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Anonymous wrote:OP, you remind me of my coworker. She is single and has been for many years. Every time there is a company event that involves spouses or significant others, she throws a tantrum. She boycots the event and lets everyone know how insensitive it is to invite SOs to company things. Out of 20 people in my immediate group, she is the only one who is single.

and she has told you it sucks and you keep doing it. the whole point of this thread is that it sucks to be left out and instead of understanding that you are dumping on your coworker. do these events happen often? what does she get in return? I understand that she is not being forced to participate. and I understand that adults don't need to complain all the time. But we can try to be nicer to each other.

What exactly sucks about it? That she doesn't have a boyfirend? I'm sure it does, but I simply fail to see how that's any of our problem. She gets to attend like everyone else and bring whoever she pleases. No one is being mean to her or excluding her on purpose. She chooses to be offended over something that is not offensive at all. We all very much enjoy attending this once a year event with our spouses. She can bring a best friend or not attend at all. That's what I did when I didn't have a SO and that's what other people in my company who are uncoupled do. The idea that 300 people should forgo something because one person chooses to be offended is ludicrous.

I have always not cared and thought these things were stupid so of course the fates gave me a very sensitive child who cares a lot. I agree, OP! No Twin Day!

Make every Friday - Sweats/Pajama day.

I agree with this. Twin Day is annoying. I have twins, and they don’t like it either.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you remind me of my coworker. She is single and has been for many years. Every time there is a company event that involves spouses or significant others, she throws a tantrum. She boycots the event and lets everyone know how insensitive it is to invite SOs to company things. Out of 20 people in my immediate group, she is the only one who is single.

and she has told you it sucks and you keep doing it. the whole point of this thread is that it sucks to be left out and instead of understanding that you are dumping on your coworker. do these events happen often? what does she get in return? I understand that she is not being forced to participate. and I understand that adults don't need to complain all the time. But we can try to be nicer to each other.

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Anonymous wrote:The teacher should randomly pair kids. It will be more interesting and take some actual effort for the kids to work together successfully.

OP here and I've had a teacher do this and appreciated the idea but in reality this is miserable because then you are trying to coordinate with the parent of a kid your child may barely know, and parents are not always responsive or interested in this, and meanwhile your kid is pestering you about "have you talked to Lucy's mom yet? Does Lucy have a red dress? Do we need to buy a striped shirt? Lucy said she has a striped shirt!"

This is not the hassle I kneed on a Tuesday night, you know?

"Larla, figure out if Lucy has a purple, blue or pink shirt. If you want to twin with her, you have a lot of those colors. Otherwise you can wear your Cougar Elementary school shirts."

You are making it WAY more complicated than it needs to be.

Who are all these people who have the elementary school shirt? I never once bought an elementary school shirt for my kids.
I think the votes are running at least 8-2 against twin day. Student governments take note!

They should do cape day. I feel like almost everyone has a super hero, vampire, elf, wizard or fairy cape or cloak laying around somewhere, or could borrow one from a neighbor. Or could rig one up with a big shawl. And everyone knows that wearjng a cape just gives you an awesome feeling. We should all wear capes more often.

You would be wrong. We don't have capes and I wouldn't ask for one. Certain colored shirts, yes. But beyond preschool no more capes. Probably a choking hazard too.

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Anonymous wrote:Last year the teacher sent out and email saying she was wearing her school shirt and anyone who wished could twin with her by wearing that same shirt or a shirt of the same color. I appreciated that a lot.

This is lovely.

Yes I hope other teachers read this and do the same. Great idea!

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Anonymous wrote:The teacher should randomly pair kids. It will be more interesting and take some actual effort for the kids to work together successfully.

No way. Way to take the fun out of something that already isn't that fun.

It’s school not a party. If they are going to do something stupid like twin day they might as well get something out of it. Most kids only talk to their small group of friends. Have them branch out and learn how to be comfortable working with different people.

Sure, make the unpopular kid feel even worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Spirit Week is BS PTA mom time-wasting. Shut down the whole thing ffs.

Agreed. When I worked full time it was the stuff of my nightmares and even now when I *could* run all over town trying to find compliant items, I don’t want to.

I'd love if they shut it down, but I'd be happy if they could just give us the themes a couple weeks in advance.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teacher should randomly pair kids. It will be more interesting and take some actual effort for the kids to work together successfully.

OP here and I've had a teacher do this and appreciated the idea but in reality this is miserable because then you are trying to coordinate with the parent of a kid your child may barely know, and parents are not always responsive or interested in this, and meanwhile your kid is pestering you about "have you talked to Lucy's mom yet? Does Lucy have a red dress? Do we need to buy a striped shirt? Lucy said she has a striped shirt!"

This is not the hassle I kneed on a Tuesday night, you know?

I agree with you, but come on….kneed?!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teacher should randomly pair kids. It will be more interesting and take some actual effort for the kids to work together successfully.

No way. Way to take the fun out of something that already isn't that fun.

It’s school not a party. If they are going to do something stupid like twin day they might as well get something out of it. Most kids only talk to their small group of friends. Have them branch out and learn how to be comfortable working with different people.

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP. I hated it when I was a teen, I hated it when my kids were in ES and I hate it now as a teacher. It’s only fun for the handful of friends that has a close friend and has enough clothes or money to twin with them. It’s literally designed to exclude people. Sure not everyone has cute pajamas or a wacky hat, but twin day is purposefully exclusive.

How hard can it be? Can’t they just both agree to wear black pants and a white top?

Anonymous wrote:OP, you remind me of my coworker. She is single and has been for many years. Every time there is a company event that involves spouses or significant others, she throws a tantrum. She boycots the event and lets everyone know how insensitive it is to invite SOs to company things. Out of 20 people in my immediate group, she is the only one who is single.

I wonder why she is single. Gee.

Anonymous wrote:Spirit Week is BS PTA mom time-wasting. Shut down the whole thing ffs.

Agreed. When I worked full time it was the stuff of my nightmares and even now when I *could* run all over town trying to find compliant items, I don’t want to.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The teacher should randomly pair kids. It will be more interesting and take some actual effort for the kids to work together successfully.

OP here and I've had a teacher do this and appreciated the idea but in reality this is miserable because then you are trying to coordinate with the parent of a kid your child may barely know, and parents are not always responsive or interested in this, and meanwhile your kid is pestering you about "have you talked to Lucy's mom yet? Does Lucy have a red dress? Do we need to buy a striped shirt? Lucy said she has a striped shirt!"

This is not the hassle I kneed on a Tuesday night, you know?

"Larla, figure out if Lucy has a purple, blue or pink shirt. If you want to twin with her, you have a lot of those colors. Otherwise you can wear your Cougar Elementary school shirts."

You are making it WAY more complicated than it needs to be.

Who are all these people who have the elementary school shirt? I never once bought an elementary school shirt for my kids.
I think the votes are running at least 8-2 against twin day. Student governments take note!

They should do cape day. I feel like almost everyone has a super hero, vampire, elf, wizard or fairy cape or cloak laying around somewhere, or could borrow one from a neighbor. Or could rig one up with a big shawl. And everyone knows that wearjng a cape just gives you an awesome feeling. We should all wear capes more often.