Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 07:18     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.



Yikes!
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 07:17     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.



Oh yeah this sounds like a real story.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 07:16     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.



You can’t afford a $8000 bag (yet). Your DW should know better and should have asked for something reasonable. Her request was neither reasonable nor fair.


Danger, Will Robinson. If she wants things like this at your HHI she can get a job.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 07:15     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!

If you can afford it - purchase it.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 07:14     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Get a Chinese knockoff. She won't know the difference if you select carefully.


Don’t you dare do this OP, I would rather have no bag than a fake. There are authenticity tags in many of the designer handbags, they can be scanned to detect if they are counterfeit.


This. I guarantee you she will walk into Chanel one day to have it authenticated and will sink into the floor and feel humiliate when they tell her it's a fake.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 07:13     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
She is carrying this bag to drop off kids at daycare?

Your net worth does not justify an $8K Chanel bag.

She’s envious of others at drop off. She keeping up with the Joneses. You may want to spend more time with her. It’s free.

Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 06:58     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
You have way bigger problems.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 01:45     Subject: Re:My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Anonymous wrote:donate $8K in her name to a homeless shelter.


+1

That would buy vast amount of meals for the homeless.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 01:16     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Ugh. You married a moron. I would have no problem with that ask if you could afford it. You can only afford it if you undermine your family’s finances which makes your wife a stupid selfish person
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 01:01     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
You must have known before now that you married a materialistic, superficial woman with no financial literacy.

What a couple waste of money and absence of sense. Being peer influenced at her age is such a sign of immaturity and would be a complete off for me.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 00:46     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Wow, she sounds like a piece of work. You are much better off spending the 8K on therapy. Is your older kid at a ritzy private school?
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 00:44     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.



You can’t afford a $8000 bag (yet). Your DW should know better and should have asked for something reasonable. Her request was neither reasonable nor fair.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 00:42     Subject: Re:My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
donate $8K in her name to a homeless shelter.
Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 00:33     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
This is not a milestone birthday. She is turning 34. I’m 32.
Our kids are 3 and 5. After our second child was born, we decided she will stay home until both kids start school.
I’m the sole breadwinner. HHI is $250k.
We have a mortgage but our cars are paid off.
We only started funding our 529s last year.
Our net worth is approximately $700k including home equity.

I don’t think we can afford to spend $8k on a handbag.

I believe she is being influenced by some of her friends.
She said that if I don't get her that handbag, she'll just buy it herself and remember that I'm a worthless husband.



Wow. Ok - just to confirm what you clearly know - buying the bag is a bad idea.

Anonymous
Post 05/28/2025 00:15     Subject: My wife wants a $8,000 handbag. Please help!
once you do this once, it will be something else next to impress the Joneses.