Of course he did. They always do. He needs to feel like a big man, and the easiest way of doing that is tearing down someone smaller and weaker than him. Disgusting.

Get his outbursts on video, long recordings.

Encourage her to open up to teachers, camp counselors.

Eventually one of them will call CPS as required.

Ask neighbors to call police for a welfare check while daughter is not home.

Call hospital for an involuntary commitment.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s up with the dog comments? Clearly OP and her daughter love their dog, geez.

I love my dog too, but I would kill it myself with my bare hands, if that’s what it took, over keeping my daughter trapped in an abusive situation.

Well, luckily OP isn't having to choose her kid over her dog. So she's also taking care of the dog. Stop hammering on her about the dog.

DP.

OP is the one who mentioned not having enough money.

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he does not "get to have" daughter because he terrified her with his actions. Make that in an email so you have record and detail what he did.
Tell him if he can't understand that he needs to talk to his doctor asap.

OP, I would consult with a lawyer as soon as you can. He actually does "get to have" his daughter, as a court likely won't award you sole custody based on that incident. I know men who have done much, much worse and are still given 50/50 custody. I'm just saying I think you should be careful about keeping your daughter away from him because it likely won't last long term and it may prompt him to do something rash. I'm not saying you did the wrong thing, at all, but similar to leaving the house, you need to get legal advice on your choice to keep your daughter away from him. If you truly feel like he should not be allowed near either of you, you should consider getting a protective order. Otherwise you may be violating his parental rights and I'd hate for you to have to deal with that on top of everything else. Good luck, and I hope you have some friends to turn to.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s up with the dog comments? Clearly OP and her daughter love their dog, geez.

I love my dog too, but I would kill it myself with my bare hands, if that’s what it took, over keeping my daughter trapped in an abusive situation.

Well, luckily OP isn't having to choose her kid over her dog. So she's also taking care of the dog. Stop hammering on her about the dog.

OP where are you located? People can help more if we know the basic location to send you resources hotel recs etc.

Do not withhold but empower her to express herself. At some point he will not be able to force her to spend time with him.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him he does not "get to have" daughter because he terrified her with his actions. Make that in an email so you have record and detail what he did.
Tell him if he can't understand that he needs to talk to his doctor asap.

That’s all well and fine but no police were called, no physical altercations happened, and mom can’t unilaterally withhold a 10 year old
From father of it will come
Back to bite her in court. As a victim: please believe me she. I say that the courts do NOT care about verbal abuse. They don’t even care about physical abuse of the mother. At all. Facts.

OP and when I called the hotline they didn’t say this outright but it was said between the lines that I should not withhold contact/interaction with DD. I’ve left it open to DH to meet her at events or pick her up from things to take her to where we are staying, even though she doesn’t want to see him. Fortunately/unfortunately he has not made an attempt to arrange plans with her.

Anonymous wrote:Tell him he does not "get to have" daughter because he terrified her with his actions. Make that in an email so you have record and detail what he did.
Tell him if he can't understand that he needs to talk to his doctor asap.

That’s all well and fine but no police were called, no physical altercations happened, and mom can’t unilaterally withhold a 10 year old
From father of it will come
Back to bite her in court. As a victim: please believe me she. I say that the courts do NOT care about verbal abuse. They don’t even care about physical abuse of the mother. At all. Facts.

Anonymous wrote:Men really love their daughters. Even men who abuse their wives tend to not show the same disgusting behavior towards their daughters.

I'm sorry OP, but you and your daughter deserve better. Don't stay.

Substantiate this please. I disagree and believe that divorced men often turn their shame and shortcomings and subsequent rage on their daughters once they’re old enough to have opinions or not always flatter or agree with dad.

Mine would frequently gaslight the kids about his drinking. The first time DD was old enough to call him out on him driving them drunk, he unleashed his abuse on her.

Abusers, abuse.

Tell him he does not "get to have" daughter because he terrified her with his actions. Make that in an email so you have record and detail what he did.
Tell him if he can't understand that he needs to talk to his doctor asap.