They dont' want that many guests.

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Anonymous wrote:Your BROTHER doesn’t care enough to have it domestically, OP, so stop blaming his fiancee. Even if she wants it, he’s still going along with it.

If I had told my DH we were going to have a destination wedding and not care if family showed up, he would have said, uh NOPE. And he is as mild-mannered as they come.

It’s so tiresome for you to be blaming a woman instead of your brother. He has a brain and a voice. If he cared about your family being there, you’d know it. But he doesn’t. He’s Just Not That Into You.

The groom is my BIL, DH’s brother, not my brother.

We will go. We may be the only family who goes.

OK? Who cares? Great thread.

My question was on the OP. Do you expect people not to attend by having a destination wedding?

We have a small family and bride has a large family. I would think BIL would want his whole family there, but maybe he doesn’t care.

Anonymous wrote:Agree. Why not just have a simple local ceremony, and then go on a honeymoon?
Destination weddings are selfish and overcomplicated, and scream of entitlement.

OP here. This is what I was thinking. Go on the honeymoon to this location, not make everyone go.

I also wanted a destination wedding for all of five minutes. My parents, my in laws and DH all said it would be too difficult for guests to get to and shut it down. We did go on a beautiful honeymoon.

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Anonymous wrote:Your BROTHER doesn’t care enough to have it domestically, OP, so stop blaming his fiancee. Even if she wants it, he’s still going along with it.

If I had told my DH we were going to have a destination wedding and not care if family showed up, he would have said, uh NOPE. And he is as mild-mannered as they come.

It’s so tiresome for you to be blaming a woman instead of your brother. He has a brain and a voice. If he cared about your family being there, you’d know it. But he doesn’t. He’s Just Not That Into You.

The groom is my BIL, DH’s brother, not my brother.

We will go. We may be the only family who goes.

OK? Who cares? Great thread.

Anonymous wrote:Your BROTHER doesn’t care enough to have it domestically, OP, so stop blaming his fiancee. Even if she wants it, he’s still going along with it.

If I had told my DH we were going to have a destination wedding and not care if family showed up, he would have said, uh NOPE. And he is as mild-mannered as they come.

It’s so tiresome for you to be blaming a woman instead of your brother. He has a brain and a voice. If he cared about your family being there, you’d know it. But he doesn’t. He’s Just Not That Into You.

The groom is my BIL, DH’s brother, not my brother.

We will go. We may be the only family who goes.

It’s an easy “get out of jail free card” if you don’t want to go to the wedding.

1. Cost - destination weddings are a fraction of the cost. Why start a marriage in debt to celebrate one day?

2. Invites - everyone can be invited but those you don’t want there won’t attend. Great solution when you have complicated and problematic family. Unfortunately it will mean some people you want to attend won’t be able to come. That is okay. You can celebrate with them later.

3. Weddings are about the bride and groom. Stop feeling so self important that a couple has to try and meet the expectations of every extended family member and friend. It’s impossible. Someone will have to travel or incur expenses to attend even if not a destination wedding for the bride or groom. That is life. If you don’t want to attend or can’t, it’s okay. No one expects a gift.

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Anonymous wrote:I got married in Italy because I married a woman that was from Chianti but came over to the states at 10. All her family was back there.

Is that a 'destination wedding'?

It is for your side.

So if I married a woman from Cleveland, it's a destination wedding? All weddings not in your town are destination weddings?

LOL the muppets on this site.

Yeah, these folks are being ridiculous.

A wedding at a resort in the Caribbean or Mexico, when neither bride nor groom is from there, is a destination wedding. A wedding in the town the bride is from, the groom is from, or where they live, or whatever, is not. Not sure why this isn't clear.

Just don’t go. You seem really selfish.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Oh look, it's the nasty "honey" ("sweetie" "dear" etc) poster, dripping with condescension and bitterness.

We know that no one is inviting you to Cancun, so it doesn't matter whether you think it is fun or not.

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Anonymous wrote:I got married in Italy because I married a woman that was from Chianti but came over to the states at 10. All her family was back there.

Is that a 'destination wedding'?

It is for your side.

So if I married a woman from Cleveland, it's a destination wedding? All weddings not in your town are destination weddings?

LOL the muppets on this site.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Omg then don’t go. You’re not some VIP so just get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

DH and I have gone to weddings in Puerto Rico and Turks . We had a blast as did our friends.

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Anonymous wrote:It's much less expensive to host a wedding in Mexico than in the US major city we live in. We were able to include elements we wanted that we otherwise wouldn't have been able to have.

Weddings, especially in major cities, have reached astronomical prices. A lot of people are having small weddings or going overseas to the Caribbean or Mexico where it is significantly cheaper.

Cheaper for the couple lol. That’s the issue. If your plan is to make it cheaper for yourself and more expensive and time consuming for your guests then don’t be surprised when most decline and the ones who have to be there (like siblings) are salty about it.

You sound fun.

Honey nobody wants to take 3 days off work and pay $5k to attend your Cancun wedding. It is not fun.

Anonymous wrote:My opinion is that it is an attempt to avoid an issue. However, it simply postpones.
Either they don’t want certain people coming or they don’t want to argue about details or involve family…
Eventually it catches up to them.

Every bride isn’t super into their weddings and with some families wedding planning ends up being high drama. She might not want to deal with it.