Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this normal?

It has been a while since we got married. We mailed out invitations.

We just received an electronic invitation with a link to their website with a Venmo/zelle link.

Is this normal or tacky?

I find the fact that we allow children to starve tacky. An email wedding invite doesn’t even register on the list of what’s tacky or even worth a second thought.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused by all of these ‘tacky’ responses. Jewish tradition is cash. Why is this different or worse?

It's tacky in the asking.

It’s fine.

I have no problem with an email invitation and website for all info including RSVP's.

I don't like Venmoing the gift, especially if they think the little heart button is their thank you note.

Anonymous wrote:Is this normal?

It has been a while since we got married. We mailed out invitations.

We just received an electronic invitation with a link to their website with a Venmo/zelle link.

Is this normal or tacky?

I find the fact that we allow children to starve tacky. An email wedding invite doesn’t even register on the list of what’s tacky or even worth a second thought.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused by all of these ‘tacky’ responses. Jewish tradition is cash. Why is this different or worse?

Yup! Asian tradition is also cash. I find wedding gift registry very tacky.

How so?

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused by all of these ‘tacky’ responses. Jewish tradition is cash. Why is this different or worse?

It's tacky in the asking.

Anonymous wrote:I’m confused by all of these ‘tacky’ responses. Jewish tradition is cash. Why is this different or worse?

Yup! Asian tradition is also cash. I find wedding gift registry very tacky.

Tacky

I’m confused by all of these ‘tacky’ responses. Jewish tradition is cash. Why is this different or worse?

What is tacky is being bothered and wondering if it is tacky

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:5 years ago I would have really gotten upset and muttered endlessly about it being tacky. I think now I'm just beaten down and tired. If the young people would rather have money via Zelle than serving spoons, who am I to judge? I'm going through a nasty divorce and my heart breaks looking at some of the things that people lovingly chose for us. It's all just meaningless in the end, so you might as well give them cash so they can choose their own meaningless stuff.

That's what Asian people give at wedding, CASH !!! Average is $400 per couple.

Ironically you're replying to me and I married into an Asian family and oddly so many of our guests on that side of the family didn't give us anything. Maybe because I'm white so they couldn't decide on what tradition to follow? I've never figured it out. But at least I don't have to feel mad at his side of the family because there aren't any gifts to look at or give away from them and we've spent or saved what they did give us.

Maybe the money was given to the parents who were undoubtedly footing the bill. In my own South Asian DC's wedding, we paid for everything (and I mean every.single.thing) - and also gave the checks written out to us by our friends to the newlyweds. Our friends told us that if the newlyweds had not even spent a single cent - then we should have kept the money to offset the cost of the wedding. We did not do that because we did not need the money. But, traditionally, family gives the money to the parents to offset the cost of money or they pay for something.

Anonymous wrote:Is this normal?

It has been a while since we got married. We mailed out invitations.

We just received an electronic invitation with a link to their website with a Venmo/zelle link.

Is this normal or tacky?

Yes. It is normal for young people nowadays. Gen X and boomer generation are nowadays giving checks as gifts, whereas millenials and gen-z friends sent zelle gifts. The zelle/venmo link are on the website.
I am seeing a lot of weddings with no gift registry because people already have every household stuff. They need money for wedding expenses, seed money or honeymoon fund. Not tacky at all.

Anonymous wrote:Is this normal?

It has been a while since we got married. We mailed out invitations.

We just received an electronic invitation with a link to their website with a Venmo/zelle link.

Is this normal or tacky?

Unbelievably tacky.

But you knew that, didn't you?

Tacky. And some of my extended family did a "traditional" money dance at their weddings - I refused. I grew up in NY -- gifts for showers and cash for weddings is what I am used to.

The Venmo is astonishingly tacky.

A lot of people do electronic invites now though so I’ll give that a pass.