Anonymous
02/05/2026 21:20
Subject: Did your spouse confess?
My xH cheated multiple times despite me wanting sex with him regularly. In fact, I could barely get him to have sex with me - he'd do it once or twice a month to shut me up. He preferred sitting downstairs sexting other women on his phone.Anonymous wrote:
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And no, I didn't get fat, didn't let myself go, none of that. The women he cheated with were all fatter, uglier, and older than me (caught him pursuing women as old as 70 when he was early 40s!). I could have been a Victoria's Secret model and slid down a stripper pole, and he wouldn't have been interested.
That's on you x-wife, thinking all you have to do is look good.
I cheat on my wife. She enjoys sex also and is willing to partake with me. Of course she enjoys it, I do all the initiating, I give her oral until she O's and always an expression on my face and words that tell her how much I love doing it even though practically every time I get a pubic hair stuck in my throat, 100% of the time in her 'approved' positions, only during the mornings when she wants it, only on the days that she wants it, only in the location she wants it, only the sex acts she wants.
I on the other hand can't do my fav positions because it's 'uncomfortable' or 'hurts'. Whereas I think the truth is she finds them too dominant. She can't give me blowjobs because she has a 'small mouth' , but never once lovingly and sexily just licks it. I tried to do a play night and sexily tried trimming her pubic hair, she broke down crying. Can't do it at night because then she can't sleep, whereas I think she's just too lazy to go pee afterwards. Can't do it in nature because we might be seen, even though we're the only ones around for 10 miles. She thinks I'm a trained monkey and shouldn't tell her anymore what I need in our sex lives or she'll get hurt and cry.
So yeah, I F*** every woman I get a chance to. In my mind you kind of women have near zero rights to complain about your husbands stepping out. I have to admit though, plenty of husbands must also be a sex downer or there wouldn't be all these married women for me to romance. No matter the gender, if you don't Love your spouse enough to do ANYTHING and with enthusiasm on your face for the one you supposedly love, then you're just a DUD
We all have less faith in humanity after reading your description of yourself. As a man, I can’t fathom how horrible the women are that destroy their men, then their marriage and finally their self respect to be with someone like you.
Anonymous
02/05/2026 21:19
Subject: Did your spouse confess?
Anonymous wrote:It's not complex at all. Most people cheat for sex. The fill in the gap for the lack of sex in their relationship. That's a simple desire. The motivation to cheat is not complex. Substantial body of research my a$$. Cheaters aren't talking to "researchers."Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a faithful husband I read all these stories about wives forgiving and staying with their POS hubbies and I feel like I am missing something lol..Maybe I should have an affair too cause DW will probably forgive me.
Nah she is the perfect woman for me. There is nothing another woman can/will offer me that my wife hasn't/won't offer me.
Cheating is rarely about finding someone better; it’s far more often connected to unresolved personal trauma or unmet internal needs. [b]The psychology behind it is complex, and framing it otherwise overlooks a substantial body of research on the subject.
So no, not everyone would cheat. Individuals with a stable internal framework generally don’t. But the motivations behind it are still understandable, even to those who would never make that choice.
A rational post finally. Btw I find cheating abhorrent. However I agree with you regarding why people cheat. There’s no “psychology” behind it. When two people of opposite gender meet in isolation, many times (not always) leads to sex
Anonymous
02/05/2026 20:46
Subject: Did your spouse confess?
My xH cheated multiple times despite me wanting sex with him regularly. In fact, I could barely get him to have sex with me - he'd do it once or twice a month to shut me up. He preferred sitting downstairs sexting other women on his phone.Anonymous wrote:
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And no, I didn't get fat, didn't let myself go, none of that. The women he cheated with were all fatter, uglier, and older than me (caught him pursuing women as old as 70 when he was early 40s!). I could have been a Victoria's Secret model and slid down a stripper pole, and he wouldn't have been interested.
That's on you x-wife, thinking all you have to do is look good.
I cheat on my wife. She enjoys sex also and is willing to partake with me. Of course she enjoys it, I do all the initiating, I give her oral until she O's and always an expression on my face and words that tell her how much I love doing it even though practically every time I get a pubic hair stuck in my throat, 100% of the time in her 'approved' positions, only during the mornings when she wants it, only on the days that she wants it, only in the location she wants it, only the sex acts she wants.
I on the other hand can't do my fav positions because it's 'uncomfortable' or 'hurts'. Whereas I think the truth is she finds them too dominant. She can't give me blowjobs because she has a 'small mouth' , but never once lovingly and sexily just licks it. I tried to do a play night and sexily tried trimming her pubic hair, she broke down crying. Can't do it at night because then she can't sleep, whereas I think she's just too lazy to go pee afterwards. Can't do it in nature because we might be seen, even though we're the only ones around for 10 miles. She thinks I'm a trained monkey and shouldn't tell her anymore what I need in our sex lives or she'll get hurt and cry.
So yeah, I F*** every woman I get a chance to. In my mind you kind of women have near zero rights to complain about your husbands stepping out. I have to admit though, plenty of husbands must also be a sex downer or there wouldn't be all these married women for me to romance. No matter the gender, if you don't Love your spouse enough to do ANYTHING and with enthusiasm on your face for the one you supposedly love, then you're just a DUD
Quote Box Fail, but:
First, I was responding to PP who said men cheat because they don’t get enough sex. Now the goalposts have moved to “doesn’t have kinky enough sex”.
Okay, fine. In response to that:
- I was fine with any and all positions. He was pretty “small”, so no pain there.
- No issues with “dominance”, in fact I like it.
- No issues with BJs, loved giving them.
- No problems doing it at night, in the morning, any day, any style.
- Never once cried because I was “hurt” or whatever.
The reality is that people who want to cheat will come up with any excuse to justify the cheating. For my xH, it was not about frequency or intensity of sex.
As a different PP said, it was about his own trauma related to his childhood and an unstable internal system. He disliked himself and had low self-esteem, and his coping mechanism was to get ego boosts from other women. Many of the women he pursued were not even women he would want sex with; I highly doubt he wanted to have sex with women old enough to be his grandma. He just wanted the validation. He’ll even own up to it, and has told me himself after quite a bit of therapy that he is just broken and compulsively engages in acts that temporarily numb him (substance abuse and phone addiction were also problems).
It doesn’t matter if someone will fulfill your every fantasy. If you’re broken inside, you will come up with any and every excuse to justify the cheating.
As you’ve perfectly demonstrated here, cheaters just keep moving the goalposts further and further to rationalize it to themselves.
I’m with an incredible man now who would never cheat, because the quality of his character is that he doesn’t seek external validation, he doesn’t hurt people, and we talk openly whenever there is a problem in our relationship. He doesn’t run after someone else and justify it with “but you didn’t XYZ!”
Also, have to point out the irony that you criticize your wife for only having sex in a very specific way, yet you yourself only want sex in a very specific way and use that to justify cheating. Pot, meet kettle.