Anonymous
07/18/2025 14:53
Subject: Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My crazy sociology teacher many years ago said to us that men who have sex with trans women are straight men because they view them as women. He said they are not bi because trans women are women. This was 12 years ago.
So OP maybe your ex likes trans women.
Regardless, hopefully now that he is divorced he can have sex with whoever he wants to without shame. We love once so it would be a waste if a man like men but stay in the closest. If I liked men you damn right I'll be seeking them. Live life folks. But I just love pussy and the sexual energy I feel around a woman is irreplaceable
Your teacher was wrong. Trans women aren’t women. They are men. Straight men into trans or gay men are gay.
So if a woman is with a trans woman (born a man), is she straight then?
Anonymous
07/16/2025 07:42
Subject: Re:Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
Has anyone else noticed a certain poster here who unfailingly, but baselessly, theorizes someone’s husband “is probably gay.” in every single thread about husband-problems?
Every time. (I’m not talking about op here; her issue seems legit and real).
To that person: I’m sorry you accidentally married a gay man and failed to realize it.
But stop theorizing every other woman’s husband is secretly in the closet. Your bitter posts are not helpful.
Every time. (I’m not talking about op here; her issue seems legit and real).
To that person: I’m sorry you accidentally married a gay man and failed to realize it.
But stop theorizing every other woman’s husband is secretly in the closet. Your bitter posts are not helpful.
Anonymous
07/14/2025 12:01
Subject: Re:Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
First of:
- fantasy is only that: a mere fantasy. People fantasize about cartoon characters. Obviously that’s never happening. Don’t read too much into fantasy.
Second: gay men are attracted to other men in every sense of the word attracted, including marriage / cohabitation, in some cases parenting, shared interests, etc. it goes far, far beyond just s*x, in the same way heteros’ marriages are so much more than just s*x.
Point is: too many here on DCUM seem to instantly jump to labeling a DH “gay” for the most ridiculous and inane reasons. It’s frankly offensive; both to the individual people and to gay people in general.
Grow up, have some respect, and stop reading LGTBQIA+ identity into every post about husbands here.
- fantasy is only that: a mere fantasy. People fantasize about cartoon characters. Obviously that’s never happening. Don’t read too much into fantasy.
Second: gay men are attracted to other men in every sense of the word attracted, including marriage / cohabitation, in some cases parenting, shared interests, etc. it goes far, far beyond just s*x, in the same way heteros’ marriages are so much more than just s*x.
Point is: too many here on DCUM seem to instantly jump to labeling a DH “gay” for the most ridiculous and inane reasons. It’s frankly offensive; both to the individual people and to gay people in general.
Grow up, have some respect, and stop reading LGTBQIA+ identity into every post about husbands here.
Anonymous
07/14/2025 11:52
Subject: Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
Anonymous wrote:No, but AP loves rimming me. 🤔
Uhhhh... 😳😵💫
Anonymous
07/14/2025 10:13
Subject: Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
No, but AP loves rimming me. 🤔
Anonymous
07/14/2025 10:06
Subject: Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Rocco the very famous porn star said that all men are bi because he said he doesn't know any man who like to watch another man who doesn't have a big erect penis during a porn scene. He said when men watch porn they cannot ignore the erect penis of the male actor and if that man had a soft limp d**k he wouldn't watch the scene.
Does it also follow that if I watch porn and there's a lot of closeups of a woman's genitals then I must be bi because I still watch it even though I'm a straight woman?
I think the reality both ways, for men and women, is if you watch porn to see straight people having intercourse it's pretty impossible to see that without watching both a man's erect penis and a woman's genitals. Porn that involves a man's limp dick is virtually nonexistent.
+1
I don’t agree with Rocco’s theory at all.
Anonymous
07/14/2025 00:46
Subject: Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is so bizarre that I'm seeing this.. my husband has a lot of misogynistic tendencies and it has been suggested to me that he might be into men.. never would have crossed my mind but now I'm starting to log things he says and does to wait and see.. this is just wild to me..
Misogynists tend to be the complete opposite of gay.
Gay guys usually love being around women and besties.
I am OP and my ex had deep seated misogynist beliefs. I don’t know if he ever verbalized them but his actions are why we divorced. What is datalounge?
I used to think this until I started reading datalounge.
I am the PP with the misogynistic husband. Now I'm going down the rabbit hole..
Anonymous
07/14/2025 00:34
Subject: Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?
Anonymous wrote:Rocco the very famous porn star said that all men are bi because he said he doesn't know any man who like to watch another man who doesn't have a big erect penis during a porn scene. He said when men watch porn they cannot ignore the erect penis of the male actor and if that man had a soft limp d**k he wouldn't watch the scene.
Does it also follow that if I watch porn and there's a lot of closeups of a woman's genitals then I must be bi because I still watch it even though I'm a straight woman?
I think the reality both ways, for men and women, is if you watch porn to see straight people having intercourse it's pretty impossible to see that without watching both a man's erect penis and a woman's genitals. Porn that involves a man's limp dick is virtually nonexistent.