Anonymous wrote:Has anyone sent their slightly depressed, somewhat sad, teen to a therapist and found that it worsened the situation? That they came out with a victim mentality and resenting their parents for doing basic parenting? I feel like my daughter got more moody and sulky after a year therapy instead of better, and now it’s rubbing off on her younger siblings. A friend of mine said the same thing.

This can happen. Best to discontinue that therapist if it happens.

Anonymous wrote:Abigail Shrier has written about this pretty extensively in the book “Bad Therapy.” There’ are some trends within the therapy industry that are particularly bad for teens.

(This isn’t to say all therapy is bad, but there are many who encourage rumination, victimhood as status, labeling normal adversity as trauma, alienation from parents, etc.)

Nice to hear someone is calling them out at least.

Ours sees a cognitive behavioral therapist. It’s been life changing

Reading this thread, I feel so lucky that we had a really great therapy experience with my 14 year old. I tend to be very wary of therapy myself, but my kid was having some really intense feelings out of the blue and he did not want to talk to his parents about it all. Just being able to unload on someone neutral for a few sessions seemed to really set him even again. She deemed him ready to stop after about 5 or 6 sessions, but my son knows he can check in with her if he’s ever not feeling right again.

I think we got lucky with her—I’m sure it can go wrong—but sometimes it really does help for a kid to feel like there’s a place where they can speak freely.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the huge rise in teens seeing therapist. Except in extreme cases of trauma or mental illness, why is this common place now?

Just notice how many posters on DCUM include the recommendation for "therapy" with virtually any problem a parent posts that their child is having.

Frankly, I think it's an excuse to abdicate parental responsibilities. Oh, but the "expert" said so, so it must be right.

What don’t you understand about how many people have zero parenting skills

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Anonymous wrote:Our daughter asked to see a therapist about a year ago for someone to talk to and it’s made things much worse. We were very supportive but somehow it’s turned into all about us being bad parents and a complete shut down of doing anything in the house. Anything at all now. Now she yells at us, slams doors and says she will not put up with the way we talk to her. It was a huge mistake.

We are thankful of preseason sports training and sports camps that she wanted to go to because sessions needed to be cancelled. We think she will want to stop in August when her school sport starts because she won’t be able to fit it in.

Why in the hell are you still letting her go? It sounds ilke she makes all the decisions in your household because you're afraid to say no to her.

She hasn’t gone all summer and doesn’t have upcoming appointments because of the fall sport. I wasn’t clear.

But you are still "supportive," allowing her to slam doors and yell at you. I would have put a stop to that pronto.

Exactly how would you do that pronto??

Parents like you suck as well no better than a bad therapist

Yes, it was a massive problem.

Abigail Shrier has written about this pretty extensively in the book “Bad Therapy.” There’ are some trends within the therapy industry that are particularly bad for teens.

(This isn’t to say all therapy is bad, but there are many who encourage rumination, victimhood as status, labeling normal adversity as trauma, alienation from parents, etc.)

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone sent their slightly depressed, somewhat sad, teen to a therapist and found that it worsened the situation? That they came out with a victim mentality and resenting their parents for doing basic parenting? I feel like my daughter got more moody and sulky after a year therapy instead of better, and now it’s rubbing off on her younger siblings. A friend of mine said the same thing.

Why are you surprised? Good for repeat business.

Anonymous wrote:Talk therapy only = rumination, especially in teens.

OP I kind of agree with this. There needs to be a component of self-awareness and skill-building. Some therapists don't do enough of this.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get the huge rise in teens seeing therapist. Except in extreme cases of trauma or mental illness, why is this common place now?

Just notice how many posters on DCUM include the recommendation for "therapy" with virtually any problem a parent posts that their child is having.

Frankly, I think it's an excuse to abdicate parental responsibilities. Oh, but the "expert" said so, so it must be right.