Anonymous
09/20/2025 13:12
Subject: Do you genuinely want to hang out with your friends' kids?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If my kid is with me sure. Alone, no.
Sometimes i will host a few friends at my house for coffee when mine is at school, or in the evening when mine is in bed. I’ll
Advertise it as “ come over for a kid free ladies night” or similar sounding to that.
In your example your friend isn’t prioritizing time with you. She’s choosing other options. So I would say “ hey I’m gonna be free on Tuesday and Wednesday between 10-2 if you wanna meet for coffee or lunch”
Then she can either say yes or decline.
This. I like kid time and I like adult time. I don't particularly enjoy half and half. It's either a kid-friendly conversation or it's not.
Same.
My friends and I all love each other’s kids, and we spend parent/kid time together. But older kids/young teens go through phases where they hang onto EVERY word, so you really do have to police what you say. If I don’t have my own kids with me I prefer to be able to speak unfiltered.
Anonymous
09/20/2025 12:52
Subject: Do you genuinely want to hang out with your friends' kids?
Anonymous wrote:If my kid is with me sure. Alone, no.
Sometimes i will host a few friends at my house for coffee when mine is at school, or in the evening when mine is in bed. I’ll
Advertise it as “ come over for a kid free ladies night” or similar sounding to that.
In your example your friend isn’t prioritizing time with you. She’s choosing other options. So I would say “ hey I’m gonna be free on Tuesday and Wednesday between 10-2 if you wanna meet for coffee or lunch”
Then she can either say yes or decline.
This. I like kid time and I like adult time. I don't particularly enjoy half and half. It's either a kid-friendly conversation or it's not.
Anonymous
09/20/2025 10:52
Subject: Do you genuinely want to hang out with your friends' kids?
Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone being so mean to OP. I doubt her friend does not want to “ use her time” differently but rather she loves her kids and thinks that her friend would love to see them!
I think it’s fine you want to see your friend and have uninterrupted conversation. I have friends from all parts of my life ( childhood, college, career, neighborhoods). All dear friends from those roles. Some of them I would absolutely want to see the kids! Others not as our friendships are different.
And family is different so she’s not a bad person for making the distinction. And, yes, there is some friends that are like family and she likely also knows that and made the distinction.
Funnily enough, I am texting this morning with my dh’s best friend from college ( who became my best friend/a women) she’s godmother to our children and she texts….had a great conversation yesterday with one of our dcs. She would always want to see my kids. Just know your friend group.
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