Anonymous wrote:OP didn't say how long he does this for

OP here. I have no clue! I’m not sitting and watching him! I literally just notice him parked there as I come and go. It just strikes me as odd and I can’t figure out why he chooses this desolate field in his own neighborhood over other places for solitude. Like a pretty park (which can be found from each direction around our neighborhood), for example.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you monitoring him? Mind your own beezwax.

I am? As I said, it’s hard not to notice his distinctive vehicle as I come and go.

Maybe you could buy him a less "distinctive vehicle"?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

If you haven't ever been responsible 24-7 for a disabled child, sit down and zip it. "Abandons"? please.

Well, who is managing the reality of the SN kid when he could be home helping instead of escaping reality?

Did you know that people can take turns?

PP specifically said they didn't, but keep going off on your imaginary knighthood for some loser dad who can't be F'd to help out with his kid during the day.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

If you haven't ever been responsible 24-7 for a disabled child, sit down and zip it. "Abandons"? please.

Well, who is managing the reality of the SN kid when he could be home helping instead of escaping reality?

Did you know that people can take turns?

OP didn't say how long he does this for

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

If you haven't ever been responsible 24-7 for a disabled child, sit down and zip it. "Abandons"? please.

Except the mother doesn't get the same break. He literally parks near my house for 8+h a day sometimes. I MAJORLY feel for his wife, who has to deal with the household while he fu**s off and just literally sits in his car.

Alternately, he could be working from home. My neighbors' sn child makes a lot of noise. Constantly. They take turns leaving the house to make calls. Neither can work from home. They work in shifts. Sometimes at the library, sometimes in their car, and sometimes at a coffee shop. You never know what people are going through or what agreements couples have.

NP. My first thought would definitely be that he was working from his car because the house is too noisy or chaotic.

It's one thing for op and that pp to be nosy, but they are also judgemental based on their stupid assumptions and projections.

Judgmental to whom? Thoughts don’t hurt anyone, PP.

Judgemental to parents of special needs children.

Again, thoughts hurt no one.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

If you haven't ever been responsible 24-7 for a disabled child, sit down and zip it. "Abandons"? please.

Except the mother doesn't get the same break. He literally parks near my house for 8+h a day sometimes. I MAJORLY feel for his wife, who has to deal with the household while he fu**s off and just literally sits in his car.

Alternately, he could be working from home. My neighbors' sn child makes a lot of noise. Constantly. They take turns leaving the house to make calls. Neither can work from home. They work in shifts. Sometimes at the library, sometimes in their car, and sometimes at a coffee shop. You never know what people are going through or what agreements couples have.

NP. My first thought would definitely be that he was working from his car because the house is too noisy or chaotic.

It's one thing for op and that pp to be nosy, but they are also judgemental based on their stupid assumptions and projections.

Judgmental to whom? Thoughts don’t hurt anyone, PP.

Judgemental to parents of special needs children.

Funny you have no sympathy to the mother of the special needs child(ren).

Anonymous wrote:I’d like to point out that men never post things like this.

You clearly haven't been on nextdoor

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

If you haven't ever been responsible 24-7 for a disabled child, sit down and zip it. "Abandons"? please.

Except the mother doesn't get the same break. He literally parks near my house for 8+h a day sometimes. I MAJORLY feel for his wife, who has to deal with the household while he fu**s off and just literally sits in his car.

Alternately, he could be working from home. My neighbors' sn child makes a lot of noise. Constantly. They take turns leaving the house to make calls. Neither can work from home. They work in shifts. Sometimes at the library, sometimes in their car, and sometimes at a coffee shop. You never know what people are going through or what agreements couples have.

NP. My first thought would definitely be that he was working from his car because the house is too noisy or chaotic.

It's one thing for op and that pp to be nosy, but they are also judgemental based on their stupid assumptions and projections.

Judgmental to whom? Thoughts don’t hurt anyone, PP.

Judgemental to parents of special needs children.

I’d like to point out that men never post things like this.

Playing Pokemon. Ask your kids to see if there is a Pokemon gym where he parks.

Easy-peasy.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

If you haven't ever been responsible 24-7 for a disabled child, sit down and zip it. "Abandons"? please.

Except the mother doesn't get the same break. He literally parks near my house for 8+h a day sometimes. I MAJORLY feel for his wife, who has to deal with the household while he fu**s off and just literally sits in his car.

Alternately, he could be working from home. My neighbors' sn child makes a lot of noise. Constantly. They take turns leaving the house to make calls. Neither can work from home. They work in shifts. Sometimes at the library, sometimes in their car, and sometimes at a coffee shop. You never know what people are going through or what agreements couples have.

NP. My first thought would definitely be that he was working from his car because the house is too noisy or chaotic.

It's one thing for op and that pp to be nosy, but they are also judgemental based on their stupid assumptions and projections.

Judgmental to whom? Thoughts don’t hurt anyone, PP.

Maybe he works from home and the car doesn't get driven a lot and he's decided he wants to turn over the engine xxx number of times a week. Isn't it bad for cars just to sit?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

This one sounds like he lost his job and hasn’t told his wife yet.

This is actually what DH and I thought. I actually posted about it a little while back on another thread, about the DH who had lost his job a year prior and kept "going to the office" while embezzling money from their investment accts so DW wouldn't notice. I know what industry he is in, and it's not a wfh industry, but who knows. I've never asked. The idling bothers me more than his family issues honestly.

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Anonymous wrote:I have a neighbour that does the same! He just drives a short distance away, parks the car and sits in it. All day. Leaving the car running. I think they have a SN son and it seems like he just leaves the home and abandons the mom and child.

If you haven't ever been responsible 24-7 for a disabled child, sit down and zip it. "Abandons"? please.

Except the mother doesn't get the same break. He literally parks near my house for 8+h a day sometimes. I MAJORLY feel for his wife, who has to deal with the household while he fu**s off and just literally sits in his car.

Alternately, he could be working from home. My neighbors' sn child makes a lot of noise. Constantly. They take turns leaving the house to make calls. Neither can work from home. They work in shifts. Sometimes at the library, sometimes in their car, and sometimes at a coffee shop. You never know what people are going through or what agreements couples have.

NP. My first thought would definitely be that he was working from his car because the house is too noisy or chaotic.

It's one thing for op and that pp to be nosy, but they are also judgemental based on their stupid assumptions and projections.