Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 13:11     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
She may have used it herself. It's not like she showed you the gift the moment she received it. Or she may have liked his and he gave it to her and told you it was a gift. In any case, your daughter seems to be a good person, while you not so much. Way to create drama out of nothing.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 13:08     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:You've somehow raised a child who is a better person than you. Don't mess that up.


Perfectly stated.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 13:08     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
He didn't even clean it. OP says it was colored liquid inside. That's disgusting.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 13:07     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Id ask if she knows why she received a wet water bottle.


Maybe she noticed his bottle and commented that it’s nice. He then gave it to her, and rinsed it beforehand.



Fine to say "do you want it? I don't really use it." It's not a birthday present.


They’ve been dating like 30 seconds, it seems fine.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 13:01     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Id ask if she knows why she received a wet water bottle.


Maybe she noticed his bottle and commented that it’s nice. He then gave it to her, and rinsed it beforehand.



Fine to say "do you want it? I don't really use it." It's not a birthday present.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 12:59     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Just say nothing and don't use it.
If he asks explain that she found liquid inside.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 12:52     Subject: Re:Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:That is such a gross gift. My 7 year old would know that is not an acceptable gift. I am really surprised everyone is saying to do nothing. Isn't it our job as parents to guide our kids? They take cues from us, even if they don't immediately show it. I would absolutely express somehow that this is an unacceptable gift and would make me question his character. She can do whatever she wants with that information.

I think there are a lot of non-parent troll types on here. Or dumb guys from reddit who want people to think this is acceptable treatment.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 12:48     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
You've somehow raised a child who is a better person than you. Don't mess that up.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 12:44     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:If he's kind to her and treats her well, who the freak cares about an inapt gift?


This, fhs.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 12:44     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Stay. Out. Of. It.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 12:41     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Id ask if she knows why she received a wet water bottle.


Maybe she noticed his bottle and commented that it’s nice. He then gave it to her, and rinsed it beforehand.

Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 12:29     Subject: Re:Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
That is such a gross gift. My 7 year old would know that is not an acceptable gift. I am really surprised everyone is saying to do nothing. Isn't it our job as parents to guide our kids? They take cues from us, even if they don't immediately show it. I would absolutely express somehow that this is an unacceptable gift and would make me question his character. She can do whatever she wants with that information.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 11:59     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.

Id ask if she knows why she received a wet water bottle.
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 11:49     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. BUT, giving someone a used water bottle as a gift is gross. I highly doubt he rinsed it out before giving it to her, if it were in fact new.


Maybe it was new but it was a "return" at the store and he did not open it and checked.

So, I would tell my DD to let him know so this can be returned at the store.

Maybe DD can tell him gently and privately - that they should not exchange gifts in the future.

I disagree that your DD should keep her mouth shut. Why should she be a doormat and passive in her relationship? What a stupid advice.

100%
No need to raise girls to be quiet little church mice who should be grateful for whatever crumbs are thrown her way.


Why not respect the girl’s feelings about this? Why tell her that her feelings are not valid and she should feeling the way her mom thinks she should?


Sure, so if he starts hitting her and she says she "doesnt mind", should we just let it continue? Or teach her to have standards and self respect? Where is your line on teaching children unacceptable behavior from others?
Anonymous
Post 11/20/2025 11:33     Subject: Boyfriend gave terrible gift.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t say anything. BUT, giving someone a used water bottle as a gift is gross. I highly doubt he rinsed it out before giving it to her, if it were in fact new.


Maybe it was new but it was a "return" at the store and he did not open it and checked.

So, I would tell my DD to let him know so this can be returned at the store.

Maybe DD can tell him gently and privately - that they should not exchange gifts in the future.

I disagree that your DD should keep her mouth shut. Why should she be a doormat and passive in her relationship? What a stupid advice.

100%
No need to raise girls to be quiet little church mice who should be grateful for whatever crumbs are thrown her way.


Why not respect the girl’s feelings about this? Why tell her that her feelings are not valid and she should feeling the way her mom thinks she should?