Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not from the DMV but this forum has been informative, especially since I live in an area where people don’t talk about certain schools or certain things (like SLAC’s, OOS flagships, hooks, and ED strategy) so much. Not being from the DMV allows me to appreciate the information in the forum without the stress that many of you and your kids seem to be under. Maybe my kid’s SAT score would have been better, maybe they might have had more AP’s, if they had grown up in the DMV…there is competition where we are but nothing like what parents and kids in the DMV, NY-metro, and Bay Area/Silicon Valley face.

Can you share what it looks like for kids whereever you/them live --to give desperate urban parents some perspective.

1. A 1400+ SAT score is good.
2. It’s ok to have a normal summer job like lifeguarding or waiting tables instead of doing research.
3. More kids and parents (even top stats, full pay) are more interested in state flagships instead of private T-50’s.
4. None of the racist resentment against ORM or URM “strivers”.
5. Less insecurity.
6. The HYP admit is rare.
7. Very few people know or care about the SLAC’s.
7. Activities are more for keeping kids engaged and out of trouble than for giving a leg up in college admissions.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not from the DMV but this forum has been informative, especially since I live in an area where people don’t talk about certain schools or certain things (like SLAC’s, OOS flagships, hooks, and ED strategy) so much. Not being from the DMV allows me to appreciate the information in the forum without the stress that many of you and your kids seem to be under. Maybe my kid’s SAT score would have been better, maybe they might have had more AP’s, if they had grown up in the DMV…there is competition where we are but nothing like what parents and kids in the DMV, NY-metro, and Bay Area/Silicon Valley face.

Can you share what it looks like for kids whereever you/them live --to give desperate urban parents some perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:Its never over. Parenting doesn't stop. Kids get into college but then have to navigate everything that throws at them, socially, academically, in terms of independent living yada yada yada.

Your life long career started the moment you knew you conceived. All the best.

Anonymous wrote:Not from the DMV but this forum has been informative, especially since I live in an area where people don’t talk about certain schools or certain things (like SLAC’s, OOS flagships, hooks, and ED strategy) so much. Not being from the DMV allows me to appreciate the information in the forum without the stress that many of you and your kids seem to be under. Maybe my kid’s SAT score would have been better, maybe they might have had more AP’s, if they had grown up in the DMV…there is competition where we are but nothing like what parents and kids in the DMV, NY-metro, and Bay Area/Silicon Valley face.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg… Hotel California poster I love you!

+1. And the Piano Man !

Anonymous wrote:Omg… Hotel California poster I love you!

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Anonymous wrote:Kid will be all done with their applications, either accepted by ED schools or waiting for RD results.
When it's over, I will never need to visit DCUM again.
Even if I occasionally visit here again, snarky comments will never bother me again.
Darkness before the twilight.
Rant over.

No, no. You will be back. First to gloat or gloom about the results. Then to say that your kid has senioritis in HS. Then to ask what to pack for the dorm. Then to tell us that your kid or the roommate has drama/failing/depressed/addiction. Then to ask about the internships. Then to ask about how many times it is ok for your kid to come back home. Then to talk about the hookup culture. Then to ask how much money he should be given. Then this. Then that. Then you will cry about AI taking away the jobs. Then his love life. Then should you pay for his wedding. Then job. Then kids.

It is never ending. And foolish parents think that college admission is where it ends. NOPE. And if you were waiting to divorce your spouse, well, don't do it. Because you will mess up your kid.

And once they have kids...should you provide childcare? Allow them to live rent-free for some years so that they can have a chance for a future?