Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 19:49     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:I order them because I long for the British Empire and want to signal to other imperialists out there. I never knew I was signaling to gay men. What about gay British imperialists? This is like a Somerset Maugham story.


There's a reason people in the British Empire drank G&Ts every evening... besides the quinine. It's refreshing and delicious. Sure, the whole enterprise was rapacious and cruel, but the lifestyle actually made a lot of sense.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 19:44     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
I order them because I long for the British Empire and want to signal to other imperialists out there. I never knew I was signaling to gay men. What about gay British imperialists? This is like a Somerset Maugham story.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 19:43     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
In the South it's a typical summer drink.
Bourbon for winter.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 19:41     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:I’m a man who loves good gin, high quality tonic and a fresh lime. I don’t care what women or anyone for that matter thinks about me because they’re not paying for my drinks.


And you’re a huge fan of White Lotus and you’ve seen every ep of SATC three times? lol
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 19:40     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If a bachelor wants to separate himself from the pack, confidently sober + faith is hot. Being really into alcohol has become passé.


I met a girl in college who sounded like you. She wanted to us to go to her church outing for our first date. I sometimes wondered what ever happened to her.


Some real nasty stuff -- current husband doesn't know about it.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 19:39     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If a bachelor wants to separate himself from the pack, confidently sober + faith is hot. Being really into alcohol has become passé.


I met a girl in college who sounded like you. She wanted to us to go to her church outing for our first date. I sometimes wondered what ever happened to her.


Snooze ya lose.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:59     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:If a bachelor wants to separate himself from the pack, confidently sober + faith is hot. Being really into alcohol has become passé.


I met a girl in college who sounded like you. She wanted to us to go to her church outing for our first date. I sometimes wondered what ever happened to her.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:57     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Ernest Hemingway's favorite drink was gin.

So... yeah, it's either a drink for closeted men, or frightening violent heterosexuals. I dunno.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:56     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had never heard this in my life but now twice in recent months in different social settings and in completely different regions of the U.S., among all college educated women, it’s been gossiped this is like a known thing. Gin and tonic has some effeminate and/or gaydar insinuations?


Gin is a harsh drink.

I've actually heard the opposite, from bartenders -- gin drinkers are the dangerous ones.


When I think of gin drinkers I think of men like my FIL - preppy boomer, smart, witty and gregarious. I guess it depends on your social circle and geography.

I doubt white trash dangerous drunks are buying $50 bottles of Hendrick’s.


Yeah, not white trash -- angry, violent and problematic.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:56     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
I’m a man who loves good gin, high quality tonic and a fresh lime. I don’t care what women or anyone for that matter thinks about me because they’re not paying for my drinks.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:53     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I had never heard this in my life but now twice in recent months in different social settings and in completely different regions of the U.S., among all college educated women, it’s been gossiped this is like a known thing. Gin and tonic has some effeminate and/or gaydar insinuations?


Gin is a harsh drink.

I've actually heard the opposite, from bartenders -- gin drinkers are the dangerous ones.


When I think of gin drinkers I think of men like my FIL - preppy boomer, smart, witty and gregarious. I guess it depends on your social circle and geography.

I doubt white trash dangerous drunks are buying $50 bottles of Hendrick’s.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:49     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
If a bachelor wants to separate himself from the pack, confidently sober + faith is hot. Being really into alcohol has become passé.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:45     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:We used to call gin “anger juice.” No effeminate connotations for me, pretty much the opposite. People who drank gin seemed to get into a lot of fights.


This is what it does to my husband. He can’t/doesn’t drink it anymore because it turns him dark.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:44     Subject: Re:A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not as much of a turn off as a man ordering a cosmo.


Also not a thing.


Yeah, because no real man would order one.


+1. I’ve never seen a man order a cosmo or sex on the beach.
Anonymous
Post 05/21/2025 18:39     Subject: A man ordering gin & tonic is a known turn off / red flag to women?
A woman who drinks liquor is a red flag. Well that's because I don't drink. What's wrong with him/tonic? Does it taste as nasty as wine lol? I had wine once in my life and never again