Anonymous wrote:I would have thought more people would just respond that it’s because their hormonal desire is low. Statistically, the majority of women dont have natural day to day drive. I’d assume that’s the driving factor in the majority of cases, and all the other things above are just “excuses” that are covering up for the fact that you’re not naturally horny anymore.
Anonymous wrote:Resentment + Always on his phone.
Hard to be attracted to someone who can’t cook, clean, or parent because they’re on their phone nonstop.
Anonymous wrote:
You and I both know that if I didn’t type what you bolded that you’d come back and say I was fat and ugly and boring.
I’m still in great shape post children. I have progressively upped my skincare game, still get hair cuts and color, etc. He gained 30lbs and does nothing to maintain his hair or skin. He’s become more close minded as we age. I am still adventurous and have suggested things for inside and outside the bedroom only to be shot down.
Anonymous wrote:I would have thought more people would just respond that it’s because their hormonal desire is low. Statistically, the majority of women dont have natural day to day drive. I’d assume that’s the driving factor in the majority of cases, and all the other things above are just “excuses” that are covering up for the fact that you’re not naturally horny anymore.
Anonymous wrote:one to many arguments that veered too close to the line to abusive. Not legally physical abuse but angry enough to not feel safe and have zero sexual desire. Also being a jerk about it - whining about me wanting to have the curtains drawn (during the day!) and making it clear he thought I was inadequate.
Anonymous wrote:I was never really much into it (low drive). I just sort of faked it when I first met DH; we married w/in a year and I got pregnant almost immediately.
Used pregnancy as an excuse to not do it. 2nd was wanted but happened surprisingly soon after. Got another 9 month reprieve.
After that, just focused on kids, kept busy, and mostly just put off DH’s advances for years (he is very patient lol). I’d be fine if I never had “it” again.
Anonymous wrote:Spouse doesn't seem to care about me as a person. The only attention I seem to receive is a boob or butt grab when he wants something. I've expressed repeatedly a desire for more communication and date nights and that goes unheard.
Then spouse has gone all in to a travel sport with our 9 year old, like he thinks the kid will be a prospect (kid is good but not a stud). So now I feel like he's an idiot too.