Anonymous
10/18/2025 06:28
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Do you not… converse with your wife?
Im sincerely struggling with the idea that you can’t have a conversation with the other adult in your home. If your wife is dumb, how do you enjoy the time you spend with her? It can’t all be sex and arm-candy occasions.
A lot of men marry hot women in their 20-30s (photographers, event organizers, nurses, yoga instructors, waitresses) and after 20 years of marriage realize the arm candy wives are no longer hot and they have nothing in common. In fact, most divorced men with 7 figures income are from this cohort and they all complained at dare at dysfunctional deadweight ex wives.
I've dated women with great careers (World Bank, NSA, DOJ) and they talk about the same Netflix slop and Instagram reels as the event organizers and nurses.
Anonymous
10/18/2025 02:37
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Do you not… converse with your wife?
Im sincerely struggling with the idea that you can’t have a conversation with the other adult in your home. If your wife is dumb, how do you enjoy the time you spend with her? It can’t all be sex and arm-candy occasions.
A lot of men marry hot women in their 20-30s (photographers, event organizers, nurses, yoga instructors, waitresses) and after 20 years of marriage realize the arm candy wives are no longer hot and they have nothing in common. In fact, most divorced men with 7 figures income are from this cohort and they all complained at dare at dysfunctional deadweight ex wives.
I married a hot woman - like bikini-hero hot. We’re in our 50’s now and I wouldn’t trade her for anything. This is totally cliche to say but she’s my dearest friend snd we do everything together.
That's nice, lots of us were/ still are hot. But I'm talking specifically to the person who doesn't care if his wife is dumb. I don't know how to talk to dumb people. And I don't know how to have a relationship with someone I can't talk to.
This is a PSA that having a degree isn't the aggregate qualifier for intelligence and neither is it relevant to men's general desires in a partner. A starbucks barista whose an amazing conversationalist, emotionally available, lovely personality, maternal, feminine, graceful, with only a high school diploma would shine far above your average alumna due to her having the traits that make her appealing to a man's energy. That doesn't mean your education is useless. It's just not relevant to our desires in a partner. We don't look for the same things.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 10:40
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Do you not… converse with your wife?
Im sincerely struggling with the idea that you can’t have a conversation with the other adult in your home. If your wife is dumb, how do you enjoy the time you spend with her? It can’t all be sex and arm-candy occasions.
A lot of men marry hot women in their 20-30s (photographers, event organizers, nurses, yoga instructors, waitresses) and after 20 years of marriage realize the arm candy wives are no longer hot and they have nothing in common. In fact, most divorced men with 7 figures income are from this cohort and they all complained at dare at dysfunctional deadweight ex wives.
I married a hot woman - like bikini-hero hot. We’re in our 50’s now and I wouldn’t trade her for anything. This is totally cliche to say but she’s my dearest friend snd we do everything together.
That's nice, lots of us were/ still are hot. But I'm talking specifically to the person who doesn't care if his wife is dumb. I don't know how to talk to dumb people. And I don't know how to have a relationship with someone I can't talk to.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 10:33
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
I’m 6’ 2’ , so height not a concern.. but it something that cannot be controlled.
Obesity can be — and getting older is not an excuse. Use that as a “ cut list” item over height.
Obesity can be — and getting older is not an excuse. Use that as a “ cut list” item over height.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 10:30
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Do you not… converse with your wife?
Im sincerely struggling with the idea that you can’t have a conversation with the other adult in your home. If your wife is dumb, how do you enjoy the time you spend with her? It can’t all be sex and arm-candy occasions.
A lot of men marry hot women in their 20-30s (photographers, event organizers, nurses, yoga instructors, waitresses) and after 20 years of marriage realize the arm candy wives are no longer hot and they have nothing in common. In fact, most divorced men with 7 figures income are from this cohort and they all complained at dare at dysfunctional deadweight ex wives.
I married a hot woman - like bikini-hero hot. We’re in our 50’s now and I wouldn’t trade her for anything. This is totally cliche to say but she’s my dearest friend snd we do everything together.
Good for you but statistically and practically the longest marriages are between people of similar age education and values. Maybe you have matches values.
Are your kids self supporting in professional jobs ?
Anonymous
10/17/2025 10:27
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Do you not… converse with your wife?
Im sincerely struggling with the idea that you can’t have a conversation with the other adult in your home. If your wife is dumb, how do you enjoy the time you spend with her? It can’t all be sex and arm-candy occasions.
