Anonymous
05/21/2025 13:40
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
That guy in his 30s isn't going to be as ready for marriage and kids as you are.
Really?
I just met the couple that bought the house across the street. They’re both 30 and engaged. The wedding is this fall.
I’m a decade older and this tracks with my experience.
Just about everyone in my professional/grad school circles got married right around 30. The years between 28-33 were constant weddings.
Same. I married at 27 and spent the next ~5 years going to wedding after wedding, all between couples in their late 20s to early 30s. All young professionals in urban areas, too (not flyover fundies as people on this forum like to pretend).
Anonymous
05/21/2025 12:24
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
The question is how to meet which you conveniently ignored.
Try church OP
Church for late 30’s man? lol
Anonymous
05/21/2025 11:29
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The women I know who met their future spouses in their late thirties all made it almost like a second job to find a partner. It was like they were on a mission. They were out every other night at whatever function they could be at: professional networking event, some DC magazine party, charity galas, church/temple events, running club, biking club, hiking club, ...
Also, make sure you always look put together. I am not saying dress to the nines every time you get out of the house, but you don't want to run into the perfect man when you are in sweats with oily hair in a bun.
Why do women keep perpetuating this nonsense? Have you ever been with a man? Did he see your thigh stubble and say "actually, no thanks, I'll pass."
I'm going to share a truth about men: they notice novelty-- new woman? awesome. They don't see the greasy hair or the sloppy clothes. And then, once you've got one, he likes it when you dress up on occasion. Because it's "new". You can slouch around all week in leggings and his old t-shirt, and when you dress up on Friday night, his eyes pop out. His biology pushes him to spread his genes far and wide, and so many men have a taste for novelty. This works to your advantage when dating. And it's a hint for how to keep him happy long term.
Guy here and would notice the greasy hair and bad clothes.
I would much rather be with a moderately attractive woman who dresses well than a stunningly gorgeous woman who has no sense of style or doesn’t dress foe the occasion.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 11:24
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
Because he is divorced means he failed at marriage?
Anonymous
05/21/2025 10:40
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
That guy in his 30s isn't going to be as ready for marriage and kids as you are.
Really?
I just met the couple that bought the house across the street. They’re both 30 and engaged. The wedding is this fall.
I’m a decade older and this tracks with my experience.
Just about everyone in my professional/grad school circles got married right around 30. The years between 28-33 were constant weddings.
Same. The Summer I was 29 I went to a wedding every single Saturday from May 10th though September 15th. True story. That was a fun summer.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 10:38
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
Ehhh, more like decent single dads who have been widowed or cheated on.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 08:57
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Take up golf or fly fishing.
Anonymous
05/21/2025 07:10
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
The question is how to meet which you conveniently ignored.
Try church OP
+1. I met my husband at church when I was 35. Church guys don't know all the weird dating games of bar and online guys. A lot of them are just nice guys looking to settle down.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 22:04
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Make a list of all activities you enjoy. Join organized programs for the ones most likely to have male members. Things like rock climbing, Hiking, running, etc.
Accept invitations to events/parties from friends and let people set you up on blind dates.
If you’re religious, join a young adult group at church. It’s okay if it’s a women’s prayer group or similar because most will also schedule meetups with the men’s groups too. Plus this means the men you meet will align with you on religion.
Basically, you have to put yourself out there. Be social. Say yes to meeting new people. Say yes to friends parties and attending gatherings.
Accept invitations to events/parties from friends and let people set you up on blind dates.
If you’re religious, join a young adult group at church. It’s okay if it’s a women’s prayer group or similar because most will also schedule meetups with the men’s groups too. Plus this means the men you meet will align with you on religion.
Basically, you have to put yourself out there. Be social. Say yes to meeting new people. Say yes to friends parties and attending gatherings.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 21:56
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
That guy in his 30s isn't going to be as ready for marriage and kids as you are.
Really?
I just met the couple that bought the house across the street. They’re both 30 and engaged. The wedding is this fall.
I’m a decade older and this tracks with my experience.
Just about everyone in my professional/grad school circles got married right around 30. The years between 28-33 were constant weddings.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 21:46
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
How to meet a guy in his late 30s?
Be a woman in your late teens to late 20s would help.
Be a woman in your late teens to late 20s would help.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 20:35
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
She might, in fact, need to settle.
No she doesn't. I'm in my 40s and met several very decent never married no kids men. But I'm pretty (according to them)
Finding a man is easy for a woman. Keeping a man is a different story. If you want a man to just clap your cheeks then that's easy.
Anonymous
05/20/2025 20:20
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
She might, in fact, need to settle.
No she doesn't. I'm in my 40s and met several very decent never married no kids men. But I'm pretty (according to them)
Lol 😂 there’s no end to women’s delusion
Anonymous
05/20/2025 17:09
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Professional and marriage minded.
I am clueless. Please help!
Date men in their 40s to 50s who want those things.
if you date in your 30s or younger, the guys will see you as expendable and not commit as much.
An older man will cherish you much more than someone your age, as he knows he'd be a fool to get rid of you.
You mean someone like a divorced dad in his late 40s with kids who has to pay alimony, failed at marriage, co parent and has lots of baggage?
Hate it when people say things like the above, as if the only thing she stands to offer is her age and that's her only value, and therefore she has to date someone much older. Go for a quality man around your own age, you don't need to settle.
She might, in fact, need to settle.
No she doesn't. I'm in my 40s and met several very decent never married no kids men. But I'm pretty (according to them)
Anonymous
05/20/2025 17:06
Subject: How do you meet a guy in your late thirties?
Tennis and golf events.