Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote "I can't see my son doing any of this"

Then OP why are you doing any of this. Is little Johnny not allowed to show up to his college without a fridge or roommates who have a fridge. What will happen? Will he die? Or will he learn that some unseen labor needs to happen to make sure he can keep his pizza and soda cold.

Good lord - keep coddling your precious children so they can be miserable adults who can't function on their own.

BTW is fun when they fail at 30 and can't function because they never got to fail at 18.

Yeah I have to agree here. What is the worst that could happen? And it seems like those of you with daughters are even worse.
I showed up to college with some stuff I bought from Ikea on my own and a fridge I won in a raffle. My mother was not concerned about me forgetting something -- I wasn't camping in the wilderness and Target was down the street.

Also agree. People grown when there is friction in their lives. It's necessary for growth. Obviously no need for him to hitch his way across the country but figuring out what he needs for his dorm and figuring out where to buy it, how to get it there, etc., is healthy.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/C33gyW2g_HL/?igsh=MWJrNnFlZm5xYWU4Zw==

Basically this

My second son was going off to a UC in a triple. His roommate reached out and asked did he want to bring a mirror, shoe rack or first aid kit. I bemusedly thought the mom was behind the email. Nope. The kid is FGLI from a monolingual Spanish-speaking family. The roommate turned out to be just a real social, go-getter. He is house manager of his frat next year and wants to clean it up.

Anonymous wrote:DC and his roommate discussed guest expectations, shoe-wearing, bedtimes, and noise levels, as well as who was bringing the fan. That was about it.

Shoe wearing? Weird.

DC and his roommate discussed guest expectations, shoe-wearing, bedtimes, and noise levels, as well as who was bringing the fan. That was about it.

Anonymous wrote:Boys don't typically do this. Mine was in a double and they just discussed who would supply a refrigerator, rug, futon, etc. Bedding colors was not a concern.

Boy mamas do instead

Anonymous wrote:Have your son bring a hammer and a general tool box, hooks to hang things. Offer to help the women who haven't brought their own - he will become quite popular

Very good tip lol. I'll tell that to my very handsome 6'4 son who is very shy.

[quote=Anonymous]My son is in a triple with an in-room bathroom. How does this typically work with the other roommates? Do we coordinate anything?

When my daughter left for college a year ago she and her roommate coordinated bedding, and split buying larger purchases like a fridge and rug. She and her roommate connected online and by the time school had started they had zoomed multiple times. the roommate's mother even reached out to me as they were shipping things to our address are we were much closer to the college.

I can't see my son doing any of this and yet he probably needs most of the same things. How did it work for your son? [/quote]

He is a boy won't happen lol

Nope....son is an athlete and moved/moves in before his roommate even gets to campus. So he brings everything

Have your son bring a hammer and a general tool box, hooks to hang things. Offer to help the women who haven't brought their own - he will become quite popular

Who is bringing the frig, or they end up with ones they have to get rid of

nope - no coordination

"Bro, I found these really amazing flowered towels at Target that would look so cute in our shared kitchen and I think we should riff off the color mint green for pillows and blankets in the living room, because that color is on trend right now."
--Says no bro to another bro ever

Anonymous wrote:OP wrote "I can't see my son doing any of this"

Then OP why are you doing any of this. Is little Johnny not allowed to show up to his college without a fridge or roommates who have a fridge. What will happen? Will he die? Or will he learn that some unseen labor needs to happen to make sure he can keep his pizza and soda cold.

Good lord - keep coddling your precious children so they can be miserable adults who can't function on their own.

BTW is fun when they fail at 30 and can't function because they never got to fail at 18.

Yeah I have to agree here. What is the worst that could happen? And it seems like those of you with daughters are even worse.
I showed up to college with some stuff I bought from Ikea on my own and a fridge I won in a raffle. My mother was not concerned about me forgetting something -- I wasn't camping in the wilderness and Target was down the street.

My ds coordinated with his roommate on 2 things:

1) Who is bringing the Xbox.
2) Who is bringing the TV.