Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:44     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:According to this thread I’m too poor and basic to take issue with sharing where my clothes are from


Because when something was cheap or thrifted, youre supposed to say it and it’s like an accomplishment or a fun secret. But if you say “I paid full price at Bloomingdales yesterday” it kills the vibe and it makes you vulnerable. That’s why it’s a rude question, to ask of a stranger, because it requires the person to expose financial behavior that isn’t anyone’s business.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:35     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
According to this thread I’m too poor and basic to take issue with sharing where my clothes are from
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:32     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:It's a little uncouth to ask a stranger or new acquaintance, once you're out of your teens, in my opinion.

When I was younger and had a very limited clothing budget, I was happy to share discount shopping tips. Now my clothes are expensive, but from very small, niche designers. Constantly people ask and I just say from an online boutique... because you don't need to know I'm wearing a two thousand dollar dress.

Exception: when someone approaches me privately and asks if I could please share designer name.


You do you, your highness
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:31     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
The people who ask you where you got something when you don’t know them are the same people who will judge you so hard, sometimes right to your face. Especially if it was expensive.

If I say “Zimmerman” or whatever that woman is going to be like “oh my god, I could never spend that much on a dress” or like “I think they have the same thing at tj maxx.”

Asking where a dress is from is the same thing as asking how much it cost and that’s an invasive question so people dodge it.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:30     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
I find it the utmost compliment when someone both compliments AND asks me where I got a piece of clothing. This happens fairly often. I also have zero shame and regularly thrift or shop at yard sales or Poshmark. This whole gatekeeping thing is so bizarre to me.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:29     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:I’m in Brooklyn, too, but not sure it matters. Sometimes I tell people I got something from a “small shop” or “online” if it’s an expensive item (example: bag that retails over $1k). Especially if the person isn’t into fashion. Example, a normie friend complimented my bag and asked where I got it. I said “online” and then sent her links to dupes. If she asked me specifically who made it, I’d tell her, but no need to volunteer info where you’ll get judged.

But in OP’s case, yeah, it’s prob because Anthropologie is basic, and the person was embarrassed to shop there.


“Normie” and too basic? Are you 12?
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:28     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m in Brooklyn, too, but not sure it matters. Sometimes I tell people I got something from a “small shop” or “online” if it’s an expensive item (example: bag that retails over $1k). Especially if the person isn’t into fashion. Example, a normie friend complimented my bag and asked where I got it. I said “online” and then sent her links to dupes. If she asked me specifically who made it, I’d tell her, but no need to volunteer info where you’ll get judged.

But in OP’s case, yeah, it’s prob because Anthropologie is basic, and the person was embarrassed to shop there.


Please don’t do this. Someone did this to my friend, and she bought the dupe. She could afford the original, but she is not into fashion at all and didn’t realize what she was buying. I had to tell her, she was really upset and never wore the fake again.


I'm PP. Not an actual replica. Just a watered-down affordable version clearly inspired by the designer one.


Well, that’s what she got. Something that was sort of pretending to be something else but clearly wasn’t.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:27     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
They got it on postmark tj maxx or something like that.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:26     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m in Brooklyn, too, but not sure it matters. Sometimes I tell people I got something from a “small shop” or “online” if it’s an expensive item (example: bag that retails over $1k). Especially if the person isn’t into fashion. Example, a normie friend complimented my bag and asked where I got it. I said “online” and then sent her links to dupes. If she asked me specifically who made it, I’d tell her, but no need to volunteer info where you’ll get judged.

But in OP’s case, yeah, it’s prob because Anthropologie is basic, and the person was embarrassed to shop there.


Please don’t do this. Someone did this to my friend, and she bought the dupe. She could afford the original, but she is not into fashion at all and didn’t realize what she was buying. I had to tell her, she was really upset and never wore the fake again.


I'm PP. Not an actual replica. Just a watered-down affordable version clearly inspired by the designer one.


Why would you tell her? Why did she even have to know? If she liked it and felt good in it, that’s all that matters. As long as she didn’t pay designer cost for a knock off then there is no harm. She knew what she was buying.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:24     Subject: Re:Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
I have never seen women in DMV wearing something so fabulous that I am curious where they have bought their clothes. For real.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:22     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’m in Brooklyn, too, but not sure it matters. Sometimes I tell people I got something from a “small shop” or “online” if it’s an expensive item (example: bag that retails over $1k). Especially if the person isn’t into fashion. Example, a normie friend complimented my bag and asked where I got it. I said “online” and then sent her links to dupes. If she asked me specifically who made it, I’d tell her, but no need to volunteer info where you’ll get judged.

But in OP’s case, yeah, it’s prob because Anthropologie is basic, and the person was embarrassed to shop there.


Please don’t do this. Someone did this to my friend, and she bought the dupe. She could afford the original, but she is not into fashion at all and didn’t realize what she was buying. I had to tell her, she was really upset and never wore the fake again.


I'm PP. Not an actual replica. Just a watered-down affordable version clearly inspired by the designer one.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:21     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:I’m in Brooklyn, too, but not sure it matters. Sometimes I tell people I got something from a “small shop” or “online” if it’s an expensive item (example: bag that retails over $1k). Especially if the person isn’t into fashion. Example, a normie friend complimented my bag and asked where I got it. I said “online” and then sent her links to dupes. If she asked me specifically who made it, I’d tell her, but no need to volunteer info where you’ll get judged.

But in OP’s case, yeah, it’s prob because Anthropologie is basic, and the person was embarrassed to shop there.


Ugh no this is rude. You never know what people can afford or want to spend their money on. They can decide themselves if they want to look for dupes.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 21:03     Subject: Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:I’m in Brooklyn, too, but not sure it matters. Sometimes I tell people I got something from a “small shop” or “online” if it’s an expensive item (example: bag that retails over $1k). Especially if the person isn’t into fashion. Example, a normie friend complimented my bag and asked where I got it. I said “online” and then sent her links to dupes. If she asked me specifically who made it, I’d tell her, but no need to volunteer info where you’ll get judged.

But in OP’s case, yeah, it’s prob because Anthropologie is basic, and the person was embarrassed to shop there.


Please don’t do this. Someone did this to my friend, and she bought the dupe. She could afford the original, but she is not into fashion at all and didn’t realize what she was buying. I had to tell her, she was really upset and never wore the fake again.
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 20:58     Subject: Re:Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
Anonymous wrote:lol. I’m the person that asks them to check the tag as I bend my body like a contortionist to reach the collar. I don’t care. I have friends that Google my stuff, not to copy but to find out the price. They aren’t trying to copy me, they are trying to sleuth my finances. Yes, it’s odd behavior and not how I think re: others, but it’s important enough for them to go home and research for some reason. I know this because they pretty much told me. They are my friends. We all have our own quirks. No biggie.


Trying to figure your finances out by your outfit? Who are you hanging around with? Did you all grow up poor and then make it to the middle class?
Anonymous
Post 09/07/2025 20:55     Subject: Re:Women lying/ gate keeping around where clothes are from
I'm the opposite. I always share where I get stuff from bc honestly it's mostly TJMaxx, Old Navy, Loft or Nordstrom Rack. But if I asked someone and they didn't answer I would just shrug my shoulders and keep moving on with life. I suggest you do the same.