Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know that very well. Every team usually has a bit of a “chihuahua syndrome” — it’s that one small, feisty kid, either playing up a year or just really tiny, who’s always barking and bossing everyone around because she’s insecure about her size. She bounces all over the field, blames everyone else, and never takes responsibility herself. And the worst part? Her parents are even worse — they think their kid is the best, which is exactly why she’s playing up in the first place.

I’ve seen a girl like that before — clearly talented and making plays. Sometimes when a younger or smaller player stands out, others might feel a bit threatened. She’s overcoming her size and still making things happen on the field while some of her teammates are stuck on the bench, and that can stir up mixed feelings.

You are so obviously talking about your own annoying kid, lol.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know that very well. Every team usually has a bit of a “chihuahua syndrome” — it’s that one small, feisty kid, either playing up a year or just really tiny, who’s always barking and bossing everyone around because she’s insecure about her size. She bounces all over the field, blames everyone else, and never takes responsibility herself. And the worst part? Her parents are even worse — they think their kid is the best, which is exactly why she’s playing up in the first place.

I’ve seen a girl like that before — clearly talented and making plays. Sometimes when a younger or smaller player stands out, others might feel a bit threatened. She’s overcoming her size and still making things happen on the field while some of her teammates are stuck on the bench, and that can stir up mixed feelings.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 or 3 girls out of what 18??? Get the other girls to hang up or all start yelling back or defending the target of the mean girl. They can't compete with 15+ girls calling out bad behavior. Also.. this is a good test for your daughter. If the other 15 + don't feel the same way then it's your daughter that's the problem.

Yeah, because middle school girls are totally known for taking a stand and showing profiles in courage

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:2 or 3 girls out of what 18??? Get the other girls to hang up or all start yelling back or defending the target of the mean girl. They can't compete with 15+ girls calling out bad behavior. Also.. this is a good test for your daughter. If the other 15 + don't feel the same way then it's your daughter that's the problem.

Yeah, because middle school girls are totally known for taking a stand and showing profiles in courage

Anonymous wrote:2 or 3 girls out of what 18??? Get the other girls to hang up or all start yelling back or defending the target of the mean girl. They can't compete with 15+ girls calling out bad behavior. Also.. this is a good test for your daughter. If the other 15 + don't feel the same way then it's your daughter that's the problem.

Anonymous wrote:2 or 3 girls out of what 18??? Get the other girls to hang up or all start yelling back or defending the target of the mean girl. They can't compete with 15+ girls calling out bad behavior. Also.. this is a good test for your daughter. If the other 15 + don't feel the same way then it's your daughter that's the problem.

Anonymous wrote:When these kids get no notice from college coaches they will stop. Colleges (D1) hate these types. Out mean girl never played in college in spite of the coach promoting her hard.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know that very well. Every team usually has a bit of a “chihuahua syndrome” — it’s that one small, feisty kid, either playing up a year or just really tiny, who’s always barking and bossing everyone around because she’s insecure about her size. She bounces all over the field, blames everyone else, and never takes responsibility herself. And the worst part? Her parents are even worse — they think their kid is the best, which is exactly why she’s playing up in the first place.

I’ve seen a girl like that before — clearly talented and making plays. Sometimes when a younger or smaller player stands out, others might feel a bit threatened. She’s overcoming her size and still making things happen on the field while some of her teammates are stuck on the bench, and that can stir up mixed feelings.

Anonymous wrote:I know that very well. Every team usually has a bit of a “chihuahua syndrome” — it’s that one small, feisty kid, either playing up a year or just really tiny, who’s always barking and bossing everyone around because she’s insecure about her size. She bounces all over the field, blames everyone else, and never takes responsibility herself. And the worst part? Her parents are even worse — they think their kid is the best, which is exactly why she’s playing up in the first place.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I would bring it up to the coach. Bullying is a Safesport violation and it is reportable.

There might not be anything too it, but the coach should try to foster an atmosphere of mutual respect on the team.

Talk to your coach, tell him your DD is considering quitting the team. I am sure the club leadership would be concerned if they knew the reason was bullying.

Send your coach this link to a handbook to help prevent bullying:
https://eptoolkit.uscenterforsafesport.org/prevent-bullying/?_gl=1*ixxa3u*_gcl_au*OTQ4MjA3MDgzLjE3NjAwMzEwNjg.*_ga*NDUxNjQ1MTQ4LjE3NjAwMzEwNjg.*_ga_MBN6TFWKW0*czE3NjAwMzEwNjckbzEkZzAkdDE3NjAwMzEwNzckajUwJGwwJGgw&_ga=2.104619267.2055339808.1760031068-451645148.1760031068

If nothing works, you can report it here:
https://safesport.i-sight.com/portal
1-877-587-7233

Not OP but if the mean girls are the coach’s kid, the coach’s nieces, or the coach’s kid's bff what are we going to do?

Learn how to help your DD actually become a better soccer player—so the ones out there giving it their all don’t keep getting frustrated week after week by teammates who just… aren’t.

These are kids, yes—but they still need guidance. Some are naturally competitive and take their sport seriously. They expect the same effort and focus from the players beside them. And honestly? Some kids just aren’t built for that level of competition—and that’s okay! Maybe a softer sport, or a solo one, would suit better.

Otherwise, help your DD close the gap. Watch film together. Catch matches on TV. Get extra touches in outside of team practice. Confidence builds competitiveness.

When everyone’s dialed in—mentally and physically—the whole team thrives. It’s that simple.

ChatGPT strikes again… with facts.

The player can become better when there is a better environment--either they leave or that group of bullies/ignoramuses leaves. A lot of times the talkers/yellers actually are saying the wrong stuff and have a much lower soccer IQ than the silent leaders who don't have the same personality but have better touch and better soccer IQ. This happened to DD -- not specifically bullied but ignorant talk from the loudest players on the team, one of whose parents was constantly saying "be a leader" to her loud DD. Being a leader doesn't mean talking the loudest especially when your kid doesn't know what she's talking about and has the first touch of a brick. An specific example is this loud player incorrectly vacated her space and the person she was marking to get involved in a play where team already had an overload/numerical advantage of players, so DD had to cover two players at once, and when the other team of course slid it through to the player that was suddenly unmarked and DD tried to intervene the ball went to the open player who scored, the loud player and her mom-coach were yelling at DD about why did she leave that person open yadda yadda yadda. When that player and several other probelm players/parents left DD was happy again and that positively impacted her play.

Anonymous wrote:I know that very well. Every team usually has a bit of a “chihuahua syndrome” — it’s that one small, feisty kid, either playing up a year or just really tiny, who’s always barking and bossing everyone around because she’s insecure about her size. She bounces all over the field, blames everyone else, and never takes responsibility herself. And the worst part? Her parents are even worse — they think their kid is the best, which is exactly why she’s playing up in the first place.