Anonymous wrote:I teach 1st grade and I’ve encountered a problem I have never had before.

Child likes to “tattle” for everything. Obviously this is normal so we give them the tools to handle small problems on their own. Just today she reported that larlo was touching her chrombook. She let me know that she asked me to stop, and he did in fact stop. She insists on still telling me anyway. Unfortunately mom now is reporting on these little “tattles” to me. After school and email came about different student touched her backpack. Mom acknowledges that none of these things are a major concern and just normal kid stuff but she has promised her DD that she will always tell me anything she feels like needs to be shared with me. I get multiple emails a week about kids tapping pencils, chasing her on the playground, and even one email that said “larla said larlo called her a mean name but she cannot remember what it was.”

Ive talked to mom about helping her handle these problems on her own, and she said she really appreciates that but she wants to always give larla “the benefit of the doubt.”

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Anonymous wrote:My child used to report to teachers or staffs on duty if he felt that he got bullied verbally or physically between k and 2nd grade. They caught some kids on school surveillance camera after the report, and he was right that some kids cut his line or pushed him. He was taught by us and teachers that he was right to report. He has anxiety, autism and adhd, and he tries his best to understand & defend and protect himself from others trying to belittle him or bully him or accuse him. He cried a lot at kindergarten & 1st grade school year because he did not understand why some kids are so mean to him. He has no real friends at school, but he actually is a sweet boy who is a bit social awkward. Things have been getting better and he has some random friends to play with now. And, he rarely report anything to teachers or staff now because he is more matured and he knows how to handle more different types of situations at school.

I just want to say that I would rather teachers not to yell at kids that report everything and try to be understanding . For my son, he was really insecure and sensitive, but he tried to be a well behaved student.

Did you ever think about the effects on the other kids? What if it was your sweet boy getting tattled on incessantly? Other kids have their own issues, not just yours.

How much someone is “tattled” on is completely irrelevant if the teacher tells the tattler thank you and moves on. It’s only a problem if you kid is doing things naughty enough that warrant consequences. Otherwise, who cares? She can tell on him for tapping his pencil every day- nothing will happen and he likely won’t even know since the teacher will just ignore the complaint.

No. You can’t demand kindness to the tattler while not giving any to the offender. The teachers more often than not do get involved and separate the kids to get each side and punishments ensue. See pps example about checking video for cutting in line- what the hell? The other kid may also be working on social skills and the constant setbacks and negative feedback suck too. Don’t reinforce this crap at home by telling your kids every inconvenience is bullying.

What are you talking about? I think you got lost..

I really don’t think anything in here needs a teacher intervention at all. The tattling can be ignored by the teacher, and the things being tattled seem insignificant enough that nothing needs to be done. There is nothing to see or do here.