Anonymous
10/30/2025 11:00
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
DP. OP never said her coworker isn’t using her PTO for all of this.
They never said they were taking PTO. And if they were this would be a short term situation since she doesn't have indefinite PTO.
OP is getting screwed. I just wouldn't touch anything that comes in that would normally be hers. No way my work load increases to accomodate her out of office life.
She said her co-worker is "taking days off." Unless she's going AWOL, she is taking PTO, or leave without pay, either of which would be approved.
She's being judgmental because she didn't have the same scheduling struggles that her co-worker does when her kids were young (because she was privileged enough to not need to work). If the co-worker was getting this time off approved for reasons OP deemed "worthy," she wouldn't be resentful.
OP, I sympathize with your situation if your workload is being burdened by a co-worker being on leave. But you should direct your focus to management, as many others have articulated.
Any time someone brings up 'privilege' you know they have lost the argument.
Which part of this comment was incorrect? I'll wait.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:59
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Two problems:
1. Coworker's regular work schedule is 6:30am to 3:00pm (not taking PTO) while the regular work schudule ends at 5pm and someone has to cover 3-5 for coworker. In this case, it is OP need to cover her 3pm to 5pm.
2. Coworker takes many full-day PTOs, levaing OP to cover for her on those full days.
#1 is a problem and the coworker is taking advantage of colleagues (happens to be OP right now).
#2 is not a problem because coworer is entitled for her earned PTO as long as supervisor approves it. If OP can't cover her due to work load, OP should let management know.
Co-worker's regular schedule was approved by the company. OP can be mad at the company about it. Co-worker is not the problem.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:52
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
According to OP, she is. Stop trying to make up your own narrative.
She's not. She got a new schedule
Getting a new schedule isn't special consideration. She asked, it was approved. The other times are using her own PTO.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:49
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Two problems:
1. Coworker's regular work schedule is 6:30am to 3:00pm (not taking PTO) while the regular work schudule ends at 5pm and someone has to cover 3-5 for coworker. In this case, it is OP need to cover her 3pm to 5pm.
2. Coworker takes many full-day PTOs, levaing OP to cover for her on those full days.
#1 is a problem and the coworker is taking advantage of colleagues (happens to be OP right now).
#2 is not a problem because coworer is entitled for her earned PTO as long as supervisor approves it. If OP can't cover her due to work load, OP should let management know.
1. Coworker's regular work schedule is 6:30am to 3:00pm (not taking PTO) while the regular work schudule ends at 5pm and someone has to cover 3-5 for coworker. In this case, it is OP need to cover her 3pm to 5pm.
2. Coworker takes many full-day PTOs, levaing OP to cover for her on those full days.
#1 is a problem and the coworker is taking advantage of colleagues (happens to be OP right now).
#2 is not a problem because coworer is entitled for her earned PTO as long as supervisor approves it. If OP can't cover her due to work load, OP should let management know.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:47
Subject: Coworker PTO
Pto is requested not just taken where I work. But this is a manager problem. They don't care as items are getting done. Every time you have your duties/tasking increased for the day, email your manager and tell/ask them what of your own tasks are getting pushed back as you are covering items for your coworker.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:44
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
According to OP, she is. Stop trying to make up your own narrative.
She's not. She got a new schedule
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:43
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
DP. OP never said her coworker isn’t using her PTO for all of this.
They never said they were taking PTO. And if they were this would be a short term situation since she doesn't have indefinite PTO.
OP is getting screwed. I just wouldn't touch anything that comes in that would normally be hers. No way my work load increases to accomodate her out of office life.
She said her co-worker is "taking days off." Unless she's going AWOL, she is taking PTO, or leave without pay, either of which would be approved.
She's being judgmental because she didn't have the same scheduling struggles that her co-worker does when her kids were young (because she was privileged enough to not need to work). If the co-worker was getting this time off approved for reasons OP deemed "worthy," she wouldn't be resentful.
OP, I sympathize with your situation if your workload is being burdened by a co-worker being on leave. But you should direct your focus to management, as many others have articulated.
Any time someone brings up 'privilege' you know they have lost the argument.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:36
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
According to OP, she is. Stop trying to make up your own narrative.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:18
Subject: Coworker PTO
Why doesn’t she have to do any of your work when you’re out?
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:15
Subject: Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Why must you cover for your coworker when she doesn’t cover for you when you take PTO?
Clearly the coworker was smart enough to speak up and get her needs met. Nothing stops OP from using her words with management.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:10
Subject: Coworker PTO
Why must you cover for your coworker when she doesn’t cover for you when you take PTO?
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:08
Subject: Coworker PTO
The title of this thread is “Coworker PTO” so yes the coworker is taking PTO. My question is, who covers for OP when OP takes PTO?
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:07
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
DP. OP never said her coworker isn’t using her PTO for all of this.
They never said they were taking PTO. And if they were this would be a short term situation since she doesn't have indefinite PTO.
OP is getting screwed. I just wouldn't touch anything that comes in that would normally be hers. No way my work load increases to accomodate her out of office life.
This statement from OP is confusing: "When she's out I have to cover for her due to the deadlines in her duties, however, she does NOT cover for me if I'm out which normally is for Vacation time."
So, what happens when OP is on vacation? Do things not get done? Is there another person picking those duties up? There is a big hole in OP's story.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 10:06
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
DP. OP never said her coworker isn’t using her PTO for all of this.
They never said they were taking PTO. And if they were this would be a short term situation since she doesn't have indefinite PTO.
OP is getting screwed. I just wouldn't touch anything that comes in that would normally be hers. No way my work load increases to accomodate her out of office life.
She said her co-worker is "taking days off." Unless she's going AWOL, she is taking PTO, or leave without pay, either of which would be approved.
She's being judgmental because she didn't have the same scheduling struggles that her co-worker does when her kids were young (because she was privileged enough to not need to work). If the co-worker was getting this time off approved for reasons OP deemed "worthy," she wouldn't be resentful.
OP, I sympathize with your situation if your workload is being burdened by a co-worker being on leave. But you should direct your focus to management, as many others have articulated.
Anonymous
10/30/2025 09:56
Subject: Re:Coworker PTO
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If she is using her leave, you just need to get over it. If it's affecting her performance, then you need to talk to her boss.
No. Not really.
OP's coworker is enjoying special consideration while OP covers. That's BS.
If your manager doesn't say anything, it means he/she is just hiding from it and hoping it doesn't get called out or 100% clueless. Neither s a solution or OK.
Running any size department, solo, for a third of a day, everyday, will absolutely place additional burden on OP. You're gonna tell me you've never been in a room where a manager walks in and assgns new crap? Guess who catches those new 'things' when the colleague is home playing with their kid? I've caught files that take 25 hours to close just because one morning I was puttng my lunch in the fridge at the same time my manager was.
Lunatic thought it was friendly banter. Now I just avoid him as best I can.
Taking your own PTO =/= special consideration
Hope that helps.
But, WEE TODD, they aren't takng PTO.
Hope that helps!
DP. OP never said her coworker isn’t using her PTO for all of this.
They never said they were taking PTO. And if they were this would be a short term situation since she doesn't have indefinite PTO.
OP is getting screwed. I just wouldn't touch anything that comes in that would normally be hers. No way my work load increases to accomodate her out of office life.