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Anonymous wrote:I agree. This is hard. They’re under so much pressure. Friend drama, school overload. I hate having to stay up and worry about what they’re doing. They’re ready for college and I am too.

+100

I can’t wait until winter break.

And here I am trying to savor every last minute with my kid at home. Who’s set realistic goals and doesn’t seem too stressed out, and is getting along just fine with her friends.

Having read this forum for years, I swear some of you relish this kind of stuff. You can’t imagine a life where pressure isn’t maximized and stakes aren’t overinflated. You consciously chose hyper competitive environments for your children and so did all of their friends’ parents. Some of you have spent thousands upon thousands to make your kid seem at least marginally more polished and worthy than their classmates. Of course they’re starting to turn on each other. Hope it was worth it.

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Anonymous wrote:Both my sons were less social Fall semester of senior year. Really only did their club sport and academics. No parties or going out. I was worried—though they had lots of friends at school (a private HS where kids live all over).

Spring semester was drastically different. There was a lightness and as the end approached they started meeting up more - and had very social summers prior to college,

It’s a lot.

It wouldn’t have been nearly as stressful had they attended a public school with kids in the neighborhood like normal people do. Y’all add to the stress yourselves then complain about it. Go figure.

Not complaining at all. Just stating facts. And most kids in our neighborhood do private for HS. My oldest still hangs out with the same crew from kindergarten who spent k-8 together, as well as his private HS friends and now a load of college friends. He’s very social.

Most kids you KNOW do private you mean. There’s virtually no neighborhood anywhere where “most” kids do private. You’re living in a bubble

Omg. What crawled up your @ss? In some wealthy neighborhoods with poor public school options—yes, almost all kids attend privates.

No, they don’t. Let’s start by you naming your neighborhood.

Whatever, freak. None of them go in-state public either. Obvs, we aren’t in your neighborhood.

Right. Which was my point from the beginning. You have voluntarily chosen to raise your children in a stress bubble. nobody feels sorry for you. It’s your own doing.

Anonymous wrote:I agree. This is hard. They’re under so much pressure. Friend drama, school overload. I hate having to stay up and worry about what they’re doing. They’re ready for college and I am too.

+100

I can’t wait until winter break.

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Anonymous wrote:Both my sons were less social Fall semester of senior year. Really only did their club sport and academics. No parties or going out. I was worried—though they had lots of friends at school (a private HS where kids live all over).

Spring semester was drastically different. There was a lightness and as the end approached they started meeting up more - and had very social summers prior to college,

It’s a lot.

It wouldn’t have been nearly as stressful had they attended a public school with kids in the neighborhood like normal people do. Y’all add to the stress yourselves then complain about it. Go figure.

Not complaining at all. Just stating facts. And most kids in our neighborhood do private for HS. My oldest still hangs out with the same crew from kindergarten who spent k-8 together, as well as his private HS friends and now a load of college friends. He’s very social.

Most kids you KNOW do private you mean. There’s virtually no neighborhood anywhere where “most” kids do private. You’re living in a bubble

Omg. What crawled up your @ss? In some wealthy neighborhoods with poor public school options—yes, almost all kids attend privates.

No, they don’t. Let’s start by you naming your neighborhood.

Whatever, freak. None of them go in-state public either. Obvs, we aren’t in your neighborhood.

I agree. This is hard. They’re under so much pressure. Friend drama, school overload. I hate having to stay up and worry about what they’re doing. They’re ready for college and I am too.

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Anonymous wrote:Both my sons were less social Fall semester of senior year. Really only did their club sport and academics. No parties or going out. I was worried—though they had lots of friends at school (a private HS where kids live all over).

Spring semester was drastically different. There was a lightness and as the end approached they started meeting up more - and had very social summers prior to college,

It’s a lot.

It wouldn’t have been nearly as stressful had they attended a public school with kids in the neighborhood like normal people do. Y’all add to the stress yourselves then complain about it. Go figure.

Not complaining at all. Just stating facts. And most kids in our neighborhood do private for HS. My oldest still hangs out with the same crew from kindergarten who spent k-8 together, as well as his private HS friends and now a load of college friends. He’s very social.

