Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:28     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:25     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
LOL.

I remember I was in my mid 20s and one of the more senior managers at my company asked me to ride a motorcycle to his home he bought. He was mid 30s, 2 or 3 young kids.

I will never forget his wife on the driveway holding a baby.

Now that was probably worthy of a discussion- a gun? No. I’m surprised he even mentioned it unless he had to bring in a large safe too.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:24     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is horrible and downright dangerous. I was in this situation, but I said “either you live with your gun or you live with your wife/kids.”
His family member stored the gun for him. That marriage ended in divorce within a few years.
This should have been discussed with you. Please protect your children. ASAP.

Yep.


NP And how exactly will he live without kids? If they get a divorce, the kid will be 50-50. So this is not a deterrent. There are nuts out there who would value a weapon more than their spouse, but what you are saying does not make sense. It's an empty threat and he would know it.

If he actually divorced and took 50/50 over a GUN- instead of storing at the range or returning it or selling it - then hes probably not a great father and I’d fight tooth and nail for custody. He cares more about his gun than his family? He can f*** right off and we’d all be better off.


Couldn’t it be said that her attempts to control him demonstrate that she cares more about controlling him than her marriage?


Hah. You have no experience in family court. Restricting weapons in the home is very common as part of custody agreements.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:23     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.


If my husband brought home a gun without asking me, the gun would not enter my house. I'd take it back, take it to a gun donation program, or tell him to get out and take his gun with him.

I also just can't fathom the kind of person who does that. We talked about kid safety before we bought a rowing machine.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:22     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is horrible and downright dangerous. I was in this situation, but I said “either you live with your gun or you live with your wife/kids.”
His family member stored the gun for him. That marriage ended in divorce within a few years.
This should have been discussed with you. Please protect your children. ASAP.

Yep.


NP And how exactly will he live without kids? If they get a divorce, the kid will be 50-50. So this is not a deterrent. There are nuts out there who would value a weapon more than their spouse, but what you are saying does not make sense. It's an empty threat and he would know it.

If he actually divorced and took 50/50 over a GUN- instead of storing at the range or returning it or selling it - then hes probably not a great father and I’d fight tooth and nail for custody. He cares more about his gun than his family? He can f*** right off and we’d all be better off.


Couldn’t it be said that her attempts to control him demonstrate that she cares more about controlling him than her marriage?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:22     Subject: Re:DH Bought a Gun
This is unacceptable to me. I will not live in a home with guns for any reason. He would have to keep the gun elsewhere the children and I do not go (so no keeping it in his car).
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:21     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.


That’s what I thought, too.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:20     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is horrible and downright dangerous. I was in this situation, but I said “either you live with your gun or you live with your wife/kids.”
His family member stored the gun for him. That marriage ended in divorce within a few years.
This should have been discussed with you. Please protect your children. ASAP.

Yep.


NP And how exactly will he live without kids? If they get a divorce, the kid will be 50-50. So this is not a deterrent. There are nuts out there who would value a weapon more than their spouse, but what you are saying does not make sense. It's an empty threat and he would know it.

If he actually divorced and took 50/50 over a GUN- instead of storing at the range or returning it or selling it - then hes probably not a great father and I’d fight tooth and nail for custody. He cares more about his gun than his family? He can f*** right off and we’d all be better off.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:20     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is horrible and downright dangerous. I was in this situation, but I said “either you live with your gun or you live with your wife/kids.”
His family member stored the gun for him. That marriage ended in divorce within a few years.
This should have been discussed with you. Please protect your children. ASAP.

Yep.


NP And how exactly will he live without kids? If they get a divorce, the kid will be 50-50. So this is not a deterrent. There are nuts out there who would value a weapon more than their spouse, but what you are saying does not make sense. It's an empty threat and he would know it.


Not in many states and having an unsecured weapon would affect custody
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:14     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So many of these replies are, “tell me you’re an urban, liberal elite without telling me you’re an urban liberal elite.”


If being a liberal elite means I don't hunt, live somewhere safe, and don't need a gun, then guilty. I have relatives and friends who have different situations. Most who have guns are slightly paranoid, but they are responsible and "ready".

I have a friend with a "tactical bookcase" that she bought at an NRA convention. Do you?


No, you’re willingness to tell others how they should live their lives without any understanding of life other than your own, which you presume to be superior, makes you a liberal urban elite.


Ah yes, Republicans. Famous for preserving individual rights and choices.

(/s if that wasn't obvious).


Not a republican and nice swerve, PP!
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:13     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
This reads like a troll post trying to stir up an argument. So many troll posts lately. Probably all the same person.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:12     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:Did he also come home with a gun safe and proper gun locks. Because absolute NO way a gun goes into a house with children without proper safety storage. That is 100% NOT a "deal with it later" thing.

My Dad was both in the military and a physician. He'd both had extensive firearms training and treated bullet wounds, including those in children. He was extremely firm on proper gun safety. You do not leave it assembled. You do not leave it loaded. You do not leave it unlocked. You lock ammunition separately from the gun with separate codes, so it a kid cracks one, they don't Crack another.

But statistically speaking, yes, the presence of a gun in a home significantly increases the chance of death, from suicide, homicide, or accidental shootings. If anyone in the house experiences mental health issues, the gun has to go immediately.



Amen !
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:07     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So many of these replies are, “tell me you’re an urban, liberal elite without telling me you’re an urban liberal elite.”


If being a liberal elite means I don't hunt, live somewhere safe, and don't need a gun, then guilty. I have relatives and friends who have different situations. Most who have guns are slightly paranoid, but they are responsible and "ready".

I have a friend with a "tactical bookcase" that she bought at an NRA convention. Do you?


No, you’re willingness to tell others how they should live their lives without any understanding of life other than your own, which you presume to be superior, makes you a liberal urban elite.


Ah yes, Republicans. Famous for preserving individual rights and choices.

(/s if that wasn't obvious).
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 13:05     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2025 12:58     Subject: DH Bought a Gun
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So many of these replies are, “tell me you’re an urban, liberal elite without telling me you’re an urban liberal elite.”


If being a liberal elite means I don't hunt, live somewhere safe, and don't need a gun, then guilty. I have relatives and friends who have different situations. Most who have guns are slightly paranoid, but they are responsible and "ready".

I have a friend with a "tactical bookcase" that she bought at an NRA convention. Do you?


No, you’re willingness to tell others how they should live their lives without any understanding of life other than your own, which you presume to be superior, makes you a liberal urban elite.