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Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.

OP is slim. The rest is true.

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Anonymous wrote:You're 5'0 and you want a man at least 5'9? Now you know how short men feel when they never get picked.

About 57% of the men in the US are at least 5'9", but when you add in your other reuqirements (education), that % will go down a lot. Only about 36% of men in their 30s' in the US have a college degree.. so those 2 requirements alone reduces you to about 20% of the male dating pool.

Oh and by comparison, only 6% of women in the US are 5'0" or shorter.

So.. you're in the bottom 6% height-wise, and searching for a man who is stastically rare.

I thought men like short women?

Hahhah.. keep telling yourself that. Any man who is marriage-minded will be thinking does he want his kid to be the short kid at school and made fun of, espcially if it's a boy. Imagine if he grows up and is a mere 5'7. That' below your requirements for example.

Yes, OP would be very wrong if she thinks men don’t select women by height. For marriage and kids men absolutely try to avoid extremely short genes for the kids. If a woman is 5’5 or 5’8 that won’t matter. But any outliers like a 5’ or a 6’2 woman would have hard time finding a husband.

I know because men told me that when I was dating for marriage in my 20s.

Agreed, several men confided in me that they wanted tall children and hence were looking for tall wives.

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Anonymous wrote:You're 5'0 and you want a man at least 5'9? Now you know how short men feel when they never get picked.

About 57% of the men in the US are at least 5'9", but when you add in your other reuqirements (education), that % will go down a lot. Only about 36% of men in their 30s' in the US have a college degree.. so those 2 requirements alone reduces you to about 20% of the male dating pool.

Oh and by comparison, only 6% of women in the US are 5'0" or shorter.

So.. you're in the bottom 6% height-wise, and searching for a man who is stastically rare.

I thought men like short women?

Hahhah.. keep telling yourself that. Any man who is marriage-minded will be thinking does he want his kid to be the short kid at school and made fun of, espcially if it's a boy. Imagine if he grows up and is a mere 5'7. That' below your requirements for example.

+1 Men told me they would not date short women because they wanted tall kids. I am 5 ft 7 inches.

You are 5 feet. You can date a guy who is 5 ft 6 and he will tower over you. My ex H was just shy of 6ft. In heels, we were practically the same height.

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Anonymous wrote:You're 5'0 and you want a man at least 5'9? Now you know how short men feel when they never get picked.

About 57% of the men in the US are at least 5'9", but when you add in your other reuqirements (education), that % will go down a lot. Only about 36% of men in their 30s' in the US have a college degree.. so those 2 requirements alone reduces you to about 20% of the male dating pool.

Oh and by comparison, only 6% of women in the US are 5'0" or shorter.

So.. you're in the bottom 6% height-wise, and searching for a man who is stastically rare.

I thought men like short women?

Hahhah.. keep telling yourself that. Any man who is marriage-minded will be thinking does he want his kid to be the short kid at school and made fun of, espcially if it's a boy. Imagine if he grows up and is a mere 5'7. That' below your requirements for example.

Yes, OP would be very wrong if she thinks men don’t select women by height. For marriage and kids men absolutely try to avoid extremely short genes for the kids. If a woman is 5’5 or 5’8 that won’t matter. But any outliers like a 5’ or a 6’2 woman would have hard time finding a husband.

I know because men told me that when I was dating for marriage in my 20s.

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Anonymous wrote:You're 5'0 and you want a man at least 5'9? Now you know how short men feel when they never get picked.

About 57% of the men in the US are at least 5'9", but when you add in your other reuqirements (education), that % will go down a lot. Only about 36% of men in their 30s' in the US have a college degree.. so those 2 requirements alone reduces you to about 20% of the male dating pool.

Oh and by comparison, only 6% of women in the US are 5'0" or shorter.

So.. you're in the bottom 6% height-wise, and searching for a man who is stastically rare.

I thought men like short women?

Hahhah.. keep telling yourself that. Any man who is marriage-minded will be thinking does he want his kid to be the short kid at school and made fun of, espcially if it's a boy. Imagine if he grows up and is a mere 5'7. That' below your requirements for example.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you not getting any hits on multiple apps? Because that’s uncommon. There must be a red flag on your profile, or your pics are bad. Most men don’t even read the profile when swiping.

Op here I don’t photograph well

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Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.

OP is slim. The rest is true.

38F on a 5 feet frame would not look slim usually.

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Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.

OP is slim. The rest is true.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you set your filters

What do your photos look like

What does your profile say

My filters are:

Must have undergrad and/or graduate degree
Height: 5’9 - 6’4
Open to children
Distance: 30 miles

I have recent photos from my trip in Europe; full body shots of me sight seeing; a picture of me with my niece; picture of me in a dress on the beach

I’m sorry, but you need to be less picky. Most women would date a guy 5’9”+ with a grad degree who’s open to kids. You are competing with *everyone*. That includes all the gorgeous women in their twenties who haven’t been married yet. Many of those guys you are targeting set their limits to 28-30. I know this because I did OLD from 25-32. I saw a slight drop-off at 29, and a big drop-off at 30. I assume there’s another drop-off at 35. Honestly, if you’re 5’0”, I’d be MUCH more flexible on height.

Op here. I’m a catch and I’m not fat and I have a lot to offer. The worst thing you can say about me is that I selected poorly for my first husband and he serially cheated on me. So now I’m back on the apps. 😭

I am not competing with 25 year olds. They can date from 23-32 year old men.

I’m looking at men that are 37-50 years old. The men in my age group who would rather select a 32 year old well…I don’t want them anyway.

Anonymous wrote:You're short and fat. And you won't date short men. And the tall men can do waaaaay better. I can't believe you didn't figure this out on your own.