Anonymous
Post 08/16/2025 23:03     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP will be back here in a couple years all hurt and complaining that her DIL doesn't want her in the delivery room but DIL's mom will be.


She has already had my grandson.
Neither of us was in the delivery room.
So just stop.


Sounds like you and your DIL don’t get along ..

Tell us more.


We get along fine. She is wonderful. I’ve already said that.
She and my son were in the c section room
And all the parents in the waiting room. The nurse came to get us a couple hours later and we all walked in together. DIL mom insisted we go first as it was our first grandchild and her 7th. She is a gem.



You simply weren’t invited then
Your future DIL had zero interest in you attending her dress fitting.

Complain to your son. Who will share with that future DIL which will create a distance between you two.

Good Luck Though.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2025 20:56     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP will be back here in a couple years all hurt and complaining that her DIL doesn't want her in the delivery room but DIL's mom will be.


She has already had my grandson.
Neither of us was in the delivery room.
So just stop.


It's a little weird that they already have a child and are having a traditional wedding including a bridal gown. Strange.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2025 20:54     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:no set rules. but having too many people makes things really hard - even the most well intentioned, kindest group can make things tricky. we put too much stock in wedding planning.


+1

Why is everything such a big production these days?
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2025 13:41     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
My parents and sister lived 5 states away. I went dress shopping with a good friend. My mother, father and sister (maid of honor) were thrilled to see the dress once it fit and was on my body on the day of.

There are no rules! But usually brides go with their mothers, bridesmaids and sisters. Not with future MILs.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2025 10:37     Subject: Re:Wdding dress shopping
LOL.

What a dumb thing to feel bad about. OP must not have any problems in life. She is inventing problems.
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2025 10:30     Subject: Re:Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:My DD had me, sister and future MIL and MIL was so, so happy to be included. It’s a bummer that most shops now limit to 3 guests.


You probably wouldn't think that if you worked at a bridal shop.

And nice way to troll the OP!
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 23:08     Subject: Re:Wdding dress shopping
My DD had me, sister and future MIL and MIL was so, so happy to be included. It’s a bummer that most shops now limit to 3 guests.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 22:06     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:Who is typically invited?
My soon to be DIL invited her mom, mom's sister and her cousin. She has no sisters.
Only three can come with.
I'm slightly bummed but these people have been in her life a lot longer than I have been.


It didn't even occur to me to invite my MIL. Why would I? My mom and I went.

Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 21:32     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Dang, I want a trousseau.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 21:10     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP will be back here in a couple years all hurt and complaining that her DIL doesn't want her in the delivery room but DIL's mom will be.


She has already had my grandson.
Neither of us was in the delivery room.
So just stop.


Sounds like you and your DIL don’t get along ..

Tell us more.


We get along fine. She is wonderful. I’ve already said that.
She and my son were in the c section room
And all the parents in the waiting room. The nurse came to get us a couple hours later and we all walked in together. DIL mom insisted we go first as it was our first grandchild and her 7th. She is a gem.


I have to say you have a very odd way of writing. As another said, clear as mud.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 21:04     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP will be back here in a couple years all hurt and complaining that her DIL doesn't want her in the delivery room but DIL's mom will be.


She has already had my grandson.
Neither of us was in the delivery room.
So just stop.


Sounds like you and your DIL don’t get along ..

Tell us more.


We get along fine. She is wonderful. I’ve already said that.
She and my son were in the c section room
And all the parents in the waiting room. The nurse came to get us a couple hours later and we all walked in together. DIL mom insisted we go first as it was our first grandchild and her 7th. She is a gem.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2025 20:32     Subject: Wdding dress shopping
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This brings back happy memories of shopping for my trousseau and those of my cousins in India. By tradition we have to buy at least 12 saris for specific parts of the marriage ceremony. Most will be bought by the bride’s parents but the in-laws have to get a few too. My dad booked the store for the entire day and they were happy to oblige because they knew they’d be making a lot of sales. A clan of 30 women descended upon the place and made the salesmen turn the cupboards inside out. My dad and FIL were the only men in attendance for the sole purpose of paying for the purchases. They spent the time commiserating over cups of tea and snacks. We walked out with more than 50 saris at the end of the day, my wedding saris plus all the extras everyone else decided to buy.


not relevant

Move along then.