Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 17:51     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
When I have energy to be engaged all day at work and still make dinner at night. Happens rarely.

Also when my nails look decent and my gray isn’t showing.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 17:47     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
- House, yard in order.
- Kids and DH happy and doing well.
- Caught up with friends and relatives. Done with all reciprocal dinners hosting for the year and holiday season. All social obligations met - weddings, birthdays etc. (I have been out of circulation due to health reason and this is looming on my head).
- Everyone healthy. Eating healthy, exercise, meditation.
- Have plans for vacations, organizing, decluttering.
- Caught up with paperwork.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 15:41     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
I went on a trip this weekend and forgot to pack any underwear so i had to wear my husband's so I'm not really in the position to be giving any advice right now, but I generally like the feeling of being moisturized head to toe with expensive lotion.
Anonymous
Post 09/22/2025 15:30     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can still wiggle my ass at the ripe old age of 52


Dang


I'm 56 and can do a straddle stretch with my head on the ground and the splits. It doesn't mean I have my life together.


No, but it helps, right?
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 16:49     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I can still wiggle my ass at the ripe old age of 52


Dang


I'm 56 and can do a straddle stretch with my head on the ground and the splits. It doesn't mean I have my life together.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 16:08     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
I do laundry regularly - including bedding every weekend.

My bills are paid on time - including car tax.

Waking up at 4:30 to get a workout in.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 16:04     Subject: Re:What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.


I think it's important for kids to see you NOT have it together. They need to know burnout is real. That people get stressed and aren't 100%. And that it's OKAY when that happens. No one is put together 100% of the time and trying to act like you are isn't good for your mental health. So have those days where you have a movie marathon with your kids and make popcorn and order pizza for delivery because you just don't have it in you to drive and pick it up. Your kids won't remember that you looked like a mess and had no energy. They'll just remember the fun day they had with you.

When DS was 5 I was going through a really stressful time with work and an extremely sick parent. It was a weekend and DH was away helping my sick parent and I remember spending half the day on the couch with DS doing nothing before I forced myself to take him to an arcade and then to pick up take out. I was almost in tears putting him to bed because I felt like such a failure for wasting nearly an entire day with him. And so I apologized for us having such a bad day and he looked at me like I had 3 heads. I'll never forget him telling me how much FUN he had with me all day.


Woah…I was just going to say that I use make-up primer so my make-up stays on longer and I asked my husband’s admin to add me to his work calendar, so I know when he’s available evenings and weekends.

I feel all put together when I still have make-up on at the end of the day, and if someone asks me if I can do something 2 months from now, I can look at my calendar and give a yes or no answer.

There is no faking anything in front of my kids! They know better


How do you have makeup on at the end of the day? What is this magic primer?
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 16:02     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:A really clean butt and perfect skin


May the 2-ply be with you.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 15:13     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
this is not going to make sense to any of you but what makes me feel like I have it together is going for a walk on my own / with my dog and being able to see the cracks in the sidewalk and not fall over

I have lost some of my sight and I've got inoperable brain tumors which may leave me paralysed, eventually But for now, I can walk fast and appear completely able bodied and that feels amazing.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 10:44     Subject: Re:What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.


I think it's important for kids to see you NOT have it together. They need to know burnout is real. That people get stressed and aren't 100%. And that it's OKAY when that happens. No one is put together 100% of the time and trying to act like you are isn't good for your mental health. So have those days where you have a movie marathon with your kids and make popcorn and order pizza for delivery because you just don't have it in you to drive and pick it up. Your kids won't remember that you looked like a mess and had no energy. They'll just remember the fun day they had with you.

When DS was 5 I was going through a really stressful time with work and an extremely sick parent. It was a weekend and DH was away helping my sick parent and I remember spending half the day on the couch with DS doing nothing before I forced myself to take him to an arcade and then to pick up take out. I was almost in tears putting him to bed because I felt like such a failure for wasting nearly an entire day with him. And so I apologized for us having such a bad day and he looked at me like I had 3 heads. I'll never forget him telling me how much FUN he had with me all day.


Woah…I was just going to say that I use make-up primer so my make-up stays on longer and I asked my husband’s admin to add me to his work calendar, so I know when he’s available evenings and weekends.

I feel all put together when I still have make-up on at the end of the day, and if someone asks me if I can do something 2 months from now, I can look at my calendar and give a yes or no answer.

There is no faking anything in front of my kids! They know better
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 10:05     Subject: Re:What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.


Honestly, it’s all about what’s important to you. If that’s important to you then go for it. Interesting that you assume we are all female. I happen to be.

I feel like I have it together when I pack all of my breakfast and lunch M-F on Sunday. I leave for work very early every day and make the same thing. I’m doing it now, and put them in the garage fridge. It gives me a sense of accomplishment to get this cooking out of the way and not to think about the busy week for me. That way I just need to worry about work and the rest of the family.
Anonymous
Post 09/21/2025 09:57     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
To have my toe nails painted. I do it myself and it makes me feel so put together everytime I look down at the shiny toenails.

I can’t have manicures as they will chip the very next day w handwashing, dishes, cooking, house chores, etc. Getting gel nails is just too much effort, needing to go to the salon and all.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2025 15:23     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:I can still wiggle my ass at the ripe old age of 52


Dang
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2025 14:46     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Sending greeting cards to arrive before the birthday/holiday/whatever, especially to older family members for whom they mean a lot.
Anonymous
Post 09/19/2025 14:08     Subject: What makes you feel like you have it together?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No laundry bins stuffed to the top. Or on a similar note, DS not digging through his laundry the night before a game because he can't find his kit.

A stocked fridge with colorful items. Means I have my stuff together enough to do a full shop and have a meal plan.


This! I'm a very visual person so I love seeing the fridge full and organized and the pantry full with lots of colorful fruits and vegetables. I actually arrange them in rainbow order on the shelf and it makes me smile.


You need a life


Ok, thank you for your insight. I'll quit working, cancel my early afternoon plans to hang out with friends in this nice weather, cancel my dinner plans for tonight, cancel my plans with my children tomorrow morning, cancel my plans with friends to watch college football and have dinner at their house tomorrow, stay home from church on Sunday, and then cancel plans with friends to watch NFL and have dinner at their house on Sunday so I can ponder what else I should be doing in order to "get a life."


yee-haw