Most kids you KNOW do private you mean. There’s virtually no neighborhood anywhere where “most” kids do private. You’re living in a bubble

Omg. What crawled up your @ss? In some wealthy neighborhoods with poor public school options—yes, almost all kids attend privates.

No, they don’t. Let’s start by you naming your neighborhood.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with all the friend groups imploding? My senior, who has always been a major homebody, seems to be branching out and hanging out with different people and making an effort to get out. I think the realization that high school is almost over is spurring her to action. It’s been nice to see.

As a parent who has been through this my experience is that the college process has a lot to do with it. All of the sudden they start to realize they are competing with each other and/or have different prospects. It can get worse as decisions start to come . . . it is hard

As a parent who’s doing a shitty job or a kid who has bad friends you mean. Our kids never felt in competition with their friends and none of them ever cared if their own prospects were better or worse than their friends either. The college admissions process literally had ZERO impact on the friendships of a single one of our kids.

^ which is a good thing IMO. Nothing is sadder than the former HS quarterback BMOC or the homecoming queen that fizzles out and irrelevant in her big college class.

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Anonymous wrote:My senior’s friend group is also imploding and had no one to hang with last night.

I’m sorry. My kid’s friend group is hanging on by a thread. I think this is common in senior year.

It’s a way of preparing for college, just like some kids start to become snotty at home. The term is “soiling the nest.” Some kids do it as they transition from HS to college.

Personally. I see it the most with the kids who won’t peak in high school. It won’t be their “glory days.” They are very over HS by now.

Anonymous wrote:It’s awful. First of three… had no idea how stressful first semester of senior year would be even with prep over the summer. DC also had friend drama for the first time in high school. Got one app out last night and submitting another one in the next couple hours.

+1 hang in there. I so under estimated with Mr firstborn and was shocked at all of the supplemental essays.

With the second kid, I knew. We were on top of it and he had it all turned in a few weeks ago.

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Anonymous wrote:My senior’s friend group is also imploding and had no one to hang with last night.

SAME. So ready to move on.

This seems more common than I expected!

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Anonymous wrote:Both my sons were less social Fall semester of senior year. Really only did their club sport and academics. No parties or going out. I was worried—though they had lots of friends at school (a private HS where kids live all over).

Spring semester was drastically different. There was a lightness and as the end approached they started meeting up more - and had very social summers prior to college,

It’s a lot.

It wouldn’t have been nearly as stressful had they attended a public school with kids in the neighborhood like normal people do. Y’all add to the stress yourselves then complain about it. Go figure.

Not complaining at all. Just stating facts. And most kids in our neighborhood do private for HS. My oldest still hangs out with the same crew from kindergarten who spent k-8 together, as well as his private HS friends and now a load of college friends. He’s very social.

Most kids you KNOW do private you mean. There’s virtually no neighborhood anywhere where “most” kids do private. You’re living in a bubble

Omg. What crawled up your @ss? In some wealthy neighborhoods with poor public school options—yes, almost all kids attend privates.

Anonymous wrote:How are all your seniors enjoying Halloween parties? My senior was home working on his ED application essays. He has gone through about 30 revisions with lots of input from various family members. I think the application will be ready by this evening hopefully. He is usually very chill but this has been a very stressful week. His friends seem busy too. So no real friend drama.

Mine and most of her friends started their application when the Common App opened. By the end of September they were all done and most had been submitted by mid October.

There comes a point where editing does not add value.

It’s awful. First of three… had no idea how stressful first semester of senior year would be even with prep over the summer. DC also had friend drama for the first time in high school. Got one app out last night and submitting another one in the next couple hours.

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Anonymous wrote:What are you even talking about? Halloweekend? They’ve known about this deadline for a while now.

There were several massive parties last night that mirrored college Halloween ones. More tonight. It seems silly to wait up for them to get home but i feel compelled to do it. I share ops sentiment. The kids are ready.

ditto, im tired, this is the first out of three, my nerves are shot for mothering,

+1 not able to go to sleep until DC is home. I just stay up and keep my phone ringer on