So I'm in my early 30s and know several couples who have gotten pregnant while engaged / are about to get engaged. I feel like they're all not trying but not preventing, which I kind of get at this point given all the fertility issues arising. All of either gotten married at the courthouse or pushed their wedding 1-2 years. Some got legally married before.

Little matters -- except, get married already!

I have a friend who walked down the aisle VERY pregnant - like maybe 7 months along. At the time, I thought to myself that it was ridiculous to have a wedding at that point.

However, they do sell wedding dresses for those who are very pregnant. So, I just went along with it and kept my thoughts to myself.

It's twelve years later and every time I see her I think of her wedding, her very pregnant self, and how crazy it was to have a wedding at that point. It still sits with me.

She will be insanely sleep deprived at four weeks out, assuming the baby comes on the due date and putting aside other factors like potential C-section recovery, etc.

Was this wedding already planned, and therefore she feels like she will lose too much money if she tries to reschedule? Otherwise I like the PP suggestion of a quick ceremony at Townhall or some kind of elopement, and then a big party later on. I would do a party when the baby is about six months old. And I would plan to have a babysitter keep the baby at home after the ceremony.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, what kind of friend makes a post to talk about another friend behind their back?

I mean, lots of people. It’s anonymous. Don’t act holier than thou.

I have quite literally never made a post to talk about a friend behind their back. I've never even made a post talking poorly about a friend.

I lost the weight pretty well and slept okay but I about had a breakdown having to get dressed up for my children’s baptisms at 6 weeks. I felt so fat I wanted to cry and nothing looked good on me. I absolutely would have been a runaway bride if that were my wedding. Why not just do a courthouse wedding now?

Anonymous wrote:I know, none of my business. But I can’t stop thinking about this and I just want to anonymously discuss.

My friend is currently pregnant, getting married just four weeks after her due date. It’s a typical wedding, too, at a typical venue with dancing and everything else you’d expect. I can’t stop thinking that if she has to have a c-section, or runs late, she is going to be in rough shape at this wedding. Can you imagine being 3-4 weeks PP and doing this, let alone 4 weeks post-abdominal surgery?

Not your problem

Yeah that's insane but it's not your place to say anything.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know, none of my business. But I can’t stop thinking about this and I just want to anonymously discuss.

My friend is currently pregnant, getting married just four weeks after her due date. It’s a typical wedding, too, at a typical venue with dancing and everything else you’d expect. I can’t stop thinking that if she has to have a c-section, or runs late, she is going to be in rough shape at this wedding. Can you imagine being 3-4 weeks PP and doing this, let alone 4 weeks post-abdominal surgery?

Yikes. I'm assuming this is her first child? Because she clearly has no idea what is in store... You never fully realize until you have the baby. It's a huge shock. Maybe she will luck out and be one of those women who seem to recover more quickly (that was NOT me, that's for sure!).

Also adding the deep-in-your-bones extreme exhaustion/lack of sleep when having a newborn, on top of recovery from childbirth.

Anonymous wrote:I know, none of my business. But I can’t stop thinking about this and I just want to anonymously discuss.

My friend is currently pregnant, getting married just four weeks after her due date. It’s a typical wedding, too, at a typical venue with dancing and everything else you’d expect. I can’t stop thinking that if she has to have a c-section, or runs late, she is going to be in rough shape at this wedding. Can you imagine being 3-4 weeks PP and doing this, let alone 4 weeks post-abdominal surgery?

Yikes. I'm assuming this is her first child? Because she clearly has no idea what is in store... You never fully realize until you have the baby. It's a huge shock. Maybe she will luck out and be one of those women who seem to recover more quickly (that was NOT me, that's for sure!).