Anonymous wrote:If your mom is there you can go on dates or a weekend away. I like taking dance classes with my husband we get to touch and work together.

Dressing sexy doesn’t mean like walking around in bikinis but maybe you could wear things that show a bit of cleavage, get some lingerie in the bedroom. My husband loves when I am dressed up and do my hair and makeup even if it just a cute dress that I can wear at church.

I love flirting with my husband, touching him, teasing, having fun with him. Just remember that this is your person that you should have fun with.

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Anonymous wrote:If your mom is there you can go on dates or a weekend away. I like taking dance classes with my husband we get to touch and work together.

Dressing sexy doesn’t mean like walking around in bikinis but maybe you could wear things that show a bit of cleavage, get some lingerie in the bedroom. My husband loves when I am dressed up and do my hair and makeup even if it just a cute dress that I can wear at church.

I love flirting with my husband, touching him, teasing, having fun with him. Just remember that this is your person that you should have fun with.

Love this post, how long have you been married?

17 years. We have had our share of dry spells and marital issues but my husband likes to say “you’ve always been a horny weirdo.” And I have! I have always had the higher sex drive. And I like to look my best and flirt, and I think he appreciates that a lot and he shows his appreciation for me too.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

Married 18 years. DH came back from a work trip last Thursday. Our son left to go sports practice DH was in his office going through mail. I asked if he wanted to have a cocktail with me and he said yes. Made his favorite drink, walked into his office with just his favorite heels on, handed him the drink and the. gave him a very nice “experience”. I do this stuff all of the time I don’t know why you think long term married couples don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

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Anonymous wrote:If your mom is there you can go on dates or a weekend away. I like taking dance classes with my husband we get to touch and work together.

Dressing sexy doesn’t mean like walking around in bikinis but maybe you could wear things that show a bit of cleavage, get some lingerie in the bedroom. My husband loves when I am dressed up and do my hair and makeup even if it just a cute dress that I can wear at church.

I love flirting with my husband, touching him, teasing, having fun with him. Just remember that this is your person that you should have fun with.

Love this post, how long have you been married?

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

See, this is the bigger issue. You don’t turn him on the same way, for whatever reason. Maybe have a conversation or get couples counseling to figure out why. He’s capable, he’s just can’t be bothered to put in the effort for his own wife. Simply prancing in lingerie is unlikely to solve this.

Can’t be bothered to put in the effort for his own wife seems to miss the mark.

22 years is a long time. Boredom is natural. Fighting boredom is hard.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

YOU. YOU need to work on that. It sounds like you are not feeling zesty yourself. Fine, get a new haircut or whatever you mentioned that would help you out. But it sounds like the issue here is not that your husband doesn't know how to be zesty.

A new haircut? He don’t give a sh*t about a new haircut.

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Anonymous wrote:If I want DH’s attention, I fix him a drink wearing just an apron and heels. If he doesn’t notice, I keep doing other housework until he does. Pretty soon he’s following me around the house.

Sweet Jesus ... that's working on me already

You're so gullible. You're talking to a dude with a lot of wishful thinking because he is watching too much po&&. No woman does that, especially after being married 20 years.

I'm not the original PP, but I've done this multiple times. Granted, it was a lot more frequent earlier in our relationship, and we've only been together 15 years, so the version of this I did over the weekend doesn't count, I guess.

As for the OP, it sounds like you need to figure out how to enjoy spending time with your husband. He lights up in those other interactions because he's having fun. The conversation is good, zesty, whatever. He enjoys the attention. You just have to figure out how to enjoy being around him for real, so that the laughter and sparkle are spontaneous. There is no study manual for "how to be charming to your husband" here.

Yes zesty is the word. He has pretty zesty conversations with other women.

We do need to work on that.

See, this is the bigger issue. You don’t turn him on the same way, for whatever reason. Maybe have a conversation or get couples counseling to figure out why. He’s capable, he’s just can’t be bothered to put in the effort for his own wife. Simply prancing in lingerie is unlikely to solve this.

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Our teen son and my mum also are with us in the house. So I can’t say exactly wear very sexy clothes around , although he definitely would love that, and it would spice things up. But I can’t do that.
I have been thinking about a new haircut.
I guess I n the d to see what new things we can do in the bedroom that would spice things up more.
We have fallen into a rut and need to come out of it.