Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 09:50     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?


As an introverted straight man, it can be tough to speak up and directly ask a woman formally to go on a date. It sure would be nice if more women understood that if a man is spending (or trying to spend) a lot of time with her, it probably means he is interested. More likely than not, he is not merely trying to be a “buddy” of hers or a study partner. It is fine also for women to take the initiative in asking a guy out.


No thanks. A man who is too “introverted” and lacking in confidence to ask out a woman is not someone who most women want to be with.


Speak for yourself. Cocky, overconfident men who are outnumbered by women on campus sound like a nightmare.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 09:48     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"
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Is she willing to do the asking?


As an introverted straight man, it can be tough to speak up and directly ask a woman formally to go on a date. It sure would be nice if more women understood that if a man is spending (or trying to spend) a lot of time with her, it probably means he is interested. More likely than not, he is not merely trying to be a “buddy” of hers or a study partner. It is fine also for women to take the initiative in asking a guy out.


No thanks. A man who is too “introverted” and lacking in confidence to ask out a woman is not someone who most women want to be with.

They will figure it out and down the road will be a magnet when they are successful, including to younger women. DDs will never have a better chance than in college to land them, but they need to take the initiative.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 09:46     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.
I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges


There are a few. WPI is one.


Stevens is another (66m/34w as of fall 2024).


Georgia Tech is 60/40 male to female.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 09:11     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
60/40 is not going to be that perceptible. It’s a pretty normal college gender split. 70/30 is not great.

There’s very little you can do about this (irs almost everywhere) so I just wouldn’t worry about it.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 09:08     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?


As an introverted straight man, it can be tough to speak up and directly ask a woman formally to go on a date. It sure would be nice if more women understood that if a man is spending (or trying to spend) a lot of time with her, it probably means he is interested. More likely than not, he is not merely trying to be a “buddy” of hers or a study partner. It is fine also for women to take the initiative in asking a guy out.


No thanks. A man who is too “introverted” and lacking in confidence to ask out a woman is not someone who most women want to be with.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 09:03     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.
I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges


There are a few. WPI is one.


Stevens is another (66m/34w as of fall 2024).


Pretty much any tech focused school that isn't super selective. Rose Hulman, RPI, RIT (MIT and similar are selective enough to maintain 50/50).
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:54     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?


As an introverted straight man, it can be tough to speak up and directly ask a woman formally to go on a date. It sure would be nice if more women understood that if a man is spending (or trying to spend) a lot of time with her, it probably means he is interested. More likely than not, he is not merely trying to be a “buddy” of hers or a study partner. It is fine also for women to take the initiative in asking a guy out.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:51     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:"Asked out on dates"

Is she willing to do the asking?

+100 A guy asking out a girl can be considered a form of sexual harassment these days, or at least makes things very awkward if they're in the same circles (and if they're not, it's not too different from those PUAs who approach women on the street - gross)


Interesting points.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:44     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Subtract guys who barely speak English (stem) and gay guys (non-stem) and the odds get even worse.
I was at one of these colleges and guys really played the field. Fun for them.

So gay men can’t be in stem? International students can’t be in humanities?

You could have just said to subtract non-English speakers (although I don’t see why a woman can’t date an international student) and gay men and left out the stupid stereotypes.


I’m struggling to figure out if your problem is your lack of understanding of math or of English. Either way, it doesn’t seem like a college thread is relevant to your life.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:43     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Subtract guys who barely speak English (stem) and gay guys (non-stem) and the odds get even worse.
I was at one of these colleges and guys really played the field. Fun for them.


I used to live in San Francisco, same issue. Every schlubby guy I knew who wanted a girlfriend had one, and all the amazing, beautiful, accomplished women I knew were single. I saw the writing on the wall and left in my thirties.


Men are not interested in “accomplished” women.



Go enjoy your truck stop prostitutes, big man,
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:41     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:There is research on this, it creates a very poor environment for girls.


Oopsie on decades of complaining that having more boys than girls made it impossible for girls to succeed in school.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:41     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Specify which is 60% and which sex is 40%.
I don't know of any notable 60m/40w colleges


There are a few. WPI is one.


Stevens is another (66m/34w as of fall 2024).
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:38     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Could parents or students at universities with 60/40 ratios comment on the dating scene? DD is straight (and white if that matters, but would be open to other races and ethnicities). Not looking for her to get an Mrs but I think she would like to be asked out on dates and have a boyfriend in college.


At an average school of 10,000 students that is 4000 male students. Plenty for you DD to get laid.


How many are in finance, trust fund, 6'5, blue eyes?
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 08:36     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:Could parents or students at universities with 60/40 ratios comment on the dating scene? DD is straight (and white if that matters, but would be open to other races and ethnicities). Not looking for her to get an Mrs but I think she would like to be asked out on dates and have a boyfriend in college.


At an average school of 10,000 students that is 4000 male students. Plenty for you DD to get laid.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 07:48     Subject: Dating at gender-lopsided universities
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Statistical studies don't matter at the individual level.

Teach your daughter some attitudes and strategies that will allow her to identify available guys she is interested in. 40% will be enough.

I think young people have always focused too much on drinking parties and bars. It would be better to set up friend dates and coffees and such and warm people up from there. It's hard for girls to be the inviters, but strategically I think it could have many advantages.


Bless your heart. You don't know many college students, do you?


My DS actually had friend dates and went out for machas in HS. My guess is that he will continue to do it in college.


Ignorance is bliss