Anonymous wrote:Oldest was 3 years 8 months. Youngest was 3 years 2 months. I didn’t push it, and they trained in a day. Parenting is hard enough without creating your own battles. They are now both normal teenagers.

Does this mean they did not attend preschool?

Oldest was 3 years 8 months. Youngest was 3 years 2 months. I didn’t push it, and they trained in a day. Parenting is hard enough without creating your own battles. They are now both normal teenagers.

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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

Disposable diapers made waiting so long a thing. For centuries and in most parts of the world, no one is waiting until 3. This is a relatively new thing based on capitalism/waste. The better the diapers get, the longer people think it takes for their kids to be ready to use a toilet.

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Anonymous wrote:I trained both my boys before age 2. About 20-21 months.

We used o crap but your daughter might be a bit old for that method. That method is intended for 20-30 months of age. Girls are often trained at 18-24 months and many people wait later for boys.

The closer you get to age 3 the harder it gets. You want to train when they are still in the pleasing stage. 3 is notoriously hard.

3 is mostly hard if you powerstruggled earlier and failed. If you wait till 3 it’s usually a breeze.

Or you could wait til middle school and tell them you're going to take their phone away if they don't use the toilet.

Except the vast majority of kids are trained before they start school, and training at 3 has no long term impact on a kid's life. Kids who aren't trained by the time school starts usually have other issues.

I honestly feel bad for people who think potty training 6-12 months earlier than other kids is some parenting badge of honor. Seriously, who cares?

My kids went to preschool a few mornings a week when they were 2 and they had to be potty trained. I don't think I knew any moms who waited to send their kids to any sort of program until kindergarten. Do people with late trained kids opt out of preschool or just wait until later because of potty training?

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Anonymous wrote:If the child in question is a boy, they are notoriously harder to train so you shouldn't compare them to similar aged girls.

Op here - she's a girl I knew they were supposed to be easier which made this tougher. Boys in the group are trained before her. I know it is not a race but now she is the last I am worrying

Some kids have difficult personalities and that makes training harder. It's not a parenting failure and you have to try to tune out all the judgement from parents of early potty trainers. People who have multiple kids with wildly different personalities will tell you it depends more on the child than the method or parental commitment. Hang in there.

This. My DD was way harder to train than my DS. She has a super inquisitive, stubborn, analytical personality, he's easy going. These days, it's actually easier to teach her stuff because I can give her a book on the subject and just discuss it with her later. With my son, he'll just power through and needs a lot more hands on instruction and help.

All I can say is that thank god you only have to potty train them once! And then when it's over you never have to think about it again, frankly.

OP, don’t stress about it. Some kids take longer. Mine were almost 3.

2.5 for both kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

They also wind up doing a lot more work for the "trained" 18 mo old. You can train a kid that age to sit on a potty and go, and you can usually get them on a schedule. However, you are going to be lugging that training potty around for months because they will need to pee while you are at the playground, at the coffee shop, at the library (this is why you see parents and nannies whipping out those training potties everywhere now, which didn't used to be a thing). You also often have to help them more physically, helping with clothes, helping get on a big potty, etc., just because they are smaller and have more rudimentary motor skills.

I frankly don't get it. Just wait 6 months and you don't have to deal with any of this. My kid used one of those baby Bjorn training potties for like 2 weeks and then was using a regular toilet, and could get on the toilet herself and do her clothes entirely herself and wash her hands herself. Sometimes I helped with wiping for #2 but that was it.

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Anonymous wrote:If the child in question is a boy, they are notoriously harder to train so you shouldn't compare them to similar aged girls.

Op here - she's a girl I knew they were supposed to be easier which made this tougher. Boys in the group are trained before her. I know it is not a race but now she is the last I am worrying

Some kids have difficult personalities and that makes training harder. It's not a parenting failure and you have to try to tune out all the judgement from parents of early potty trainers. People who have multiple kids with wildly different personalities will tell you it depends more on the child than the method or parental commitment. Hang in there.

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Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

My 18 month old boy was super easy. It took no time at all. He was walking at 11 months so maybe that had something to do with it. None of this is an accomplishment on my part. He was just easy.

My second child- not easy at a much later age. Not easy at all.

Anonymous wrote:If the child in question is a boy, they are notoriously harder to train so you shouldn't compare them to similar aged girls.

Op here - she's a girl I knew they were supposed to be easier which made this tougher. Boys in the group are trained before her. I know it is not a race but now she is the last I am worrying

Anonymous wrote:Right when they turn 3. It will take a couple of days

I agree. People who start 18 months spend months trying to train a baby not physically ready.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have been where you are. The whole "you have to get them while they're still in the pleasing stage" freaked me out because I don't think my kid was physically ready at that age. It finally clicked right around 3 and we dealt with some poop withholding for a bit longer but eventually that worked itself out too. It wasn't anything we did, it was the kid being ready. Yours will be at some point too.

Op here - thank you, I am so excited for it to click for her. It's a real mixed message between that she will be ready and that she perhaps isn't ready and I don't know what the best answer is.

I am going to take the patient choice and wait for her to be a bit more ready, and hope that is the correct decision and we don't have resistance when she is 3

If the child in question is a boy, they are notoriously harder to train so you shouldn't compare them to similar aged girls.

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Anonymous wrote:I trained both my boys before age 2. About 20-21 months.

We used o crap but your daughter might be a bit old for that method. That method is intended for 20-30 months of age. Girls are often trained at 18-24 months and many people wait later for boys.

The closer you get to age 3 the harder it gets. You want to train when they are still in the pleasing stage. 3 is notoriously hard.

3 is mostly hard if you powerstruggled earlier and failed. If you wait till 3 it’s usually a breeze.

Or you could wait til middle school and tell them you're going to take their phone away if they don't use the toilet.

Except the vast majority of kids are trained before they start school, and training at 3 has no long term impact on a kid's life. Kids who aren't trained by the time school starts usually have other issues.

I honestly feel bad for people who think potty training 6-12 months earlier than other kids is some parenting badge of honor. Seriously, who cares?