Anonymous wrote:DS has received from friends on east coast and here at home on west coast. In the past I’ve received them from families in other states (ex: Oregon). I don’t think this is unusual.

The issue is not whether it is rare. It is what is implicitly expected when it is sent.

DS has received from friends on east coast and here at home on west coast. In the past I’ve received them from families in other states (ex: Oregon). I don’t think this is unusual.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for all the replies! I have not gotten any from DC or NY friends - part of me loves the idea of the tradition - old school printed stationary, etc - like I love holiday cards - but i guess maybe for next kid can send more limited distro as a pic to family that relatives can put on their fridge or desk or what not as a keepsake?

Other than grandma, how many relatives are you doing this for? It will still look like a gift grab if you send a photo of the kid in a cap and gown or in new college gear.

Keepsake? Who is keeping this other then you ans grandma ??

OP here - to be clear, i did not do a card for my graduating kid this yesr - bit i do think some to friends/relatives overseas would be cute - i have friends and relatives all over the workd and many of them have cork boards where they put up photos/etc. i don’t think there is the same commercialization overseas or that those recipients would infer anything other than sharing a keepsake.

I’m not as sure of US culture though - LOL - i guess the few i got from West Coast expedt gifts, is what people are saying? The cards of these kids i have seen growing up made me smile, feel nostalgic, if anything…

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Anonymous wrote:In NY. It’s tacky and a gift grab. Anyone close in touch with you knows your kid is going to graduate. Anyone who doesn’t doesn’t need to know because you are not that close (and that’s fine). You can tell long distance relatives about it, but sending cards out? No. Tacky. Viewed universally as a gift grab.

“Universally ?” No. Clearly there are at least regional and possibly generational differences. That’s why we’re on page 4.

Almost all posts are against them. Claiming it's regional or generational is a way to justify it but it does not (justify it). 💰

You don't have to spend the money on your kid's announcements if you don't want to, no one is making you, but you don't have to pretend it's a "universally" bad thing either. It's a very common, long standing tradition like other announcements of major life events.

What other major life events are announced like this one w/ a Photo and saying kid is graduating?

Who are you sending this to that had no idea your kid is graduating AND is close enough that they should know but can’t be told by a text or phone call?

I am not pretending it is universally bad. Almost everyone is saying it is except for a few who don’t want to hear it. It is a gift grab, in poor taste, and IS universally bad. Go ahead and ignore us…it won’t magically make it change from being a pretext for 🙏 💴.

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Anonymous wrote:In NY. It’s tacky and a gift grab. Anyone close in touch with you knows your kid is going to graduate. Anyone who doesn’t doesn’t need to know because you are not that close (and that’s fine). You can tell long distance relatives about it, but sending cards out? No. Tacky. Viewed universally as a gift grab.

“Universally ?” No. Clearly there are at least regional and possibly generational differences. That’s why we’re on page 4.

Almost all posts are against them. Claiming it's regional or generational is a way to justify it but it does not (justify it). 💰

You don't have to spend the money on your kid's announcements if you don't want to, no one is making you, but you don't have to pretend it's a "universally" bad thing either. It's a very common, long standing tradition like other announcements of major life events.

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Anonymous wrote:In NY. It’s tacky and a gift grab. Anyone close in touch with you knows your kid is going to graduate. Anyone who doesn’t doesn’t need to know because you are not that close (and that’s fine). You can tell long distance relatives about it, but sending cards out? No. Tacky. Viewed universally as a gift grab.

“Universally ?” No. Clearly there are at least regional and possibly generational differences. That’s why we’re on page 4.

Almost all posts are against them. Claiming it's regional or generational is a way to justify it but it does not (justify it). 💰

Anonymous wrote:In NY. It’s tacky and a gift grab. Anyone close in touch with you knows your kid is going to graduate. Anyone who doesn’t doesn’t need to know because you are not that close (and that’s fine). You can tell long distance relatives about it, but sending cards out? No. Tacky. Viewed universally as a gift grab.

“Universally ?” No. Clearly there are at least regional and possibly generational differences. That’s why we’re on page 4.

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Anonymous wrote:In NY. It’s tacky and a gift grab. Anyone close in touch with you knows your kid is going to graduate. Anyone who doesn’t doesn’t need to know because you are not that close (and that’s fine). You can tell long distance relatives about it, but sending cards out? No. Tacky. Viewed universally as a gift grab.

You keep repeating this. It isn't true. It's a formal tradition.

DP: there is more than one person telling you this.

Anonymous wrote:OP here - thanks for all the replies! I have not gotten any from DC or NY friends - part of me loves the idea of the tradition - old school printed stationary, etc - like I love holiday cards - but i guess maybe for next kid can send more limited distro as a pic to family that relatives can put on their fridge or desk or what not as a keepsake?

Other than grandma, how many relatives are you doing this for? It will still look like a gift grab if you send a photo of the kid in a cap and gown or in new college gear.

Keepsake? Who is keeping this other then you ans grandma ??

OP here - thanks for all the replies! I have not gotten any from DC or NY friends - part of me loves the idea of the tradition - old school printed stationary, etc - like I love holiday cards - but i guess maybe for next kid can send more limited distro as a pic to family that relatives can put on their fridge or desk or what not as a keepsake?

Anonymous wrote:In NY. It’s tacky and a gift grab. Anyone close in touch with you knows your kid is going to graduate. Anyone who doesn’t doesn’t need to know because you are not that close (and that’s fine). You can tell long distance relatives about it, but sending cards out? No. Tacky. Viewed universally as a gift grab.

You keep repeating this. It isn't true. It's a formal tradition.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for the ignorant question, but does the high school provide the announcements or do people print their own? My kid goes to a private school in nyc and I never heard of this.

Schools (used to?) offer graduation packages — with a certain number of announcements, sometimes with name cards, either free or as part of a package including a cap and gown and other things, as well as a limited number of printed invitations. Students who wished to purchase additional announcements were able to do so.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for the ignorant question, but does the high school provide the announcements or do people print their own? My kid goes to a private school in nyc and I never heard of this.

Schools typically have a contract with a service that the families can use to have them professionally printed - the family pays for them.

In NY. It’s tacky and a gift grab. Anyone close in touch with you knows your kid is going to graduate. Anyone who doesn’t doesn’t need to know because you are not that close (and that’s fine). You can tell long distance relatives about it, but sending cards out? No. Tacky. Viewed universally as a gift grab.

Sorry for the ignorant question, but does the high school provide the announcements or do people print their own? My kid goes to a private school in nyc and I never heard of this.