Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 09:45     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:If DH goes he should take as much immodium with him as he can. He should mask, wash hands a lot. Tell everyone he is exposed and away away from them. Eat separately. He might kill his mom otherwise.


This is most likely fecal, oral. Masking would be ridiculous. But DH should not be handling food for a day or two.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 09:38     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about him spreading this to his family.

Instead this is about OP??? Wow so selfish, OP. His dad passed say last year.


Not OP, but wow are you rude to call someone selfish who is getting ill and has a child who could end up in the hospital. Because of his needs he not only will not be there for the family he created that is ill, but he could potentially make a frail elderly parent ill.

I have noticed that people who throw around the word "selfish" she callously are often highly manipulative and lack basic empathy.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 09:25     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Call the family and tell them about the stomach bug and ask them to talk to DH to decide.

But overall this sounds like a not very smart group of people. Let them be informed and do what they want to each other. Spend some money to make your next few days easier.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 09:14     Subject: Re:We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are lots of confusing things about OP's post: first, DH was laid off, but yet he's doing overnight shifts at work? Secondly, no elderly person in skilled nursing would go to an overnight camping trip. OP is one very bored person to continue on this fictional thread.


OP here, I'm not bored. This is real life. - "night shift" = he stayed with DS all night while I slept in our guest room.

MIL's SNF approved her for 24 hours of leave and gave her medications.

The camping trip is also at a small cabin with a bathroom, which is shared by 20+ people. It's just a recipe for disaster, but this is what DH chose.


WTF. This sounds like a total disaster.

Did they pick this because this is all they could afford???

Your DH is going to get everyone sick.

How far is this cabin? Maybe he can stop by and come home. This is such a bad idea on so many levels.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 09:12     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for the responses everyone. He texted his family members to give them a heads up and they don’t care. So I’m just going to try and tough it out.


I’m sorry that things are hard. But this is one of those times in marriage that you just have to put in a little more. There isn’t always a good way around that. You know that which why you assumed you’d be roasted. I just lost a parent and couldn’t imagine my husband being anything but supportive of attending things related to my parent. But he has lost a parent too and I did that when it was hard on me. DCUM would absolutely roast a husband who made it hard for a wife to attend her mother’s memorial.


I would not roast a husband who came on with the exact same story as OP. the sex of the spouse is irrelevant here.


You honestly must be new here if you think the crowd wouldn’t roast.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 09:11     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

I thought this was going to be about him spreading this to his family.

Instead this is about OP??? Wow so selfish, OP. His dad passed say last year.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 08:36     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thank you, 3 PPs for being kind. I appreciate it. I wish he would consider the risk of him contracting it or bringing germs with him. His mother is in a skilled nursing facility right now and is very medically fragile. The nursing facility is allowing her to go on the overnight, but a stomach virus could likely put her in the hospital.


Incidentally, this is how my great grandma died. She was in a facility and my selfish uncle dragged his kids in to see her on Easter Sunday even though both kids had been vomiting the day before (he didn't tell us until after the fact). Grandma caught the bug and she was already so frail...

Please urge your husband not to go.
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 08:29     Subject: Re:We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:There are lots of confusing things about OP's post: first, DH was laid off, but yet he's doing overnight shifts at work? Secondly, no elderly person in skilled nursing would go to an overnight camping trip. OP is one very bored person to continue on this fictional thread.


NP. I have worked in a skilled nursing facility and I’m imagining the medically fragile residents. In what universe could they go camping?! Will this woman be expected to sleep in a tent/on the ground? Or is there a camper or cabin? I’m assuming the latter. Also - to go down where with no cell reception when mom is so fragile…sounds so risky.


Just read your update, OP! Makes more sense now - she’ll have a bed. Still sounds risky, though. I’m guessing this is a location that is meaningful to the family?
Anonymous
Post 07/20/2025 08:27     Subject: Re:We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:There are lots of confusing things about OP's post: first, DH was laid off, but yet he's doing overnight shifts at work? Secondly, no elderly person in skilled nursing would go to an overnight camping trip. OP is one very bored person to continue on this fictional thread.


NP. I have worked in a skilled nursing facility and I’m imagining the medically fragile residents. In what universe could they go camping?! Will this woman be expected to sleep in a tent/on the ground? Or is there a camper or cabin? I’m assuming the latter. Also - to go down where with no cell reception when mom is so fragile…sounds so risky.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 20:20     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:DS has had diarrhea 12+ times today and pooped his pants 7 times.


This is an ER visit


It's not an ER visit, but for goodness sake, stop giving him food until he stops. Fluids only. This holds, of course, only in real life. Not the fictional universe of OP's thread.


It could be. Sounds like the kid is seriously dehydrated if he has that frequent diarrhea.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 14:19     Subject: Re:We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:There are lots of confusing things about OP's post: first, DH was laid off, but yet he's doing overnight shifts at work? Secondly, no elderly person in skilled nursing would go to an overnight camping trip. OP is one very bored person to continue on this fictional thread.


OP here, I'm not bored. This is real life. - "night shift" = he stayed with DS all night while I slept in our guest room.

MIL's SNF approved her for 24 hours of leave and gave her medications.

The camping trip is also at a small cabin with a bathroom, which is shared by 20+ people. It's just a recipe for disaster, but this is what DH chose.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2025 13:37     Subject: We have a raging stomach virus and my husband is going to an overnight memorial tomorrow.

Anonymous wrote:DS has had diarrhea 12+ times today and pooped his pants 7 times.


This is an ER visit


It's not an ER visit, but for goodness sake, stop giving him food until he stops. Fluids only. This holds, of course, only in real life. Not the fictional universe of OP's thread.