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Anonymous wrote:Spouse should ask if sick spouse wanted them to bring something back. Or if they could make them something simple before heading out. That seems like basic courtesy. My husband can be really absent minded at times but he would at least figure that one out.

This is the incredibly obvious answer, the spouse should have made sure the sick spouse had something, either homemade or take out. Posters figured out the Op was the sick spouse and went on the usual attack the OP brigade.

OP, quit sockpuppeting. Your OP was poorly written, and what you've written since deserves some mockery.

This is a stupid thread. Sorry you're sick. This is why smart people keep a can of Campbell's and some saltines in the pantry. You're an adult. Handle it.

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Anonymous wrote:The responses here 1) explain why so many posters are on this sub complaining about their inconsiderate spouses and 2) demonstrate that A LOT of your mothers took Tylenol while pregnant.

It definitely shows how many couples have poor communication skills.

The simple answer is to ask the sick spouse if they’d like anything or if the sick spouse would like something specific, simply ask the other one to bring something home with them.

Everyone around here makes every little thing so unnecessarily complicated.

This. If I'm too sick to go out, I'm probably too sick to eat. We have a limited budget for takeout; I'd rather not waste it on some random thing that's going to sit in the fridge.

If I'm well enough to eat and I want something, I'll ask.

Anonymous wrote:It would be very unusual for my family to bring anything other than leftovers home from a restaurant.

We would assume that a sick person who stayed home would likely eat differently (and eat homemade dishes) due to their illness.

This. The ill spouse should probably just have soup or something very bland.

I don’t think I would necessarily think to bring home food from a restaurant in this senario, unless my husband just had a headache. But even still I find it awkward to order a meal to go after eating in; I hate the idea of keeping our friends waiting or the food just sitting around while we chatted. I’d be more likely to pick something up or more likely make something simple when we got home.

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Anonymous wrote:Spouse should ask if sick spouse wanted them to bring something back. Or if they could make them something simple before heading out. That seems like basic courtesy. My husband can be really absent minded at times but he would at least figure that one out.

This is the incredibly obvious answer, the spouse should have made sure the sick spouse had something, either homemade or take out. Posters figured out the Op was the sick spouse and went on the usual attack the OP brigade.

DP. People "attack" OPs because they come here to whine about problem that are so easily solved that they barely count as problems. In my house, I'd probably ask, but if I was the sick spouse I'd speak up. If I didn't get anything without being asked, my wife wouldn't run to the Internet to complain, she'd accept that as what happens when you don't tell people what you want. OP deserves a little grief for that for complaining.

That’s 90% of this message board. There’s something wrong with your brain to justify ragging on the OP.

Well I've never needed to crowd source how to get dinner, so I think my brain is doing better than OP's.

That’s wasn’t OP’s question so no, your brain isn’t better.

DH would absolutely bring home something for DS and him. But if I wasn't feeling well, he would ask if I wanted something before he decided where he was getting take out from. That way if I wanted something particular he could get that or if I didn't want anything at all he could get whatever he and DS wanted. And that's how I would handle it for him too.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spouse should ask if sick spouse wanted them to bring something back. Or if they could make them something simple before heading out. That seems like basic courtesy. My husband can be really absent minded at times but he would at least figure that one out.

This is the incredibly obvious answer, the spouse should have made sure the sick spouse had something, either homemade or take out. Posters figured out the Op was the sick spouse and went on the usual attack the OP brigade.

DP. People "attack" OPs because they come here to whine about problem that are so easily solved that they barely count as problems. In my house, I'd probably ask, but if I was the sick spouse I'd speak up. If I didn't get anything without being asked, my wife wouldn't run to the Internet to complain, she'd accept that as what happens when you don't tell people what you want. OP deserves a little grief for that for complaining.

That’s 90% of this message board. There’s something wrong with your brain to justify ragging on the OP.

Well I've never needed to crowd source how to get dinner, so I think my brain is doing better than OP's.

Oh fudge OP, learn to write more clearly.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spouse should ask if sick spouse wanted them to bring something back. Or if they could make them something simple before heading out. That seems like basic courtesy. My husband can be really absent minded at times but he would at least figure that one out.

This is the incredibly obvious answer, the spouse should have made sure the sick spouse had something, either homemade or take out. Posters figured out the Op was the sick spouse and went on the usual attack the OP brigade.

DP. People "attack" OPs because they come here to whine about problem that are so easily solved that they barely count as problems. In my house, I'd probably ask, but if I was the sick spouse I'd speak up. If I didn't get anything without being asked, my wife wouldn't run to the Internet to complain, she'd accept that as what happens when you don't tell people what you want. OP deserves a little grief for that for complaining.

That’s 90% of this message board. There’s something wrong with your brain to justify ragging on the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:The responses here 1) explain why so many posters are on this sub complaining about their inconsiderate spouses and 2) demonstrate that A LOT of your mothers took Tylenol while pregnant.

It definitely shows how many couples have poor communication skills.

The simple answer is to ask the sick spouse if they’d like anything or if the sick spouse would like something specific, simply ask the other one to bring something home with them.

Everyone around here makes every little thing so unnecessarily complicated.

The next level pedantic focus on intentionally not understanding OP’s question speaks volumes.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Spouse should ask if sick spouse wanted them to bring something back. Or if they could make them something simple before heading out. That seems like basic courtesy. My husband can be really absent minded at times but he would at least figure that one out.

This is the incredibly obvious answer, the spouse should have made sure the sick spouse had something, either homemade or take out. Posters figured out the Op was the sick spouse and went on the usual attack the OP brigade.

DP. People "attack" OPs because they come here to whine about problem that are so easily solved that they barely count as problems. In my house, I'd probably ask, but if I was the sick spouse I'd speak up. If I didn't get anything without being asked, my wife wouldn't run to the Internet to complain, she'd accept that as what happens when you don't tell people what you want. OP deserves a little grief for that for complaining.

I also think a lot depends. If you are a DoorDash or UberEats family, they might just assume you're gonna get what you want when you want it. We are a DD or UE on special occasions or times of needed conveinence, so I would order if I wanted it but it's not an automatic like it is in some households.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did not anticipate such confusion. If you stayed home sick from a planned outing with another family, would your spouse pick up food for you?

Bsically- do you bring your spouse food when they are ill?

I see. The initial question confused me.

My husband would 100% ask what I wanted and bring it back. Either from the restaurant or from somewhere else. But it is incredily unlikely he would go to a couples dinner without me - we'd just cancel, and he'd bring me food anyway.

Anonymous wrote:Spouse should ask if sick spouse wanted them to bring something back. Or if they could make them something simple before heading out. That seems like basic courtesy. My husband can be really absent minded at times but he would at least figure that one out.

This is the incredibly obvious answer, the spouse should have made sure the sick spouse had something, either homemade or take out. Posters figured out the Op was the sick spouse and went on the usual attack the OP brigade.

Anonymous wrote:The responses here 1) explain why so many posters are on this sub complaining about their inconsiderate spouses and 2) demonstrate that A LOT of your mothers took Tylenol while pregnant.

It definitely shows how many couples have poor communication skills.

The simple answer is to ask the sick spouse if they’d like anything or if the sick spouse would like something specific, simply ask the other one to bring something home with them.

Everyone around here makes every little thing so unnecessarily complicated.