Anonymous wrote:I went to a 4th of July bbq and it was a bit awkward and didn’t really come off. The hosts are great and very well liked. It was hot and the mix of people didn’t blend perfectly. But it was really because it was hot.

The hosts are still great. I appreciated the invite. I’m glad I went and we had some good conversations. I met some nice people. I would definitely go again.

Even if it wasn’t the best thing you’ve hosted ever, it’s worthwhile. No doubt people got positive things from it.

We had a party on a very hot day and our great friends still turned up because they love us. We ran sprinklers for the kids… water stations, movies in the house. So they had a great time but every adult looked miserable and everyone left early. Our friends are FUN - we had plenty of cold drinks and adult beverages. It was the heat.

For contrast when we had a similar party in the spring everyone lingered. In hindsight we probably should have had more indoor seating options for the adults too.

Good of you to initiate and host. I’m sure people enjoyed and it isn’t your responsibility to lead alll conversations . Friendships develop after several shared experiences. Maybe suggest an outing of some sort to the same group. Maybe a picnic atone of the local free concerts.

Anonymous wrote:The trouble with neighbors is they aren't of your choosing. They talk about siding. Or the horrific tragic headline in the news that day - not party, lively up-beat conversation.

so boring, at least maybe talk about whether to install panels on roof