A lot of men marry hot women in their 20-30s (photographers, event organizers, nurses, yoga instructors, waitresses) and after 20 years of marriage realize the arm candy wives are no longer hot and they have nothing in common. In fact, most divorced men with 7 figures income are from this cohort and they all complained at dare at dysfunctional deadweight ex wives.
I married a hot woman - like bikini-hero hot. We’re in our 50’s now and I wouldn’t trade her for anything. This is totally cliche to say but she’s my dearest friend snd we do everything together.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 10:22
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
So you're okay with having kids who are stupider than you?
NP and I think a lot of men prefer this. My exDH and I both have the same post grad degrees. He hated balancing his career with mine and was thrilled when he had a chance to take an expat job and work permit issues forced me to be a SAHM. If I hadn’t pushed back over time, I’d probably be married still. I found out the hard way that he liked the idea of equal educational attainment on paper but not in practice within a relationship.
If our kids ended up underemployed and supported by exDH, it won’t be because of my lack of education or standards, but rather because exDH is filthy rich and was super lazy about his part of parenting and would probably encourage them to live a lazy lifestyle if I didn’t intervene.
Also he is 5’7” and makes 7 figures. I would never date short again, but I would date 55k. I did my time with a guy with the short man syndrome chip on his shoulder and I won’t do that again.
Also things are proportional. Just no.
Things are proportional? Meaning he’s small?
Anonymous
10/17/2025 10:18
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Do you not… converse with your wife?
Im sincerely struggling with the idea that you can’t have a conversation with the other adult in your home. If your wife is dumb, how do you enjoy the time you spend with her? It can’t all be sex and arm-candy occasions.
A lot of men marry hot women in their 20-30s (photographers, event organizers, nurses, yoga instructors, waitresses) and after 20 years of marriage realize the arm candy wives are no longer hot and they have nothing in common. In fact, most divorced men with 7 figures income are from this cohort and they all complained at dare at dysfunctional deadweight ex wives.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 10:09
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Do you not… converse with your wife?
Im sincerely struggling with the idea that you can’t have a conversation with the other adult in your home. If your wife is dumb, how do you enjoy the time you spend with her? It can’t all be sex and arm-candy occasions.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 02:01
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Are you Boomer/older Gen X? I agree this attitude is common among older men. But I work with a lot of 20s/30s men, and they all want women with education and careers. Some will stick it out with a hot woman for a couple years, but eventually break up once they’re ready to settle down.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 00:55
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
So you're okay with having kids who are stupider than you?
NP and I think a lot of men prefer this. My exDH and I both have the same post grad degrees. He hated balancing his career with mine and was thrilled when he had a chance to take an expat job and work permit issues forced me to be a SAHM. If I hadn’t pushed back over time, I’d probably be married still. I found out the hard way that he liked the idea of equal educational attainment on paper but not in practice within a relationship.
If our kids ended up underemployed and supported by exDH, it won’t be because of my lack of education or standards, but rather because exDH is filthy rich and was super lazy about his part of parenting and would probably encourage them to live a lazy lifestyle if I didn’t intervene.
Also he is 5’7” and makes 7 figures. I would never date short again, but I would date 55k. I did my time with a guy with the short man syndrome chip on his shoulder and I won’t do that again.
Also things are proportional. Just no.
Anonymous
10/17/2025 00:48
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
So you're okay with having kids who are stupider than you?
Anonymous
10/17/2025 00:10
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
This is why American kids are so bad in standardized testing. When dating in my 40s I met at lot of very successful men (with grad degrees, PhDs etc) who had SAHM ex-wives. Their kids couldn't even finish college: were working as ski instructors, in guitar shops etc in their late 20s making close to nothing. The wealthy dads continued supporting them financially.
The culture of trad wives is terrible for raising functional kids. In Europe, the mother's education is fundamental for future off-spring quality of ilfe
Anonymous
10/16/2025 14:34
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.
I did, and still do. A lot of my friends do, too. You're just regurgitating a familiar 3rd wave talking point.
I literally could not give two fcks about my wife's educational attainment, once past a basic threshold of functionality. Balance a checkbook, read bedtime stories.
Anonymous
10/16/2025 14:29
Subject: Good men are married; single men are broke
Anonymous wrote:It’s not that complicated.
If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.
The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.
And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.
Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.
Agreed. Like marries like.
Also, men want a smart woman to be the mother to their kids. Mother’s educational attainment is more directly correlated with future children’s educational attainment than with the fathers. No one wants a hot dumb woman to become a sahm.