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Anonymous wrote:My 13 yo DD recently had an issue with two boys seated on either side of her staring at her. I told her to ask the teacher politely if her seat could be changed because she was having trouble focusing on her schoolwork. She did, and it was.

I did tell her, kindly, that when she chooses to wear fitted, shoulder- and or-belly exposing clothes, she would get more attention and there's a negative piece to that she now understands better.

Also may want to talk about a lot about who's behind designing this clothing for young girls to wear.

Agreed. Young girls are confused and brainwashed by media telling them that dressing like a prostitute is empowering. They need to understand that catering to the male gaze by wearing revealing clothing is perpetuating the patriarchy and degrading themselves.

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Anonymous wrote:My 13 yo DD recently had an issue with two boys seated on either side of her staring at her. I told her to ask the teacher politely if her seat could be changed because she was having trouble focusing on her schoolwork. She did, and it was.

I did tell her, kindly, that when she chooses to wear fitted, shoulder- and or-belly exposing clothes, she would get more attention and there's a negative piece to that she now understands better.

Also may want to talk about a lot about who's behind designing this clothing for young girls to wear.

Anonymous wrote:She should learn to stare right back at him, but with a scowl.

If he gets creepier, teach her to take up space and be loud. Creepy men are empowered by SHAME. She can wear what she wants and he needs to mind his business.

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Anonymous wrote:My 13 yo DD recently had an issue with two boys seated on either side of her staring at her. I told her to ask the teacher politely if her seat could be changed because she was having trouble focusing on her schoolwork. She did, and it was.

I did tell her, kindly, that when she chooses to wear fitted, shoulder- and or-belly exposing clothes, she would get more attention and there's a negative piece to that she now understands better.

Also may want to talk about a lot about who's behind designing this clothing for young girls to wear.

Anonymous wrote:My 13 yo DD recently had an issue with two boys seated on either side of her staring at her. I told her to ask the teacher politely if her seat could be changed because she was having trouble focusing on her schoolwork. She did, and it was.

I did tell her, kindly, that when she chooses to wear fitted, shoulder- and or-belly exposing clothes, she would get more attention and there's a negative piece to that she now understands better.

Anonymous wrote:So my daughter for the first time is dealing with being looked at by a boy she doesn’t like. She has only in the last couple of months begun wearing any clothes more revealing than shapeless tees and shorts. Current clothes are not revealing, but sometimes show her shoulders or her chest (Altho no cleavage). She is really made uncomfortable by the fact that this boy notices her body. I think this is a fact of life that she’s going to have to learn to deal with, but I’d appreciate any thoughts on conversations others had with their daughters that helped and any suggestions for books she could read that might help her thinking about it. This morning she was back in sweats and clearly feels very stressed.

Anonymous wrote:You can’t control is someone looks at you or even stares. It’s not illegal. Tell her she needs to be secure with herself and move on.

Unless he is doing something extreme, which my your post doesn’t appear that way.

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s awful that some boy moms and the moderators struck a ton of relevant, non-obscene posts. I guess a lot of you know that your sons are weird and have zero social skills.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you guys treating this poor hormonal middle school boy like he’s R. Kelly?

Anonymous wrote:Why are you guys treating this poor hormonal middle school boy like he’s R. Kelly?

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Anonymous wrote:She talks to you about how he is looking at her?

My daughter would talk to me about this for sure, not weird at all if you have a close relationship as daughter/mother.

Ok, I have an incredibly close relationship with my daughters and neither would tell me "John is staring at me in class."
Something is off about this.

Sad. Absolutely your daughter should feel self aware to notice this (guaranteed it happens) and safe and supported by you enough to bring it up. I would looking at red flags in your relationship and your views on sexuality if she isn't. My daughter brought it up many times, and with friends in the car too.

This is something they need help with and also a concern behavior if they're alone with men like this. Most of the time my daughter brought it up but a few times I did when it happened when we were together. These men are disgusting and their sick thoughts can worm their way in if women don't defend against it.

DP. You are crazy. I bolded one sentence, but actually, your whole post is crazy.

To the PP whose daughter wouldn’t bring this up, same here.

I don't understand how you possibly think this is a good or normal thing that your daughter will not talk to you about when things like this happen in her life. This is a valuable door to have open between you. It takes a lot of conversations to teach values on healthy sexuality especially in our current society, there's a lot to undo from religion and otherwise.