Anonymous wrote:The man I’m married to has been looking at smiling, cheesy waitresses while “enjoying” lunch with me. I wonder if this is another sign of early dementia or Asperger’s.

I’d like to add that I’m in good shape. He is not.

The man I’m married to has been looking at smiling, cheesy waitresses while “enjoying” lunch with me. I wonder if this is another sign of early dementia or Asperger’s.

I dont think I ever turned heads

I dont really mind aging

This is an interesting topic for me (and one I have been cogitating on, examining my new role in the world). I am 57 and was very attractive when I was younger. Pretty hot until late 40s I think it is fair to say. Not just good looking, but charismatic; witty, engaging, super smart. (Being honest here in an anonymous forum). I am still decent looking but let’s get real - no woman at 57 is “hot” ….and I am finding that is okay! But it is interesting to ponder the change in the way one interacts with the world. Mulling further, I am still smart and witty and fun (again trying to be frank about how I navigate the world as an older woman) so that gives me currency - but it is absolutely different than when I had the “it”/hot factor. But not worse different (since other things have come to replace that urgency of youth to be desired), just different. It happens to everyone, OP - embrace it! .

Most attractive women who take care of themselves will turn heads until they pass about 46 or so. Then it goes downhill and the only men that do a double take are in the late 50’s and above. That’s what happened to me and a lot of attractive women I know.

I’m 46 and it used to be guys my age who stared or flirted with me, now it’s suddenly guys in their late 50s and 60s.

When I was 35, I visited a friend in London and we had several girls nights outs. It was the first time I recall walking into multiple bars and not being bothered.

I’m 50 now and still occasionally get checked out, but it’s not like it once was.

Anonymous wrote:Developed allergy to contact lenses at age 26. My glasses are super thick and I don’t qualify for lasik. Nothing repels a white man faster than really thick eyeglasses

That's not true for this white man. I wear glasses too.

Im 46 w 22 & 21 year yo adult children
We are all turning heads - dad at 47 included

I am 42 and an Asian twin. We are tall and thin with long dark hair. We have turned heads our whole lives, especially when we are together. It’s gotten even worse as our daughters have gotten older and walk around with us. They are stunning.

Anonymous wrote:I've always been ugly so luckily have never had to deal with this very difficult problem. One time a homeless person told me I was too ugly to wear the skirt I was wearing, and a father/son tourist duo laughed, but that's the closest I've come to turning a head.

Thoughts and prayers, OP.

Loved this. Thanks for the laugh.

I've never been into turning heads. In fact it makes me uncomfortable. I don't mind getting older. My mom always thought of herself as the prettiest and it was always off-putting -- objectively there were many better looking women around. It has always baffled me when short, fat, unathletic women think of themselves as turning heads because they think they're pretty.

Physically, after my second kid at 35. That one aged me years.

But I get a LOT of interest from higher quality men now (I’m 39). My personality is much better and I have a thriving career, so I attract a lot of wealthier men who want someone that A. Isn’t a leech looking for an ATM and 2. Can talk about more than their nails and lash extensions.

Pp again. I don’t really mind getting old. I have some friends having a very difficult time with aging over analyzing their imperfections, doing plastic surgery and getting upset at their fading looks in their mid forties.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 39 and turned heads in DC over the weekend (I am no longer local). I turned the most heads when I put a lot of effort into my hair and makeup and wore a sundress.

OP, I also felt I was going invisible after gaining quite a lot of weight from my last baby. I started working out last summer and have lost about 20 pounds and while I have many pounds to go, I look fit and am slimmer, which has helped.

I wish I didn’t care about turning heads but I do.

I think some women actually are at their personal prettiest in their late 30s. I think I was this way. I knew how to dress and take care of my hair, I had no wrinkles, etc. that’s when I got the most male attention.

I posted previously that I felt less attractive at 44. I felt fantastic at 40. I lost all my baby weight from having my third child at almost 39. I was running, swimming and hiking. I freshened up my wardrobe and had eyelashes.

I stopped doing lashes and I am feeling middle aged in my late forties now.

I’m 49 and it’s slowing down. I’m naturally very slim, high cheekbones, long legs, big eyes and long eyelashes.

The silver lining of the reduced attention is that I can walk out of the house with minimal make up, in sweats or a frumpy dress and I just don’t care because people aren’t scrutinizing me as closely as they used to. Except now boys are starting to stare at my teen daughters, sigh…