Anonymous wrote:What's the female equivalent of ED?

Needing foreplay or lube given the definiton of ED here is that his penis must be immediately at full performace without any assistance.

Anonymous wrote:I’m dating a man who is 30 and has ED. He can get it up, but needs to “stick it in” immediately or it’s gone.

He’s asked me to work with him on this, but a lifetime of sex with no foreplay, just shoving it in, sounds horrible to me.

I’ve asked him about seeing a doctor, therapist, etc and he doesn’t think it will help.

Any men have this issue? Were you able to fix it?

You asked him to seek help and he refused. Apparently he cares more about his embarrassment over the issue than your discomfort with sex with little to no foreplay.

I was going to write that you can't fix this, but I realized you can. Dump him. If he cares that little about your feelings and physical discomfort the he won't even consider going to a doctor? Dump the MF already.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the female equivalent of ED?

“Being married” 😂

TRUTH!

Another relationship ruined by porn. He’s feeling himself up too much and with ultra stimulating images so he has nothing left for real women.

Anonymous wrote:What's the female equivalent of ED?

“Being married” 😂

What's the female equivalent of ED?

Bottom line is that you’re unhappy and there’s an issue. It doesn’t matter if it’s ED, a porn addiction or emotional trauma. It’s not your job to stick around and find out. You are 30 years old and you don’t have as much as time you think to find a partner, get married and start a family. You need to cut him off and move on as quickly as possible before he wastes more of your time. There are thousands of men that do not have this problem.

Every guy needs some kind of visual, mental, or physical stimulation to get aroused and achieve an erection. Some guys are into skinny girls, while others prefer curvier ones. If a guy isn't attracted to heavier girls, he might struggle to get an erection with them. That's totally normal. It doesn't mean he has ED.

Porn addiction can only alter the types and kinds of stimulation that make you feel aroused and help you maintain an erection. It doesn't take away your ability to get and maintain an erection. In fact, these guys will perform just fine with women who provide them with that porn-like experience. That's their new normal.

On the other hand, men dealing with true ED find it hard to get an erection even when they're stimulated by what they actually like.

If he is 30 and can’t keep it hard with you, you simply aren’t the type of woman he is sexually attracted to. If he is into porn, he needs a woman who will give him the porn experience. There are plenty of women out there who would do that. You aren’t just one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a red flag because it’s a clear sign that he is not sexually attracted to you.
This has nothing to do with ED. If fact, there is no such thing as ED at 30.
Porn and Masturbation don’t cause ED.
They can lead men to become more interested in porn stars, porn sex and some types of sexual practices. They will have a harder time being aroused by “normal sex”.

Why is that not ED? Because these men don’t have any problems having erections and maintaining them for hours when they watch porn or masturbate. Same when they have sex with the type of women they fantasize about in porn.

You are not his sexual type.

Yes porn addiction and chronic masturbation can cause an inability to perform.

False. It cannot.

Exactly - cu..g more often would result in the opposite - faster regeneration and better erecting. OPs BF has some sort of a childhood trauma or depression.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a red flag because it’s a clear sign that he is not sexually attracted to you.
This has nothing to do with ED. If fact, there is no such thing as ED at 30.
Porn and Masturbation don’t cause ED.
They can lead men to become more interested in porn stars, porn sex and some types of sexual practices. They will have a harder time being aroused by “normal sex”.

Why is that not ED? Because these men don’t have any problems having erections and maintaining them for hours when they watch porn or masturbate. Same when they have sex with the type of women they fantasize about in porn.

You are not his sexual type.

Yes porn addiction and chronic masturbation can cause an inability to perform.

False. It cannot.

Exactly - cu..g more often would result in the opposite - faster regeneration and better erecting. OPs BF has some sort of a childhood trauma or depression.

Agree. The question is whether he is aware of this and is seeking treatment.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a red flag because it’s a clear sign that he is not sexually attracted to you.
This has nothing to do with ED. If fact, there is no such thing as ED at 30.
Porn and Masturbation don’t cause ED.
They can lead men to become more interested in porn stars, porn sex and some types of sexual practices. They will have a harder time being aroused by “normal sex”.

Why is that not ED? Because these men don’t have any problems having erections and maintaining them for hours when they watch porn or masturbate. Same when they have sex with the type of women they fantasize about in porn.

You are not his sexual type.

Yes porn addiction and chronic masturbation can cause an inability to perform.

False. It cannot.

Exactly - cu..g more often would result in the opposite - faster regeneration and better erecting. OPs BF has some sort of a childhood trauma or depression.

SSRI can cause it - even with 18 yo

Anonymous wrote:My ex DH was like this when we first got together. Big red flag. It was most likely due to sensory issues due to being on the spectrum (later diagnosed after marriage), pornography use, and a focus on, erm, solo activities that made it difficult for him to perform when with others. The more they swear that pornography is not the problem, the more likely it is the problem.

+1, but he was okay when we married

The problems started later, but were the same as the above.

Everyone is reaching for p0rn addiction and masturbation as if those are new problems. Those have existed for many decades. Should not be an issue for a healthy young guy.

A guy who is 30 or under, who is otherwise healthy, who has ED most likely has a metabolic problem or psychological trauma resulting from childhood abuse of some kind.

From the point of view of OP, she may or may not want to help him get past that. But he has to acknowledge that he has it, and take steps to heal it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a red flag because it’s a clear sign that he is not sexually attracted to you.
This has nothing to do with ED. If fact, there is no such thing as ED at 30.
Porn and Masturbation don’t cause ED.
They can lead men to become more interested in porn stars, porn sex and some types of sexual practices. They will have a harder time being aroused by “normal sex”.

Why is that not ED? Because these men don’t have any problems having erections and maintaining them for hours when they watch porn or masturbate. Same when they have sex with the type of women they fantasize about in porn.

You are not his sexual type.

Yes porn addiction and chronic masturbation can cause an inability to perform.

False. It cannot.