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Anonymous wrote:I married into money and wish I didn't. We both came from wealthy families. Not sure how to explain, but there is something distasteful about very wealthy people.

Sure you did, dear.

Anonymous wrote:I married into money and wish I didn't. We both came from wealthy families. Not sure how to explain, but there is something distasteful about very wealthy people.

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Anonymous wrote:No I've heard the importance of dating someone with two married parents though. They're much more focused on it than my generation was.

This along w dating someone who doesn’t have a ton of siblings “ to deal with”

Anonymous wrote:I recently discussed this topic with my 24-year-old son and 23-year-old daughter, and here’s what they shared:

Daughter’s Perspective:
*"When it comes to dating, I look for three key qualities in a guy I’m already attracted to:

Kindness;

A good sense of humor;

The ability to build a stable future.
He doesn’t need to be successful right away—as long as he has a clear plan to get there."*

Son’s Perspective:
*"For me, two things matter most in a woman I’m already interested in:

A limited relationship history (ideally fewer than two past partners);

Someone who supports my goals and vision to secure long-term stability."*

Anonymous wrote:What counts as a "partner"?

How many relationships has your son had?

Dude is ready for a crash out when he finds out his wife slept with a dozen guys before they met but didn't tell him because of his insecurity.

Anonymous wrote:I’m in my 50s but hearing from my daughter and her friends, it seems gen z is more cognizant of “family money” when dating?

I hear from her about her friends talking about prospects and she says young gen z men also make it a point to know if a young woman is coming from “family money” or not.

I grew up mc/umc (friend group was all parents who were engineers, attorneys, primary care physicians) but not “old money”/high finance/biglaw/“movers and shakers” and none of my friends thought if someone came from generational wealth when we were dating.

Are you also hearing this from your children?

Anonymous wrote:Nobody wants to marry someone whose parents are a liability and whose siblings are a mess. You don’t have to marry rich, but don’t marry someone with a loser family.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly , the COL is going way up, it’s really hard to buy a house and replicate a UMC lifestyle. The people who can do it while working regular jobs in a big city have family money: cover house down payment, no burdensome student loans, maybe inherit someone’s car etc

Op here - I get it. I do think we are slowly slipping back to a fuedal system

Anonymous wrote:Where do you think these kids learned about family money? Grandma is paying their tuition and vacation.

Anonymous wrote:DH's family was classic rags-to-riches-to-rags-again story of generational wealth in the apparel business, focusing on unique items. Unfortunately, DH has continued the cycle but the riches were illusory.

Anonymous wrote:I recently discussed this topic with my 24-year-old son and 23-year-old daughter, and here’s what they shared:

Daughter’s Perspective:
*"When it comes to dating, I look for three key qualities in a guy I’m already attracted to:

Kindness;

A good sense of humor;

The ability to build a stable future.
He doesn’t need to be successful right away—as long as he has a clear plan to get there."*

Son’s Perspective:
*"For me, two things matter most in a woman I’m already interested in:

A limited relationship history (ideally fewer than two past partners);

Someone who supports my goals and vision to secure long-term stability."*