Anonymous
Post 07/10/2025 18:58     Subject: Concealing Inheritance
Anonymous wrote:From my ILs? They’re staying with us briefly and will see a new car I just purchased with an inheritance (my last parent died well over a year ago-my ILs attended funeral). DH told me he didn’t mention the new car to his parents because they’d immediately assume (correctly) an inheritance and will push for more details.

ILs have always been nosy, intrusive but yet are oddly low-effort and self focused. I have limited interaction with them after being fodder for their gossip for too long.

I am up for being honest and straightforward and cutting through the BS by just telling them I did get an inheritance. Maybe get it out there in the open and pick them up in my new car? See if they notice?



I feel like I’m missing something…Unless your parent had no assets or you had 10 siblings it would be odd for your ILs to assume you would get absolutely nothing. Right? I don’t see why you would hide a vehicle from them to stop questions or some truly harmless gossip (“Tom and Lily bought a new car and it’s expensive!”) unless you’ve been telling them you were broke so they would give you money.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2025 09:50     Subject: Concealing Inheritance
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I guess I don't understand you OP. You bought a new car with your inheritance. So what? Are you worried about getting smaller inheritance from in-laws down the road?


OP back - bought a used luxury car. Noticeable because I traded in an old econobox/no frills. I’m pretty frugal and budget conscious. ILs always have been super judgy about my career, lifestyle choices and weirdly competitive with my late parents about grandparent status, involvement, presents, etc.


Just say that the old one conked out and you had to buy something in a hurry. If they make any "observations" about how much it cost, agree with them along the lines of "I know! Cars are expensive these days! DH wanted to call you to see if you can gift us some money, but I told him not to!". That out to shut them up.


I love this!
-not OP
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2025 09:50     Subject: Concealing Inheritance
I don’t understand why it’s so odd to receive an inheritance.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2025 09:48     Subject: Concealing Inheritance
Is it a Lambo?
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2025 09:43     Subject: Concealing Inheritance
They will expect handouts later on. Say you got a deal and like the car. Period. If they ask about inheritances say you are still processing your loss can we please takk about something else..
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2025 09:15     Subject: Concealing Inheritance
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s a USED car! If the in-laws pounce on the luxury model, keep telling them it’s a used vehicle and we got a good deal (NO specifics).


This. You got a “good deal” on a used car. Then you change the subject.


Great idea, do that.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2025 09:04     Subject: Re:Concealing Inheritance
These all sound like lower middle class problems. Also, if you don’t have a lot of savings, then buying a used depreciating asset that will require a lot of upkeep (because let’s be honest, BMWs do) is not a great financial decision.