Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 15:09     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:Catholic school. A huge reason we’re there is the kids wear belts and collared shirts every day, adults expect good manners, parents correct each others kids. I couldn’t deal with kids coming over and jumping on furniture. We wait until 8th grade cell phones. Not perfect and kids definitely have screens and misbehave sometimes, but much more in line with the way we grew up in terms of expectations and behavior.


+100

This has been my experience in Catholic school. It's a lot easier to instill manners in the classroom when you're allowed to tell kids god is watching and there's a picture of the pope staring them down.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 13:07     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:Move to the south and live in a white suburb


What exactly are you trying to imply here, bruh?
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 12:20     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What are DoD schools?

OP, I think you need to visit a few private schools and find a strict one (not all are.)


Military base schools


Specifically, only on those military bases where the "DoD Educational Activity" operates the schools. Many such bases are outside the continental US. Some are in the continental US.

Students living on most military bases in the continental US (e.g., Ft Belvoir) instead attend the local public schools (e.g., FCPS).
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 11:40     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:What are DoD schools?

OP, I think you need to visit a few private schools and find a strict one (not all are.)


Dept of Defense schools. But most people are not eligible to send their kids to one so it's a dumb suggestion.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 11:14     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:I’m not seeing 8 yr olds like this. With phones, calling each other bruh. Really?



I teach kindergarten and have had students call me bruh for years.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 10:54     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:What are DoD schools?

OP, I think you need to visit a few private schools and find a strict one (not all are.)


Military base schools
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 10:52     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
I’m not seeing 8 yr olds like this. With phones, calling each other bruh. Really?
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 09:19     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:I look for big-hearted parents. Sorry, OP, you’re not one of them.


You’re not either
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 09:17     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Dungeon of dragon school?
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 09:16     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Like befriends like, OP. If your child is attracting ill-mannered friends, then you need to take a hard look at how he is behaving when he's outside your view, and what he himself values in friends.

The kids you describe absolutely exist, and if your own child was one of them or valued those qualities in friends, you would already know who they are.

Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 09:13     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
I look for big-hearted parents. Sorry, OP, you’re not one of them.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 09:06     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
What are DoD schools?

OP, I think you need to visit a few private schools and find a strict one (not all are.)
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 08:43     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DoD schools. Honest answer


99% right. There will be a very few exceptions, which mostly will be kids with special needs.



There were a good number of "problem" kids in DC's DoD schools.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 08:41     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS8 is no angel, but it would be great to have a peer group that isn’t a “bruh skibiddy” disrespectful jerk pack. DH says I’m being unrealistic (no video games, no phones, no tablets, no motorized bikes or scooters, expecting basic table manners and respectful language, respecting adults) and that I should homeschool.


You won't even find kids like this in 100-year-old novels. Maybe you should not have had kids.


My son is like this, but he's older now.
Anonymous
Post 09/14/2025 08:39     Subject: Where can I find well mannered and kind children?
Anonymous wrote:I think you ask for/require code switching and demonstrated competence in formal behavior without being so judgmental about how they are with their peers.



This. My son and his friends aren’t really sporty boys but they are still typical boys around each other. Every single one of them would still drop that in order to help anyone without being told. They hold doors for people, ask if people need help, etc.