell them that if he is getting all A's within breaking a sweat then the school isn't challenging his talents and he needs advancement or outside enrichment. If he is sweating for those A'S then he deserves a reward.

Nobody wants to hear this. These dopey parents convince themselves their lazy kid who hates school, never has homework, plays video games or scrolls on their phone from the time they get home from school to bed time, and still has all A's makes their genius that much more impressive! It's a losing battle trying to get such parents to wake up. If their kid isn't smart, why is every teacher giving them A's?! They can't wrap their head around systemic fraud to appease parents and administrators.

Why are you wandering around trying to "get parents to wake up"? Is this a frequent issue for you?

Sometimes I encounter parents who appear to be very proud of a child who seems unimpressive to me but it's never occurred to me that it's my job to disabuse them of that notion. It's normal for parents to think highly of their own kids. I prefer to parents who put their children down.