When my kids were young, I loved having normal conversations about other things. It’s crazy to let your kids consume all your time. Kids don’t need to be the centre of your universe all the time. Even toddlers can keep themselves busy and play with stuff on their own for 15-20 minutes while you are of course keeping a close eye on them

If you want one on one time with her, schedule a time to go out just the two of you. She's going to be distracted around her toddler and then tired after putting the kid to bed. Why not talk to her spouse and make sure he can take the kid so you can do an outing?

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Anonymous wrote:You should be on team sister now! Help her out with the kid, be more.interested in your niece..Dont expect the sister to.baby you now.please! I am sure she is just exhausted and she needs support...change your dynamic with her for a few months...you too should grow.into the role of an aunt and not always be expected to be the entertained sister.

The sister has had a kid for two years! Op is just asking for the sister part of the relationship back, and that’s totally fine. I am a mom and I would never want my siblings to think I was incapable of supporting them just because I have kids. That would be crazy. I still care about how my siblings are doing in life.

That's because you're a normal and healthy person and most DCUM posters are not. Ironically these same people will write threads bewildered as to why they and their siblings are no longer close

Anonymous wrote:Her first priority is her child now, and by supporting that you will have that relationship with her. As time goes on, she will seek out your company for adult conversation more.

This. Her attention will be on her little kid. As the kid grows, she’ll start getting more time and more focus. But especially with a toddler, this is as much attention as you’ll get from her.

Anonymous wrote:You should be on team sister now! Help her out with the kid, be more.interested in your niece..Dont expect the sister to.baby you now.please! I am sure she is just exhausted and she needs support...change your dynamic with her for a few months...you too should grow.into the role of an aunt and not always be expected to be the entertained sister.

The sister has had a kid for two years! Op is just asking for the sister part of the relationship back, and that’s totally fine. I am a mom and I would never want my siblings to think I was incapable of supporting them just because I have kids. That would be crazy. I still care about how my siblings are doing in life.

Anonymous wrote:You should be on team sister now! Help her out with the kid, be more.interested in your niece..Dont expect the sister to.baby you now.please! I am sure she is just exhausted and she needs support...change your dynamic with her for a few months...you too should grow.into the role of an aunt and not always be expected to be the entertained sister.

This is clearly not op's natural tendencies, nor does it have to be. I read it and found it unusual a sister isnt going just as wild for the toddler and pitching all in but not all families are alike. There are many drawbacks on both ends but people should be true to themselves and its a loss for both sisters but maybe the dynamic has hidden benefits to both women, I dont think it should be judged negatively.

You should be on team sister now! Help her out with the kid, be more.interested in your niece..Dont expect the sister to.baby you now.please! I am sure she is just exhausted and she needs support...change your dynamic with her for a few months...you too should grow.into the role of an aunt and not always be expected to be the entertained sister.