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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't sound like you're making enough food of everyone is fighting for it. Make more food or tell them before hand don't bring Tupperware as we're eating ALL the leftovers the next day.

OP here. There is enough for a full, multi-plate dinner; a full, multi-plate dinner the next day; turkey sandwiches; and then DH and I want anything else to stay in our home for us to enjoy, as we were the ones who bought all the food and cooked every dish.

If ILs want another meal of it, they should be making it at home, themselves. They are able-bodied, cook for themselves, and have enough money to feed themselves whatever they like.

We’re taking others’ advice and DH will be telling them ahead of time that everyone will have enough for the visit, but if there’s any leftovers after the visit, we are keeping them.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I cook huge quantities for TG and ask our guests to bring their own tupperware, freezer packs etc. Then all of us divvy up the food for everyone. The last thing that my family wants is to eat TG leftovers for more than one meal the next day.

OP, try doubling up the TG meal quantities. It is wonderful that people want to eat the leftovers. You can send them back home with a taste of the holidays. Food for me is the universal language of love.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m happy to give folks leftovers and don’t really consider my parents guests; they are family. Seems like you’ve let this go on long enough that they think it’s fine. I’d be embarrassed to have an issue now, after a long time; my parents would probably think we were having money troubles. However he frames it, they are going to find you stingy and rude. Sounds like a very awkward Thanksgiving.

Not op. I never experienced this crazy when I grew up. Guests never showed up with containers and claimed food. They were usually offered a plate to go but no one sidled up to the leftovers with their own containers and loaded up. What op describes is incredibly rude and it speaks volumes about you that you defend it. You were not raised right.

Op's inlaws are rude. She's already done the hard work of hosting and probably providing most of the food. I would not tolerate someone treating me like the help in my own home. I would probably insist everyone go out for a meal if I encountered people who expected me to step and fetch even more for them.

I only encountered as an adult when I took a ham to a family member's celebration, and it was barely touched. It was a small get together and we had turkey, duck, shrimp and ham along with a million sides. There was a non family visitor who I didn't know who was very upset that I packed up the ham and actually accosted me in the driveway as we were leaving. The food had been sitting out for hours if she wanted to grab some she could have done it before. I also thought it was rude that she expected me to leave a large barely touched ham at my relatives house for her benefit. I just rolled my eyes at her and said we were leaving. We had tired young children. If guests showed up at my house with containers I would call them out.

You took your contribution home? That is crazy….

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m happy to give folks leftovers and don’t really consider my parents guests; they are family. Seems like you’ve let this go on long enough that they think it’s fine. I’d be embarrassed to have an issue now, after a long time; my parents would probably think we were having money troubles. However he frames it, they are going to find you stingy and rude. Sounds like a very awkward Thanksgiving.

Not op. I never experienced this crazy when I grew up. Guests never showed up with containers and claimed food. They were usually offered a plate to go but no one sidled up to the leftovers with their own containers and loaded up. What op describes is incredibly rude and it speaks volumes about you that you defend it. You were not raised right.

Op's inlaws are rude. She's already done the hard work of hosting and probably providing most of the food. I would not tolerate someone treating me like the help in my own home. I would probably insist everyone go out for a meal if I encountered people who expected me to step and fetch even more for them.

I only encountered as an adult when I took a ham to a family member's celebration, and it was barely touched. It was a small get together and we had turkey, duck, shrimp and ham along with a million sides. There was a non family visitor who I didn't know who was very upset that I packed up the ham and actually accosted me in the driveway as we were leaving. The food had been sitting out for hours if she wanted to grab some she could have done it before. I also thought it was rude that she expected me to leave a large barely touched ham at my relatives house for her benefit. I just rolled my eyes at her and said we were leaving. We had tired young children. If guests showed up at my house with containers I would call them out.

You took your contribution home? That is crazy….

Anonymous wrote:DH and I cook huge quantities for TG and ask our guests to bring their own tupperware, freezer packs etc. Then all of us divvy up the food for everyone. The last thing that my family wants is to eat TG leftovers for more than one meal the next day.

OP, try doubling up the TG meal quantities. It is wonderful that people want to eat the leftovers. You can send them back home with a taste of the holidays. Food for me is the universal language of love.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m happy to give folks leftovers and don’t really consider my parents guests; they are family. Seems like you’ve let this go on long enough that they think it’s fine. I’d be embarrassed to have an issue now, after a long time; my parents would probably think we were having money troubles. However he frames it, they are going to find you stingy and rude. Sounds like a very awkward Thanksgiving.

Not op. I never experienced this crazy when I grew up. Guests never showed up with containers and claimed food. They were usually offered a plate to go but no one sidled up to the leftovers with their own containers and loaded up. What op describes is incredibly rude and it speaks volumes about you that you defend it. You were not raised right.

Op's inlaws are rude. She's already done the hard work of hosting and probably providing most of the food. I would not tolerate someone treating me like the help in my own home. I would probably insist everyone go out for a meal if I encountered people who expected me to step and fetch even more for them.

I only encountered as an adult when I took a ham to a family member's celebration, and it was barely touched. It was a small get together and we had turkey, duck, shrimp and ham along with a million sides. There was a non family visitor who I didn't know who was very upset that I packed up the ham and actually accosted me in the driveway as we were leaving. The food had been sitting out for hours if she wanted to grab some she could have done it before. I also thought it was rude that she expected me to leave a large barely touched ham at my relatives house for her benefit. I just rolled my eyes at her and said we were leaving. We had tired young children. If guests showed up at my house with containers I would call them out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I cook huge quantities for TG and ask our guests to bring their own tupperware, freezer packs etc. Then all of us divvy up the food for everyone. The last thing that my family wants is to eat TG leftovers for more than one meal the next day.

OP, try doubling up the TG meal quantities. It is wonderful that people want to eat the leftovers. You can send them back home with a taste of the holidays. Food for me is the universal language of love.

I would NEVER do this! That seems SO gauche. I would be embarrassed to be a guest if I did that. I am coming to spend the holiday with you, not to gather up free food.