Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how private schools work, but shouldn't they pay for it if they are asking for it?

My child's school subsidizes it for families on financial aid.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how private schools work, but shouldn't they pay for it if they are asking for it?

Oh, honey. No.

Anonymous wrote:You should have the school pay for it.

HAHAHAHAHA

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Anonymous wrote:So they can have official documentation to point to when they boot him out.

This will happen.

This is obviously scary. Is your experience that this is across-the-board? Our Big 3 basically made tons of kids get neuropsych testing this year. They even sent out a list of approved doctors, which was...a bit much. Surely schools aren't just kicking out tons of kids?

This makes no sense they are asking for so many kids to be tested. Most make the kids wait till six, so they are older, and that really doesn't give a good look at things and they heavily screen them.

This struck me as very odd too. To accept a bunch of kids for kindergarten and then six months later require 60% of them to get educational testing because you're not sure you can support their learning is not typical. Vanderbilt makes kids wait until 6, so you really need to go with a neuropsych.

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Anonymous wrote:So they can have official documentation to point to when they boot him out.

This will happen.

This is obviously scary. Is your experience that this is across-the-board? Our Big 3 basically made tons of kids get neuropsych testing this year. They even sent out a list of approved doctors, which was...a bit much. Surely schools aren't just kicking out tons of kids?

This makes no sense they are asking for so many kids to be tested. Most make the kids wait till six, so they are older, and that really doesn't give a good look at things and they heavily screen them.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how private schools work, but shouldn't they pay for it if they are asking for it?

A private school can do what they want. No you cannot ask them to pay. At public school if they want an educational assessment, they do it for free and if you contest it sometimes you can get them to pay for a private evaluation. That's because public schools get federal funding.

Absolutely get the testing, otherwise he will definitely be asked to leave because there is no partnership. Try to assume the best. This is about making sure they can meet your child's needs. He's at a big 3. You presumably wanted him there for the most rigorous program, but if it's not a fit, there are so many other options. Also, you don't want it to get to the point other parents complain that they aren't getting what they pay for because so much time and so many resources are going to one student.

You want your child to feel welcome and be in a setting where he can thrive. You want to set him up to enjoy being a life long learner and not burn out. If it turns out the Big 3 school is not a fit, that is small potatoes in the world of adversities. Better to find out now when he is still young and it's easy to start at a new school and make friends.

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how private schools work, but shouldn't they pay for it if they are asking for it?

You definitely don’t understand how private schools work.

I don't understand how private schools work, but shouldn't they pay for it if they are asking for it?

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Anonymous wrote:So they can have official documentation to point to when they boot him out.

This will happen.

Or make continued attendance conditional on taking meds.

They can do this to you/your child? WTF? Why would you stay in these schools that treat students so poorly?

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Anonymous wrote:You should have the school pay for it.

Long time educator and SN parent here. This is not how private schools work.

OP I worked at a big 5. A number of students had neuropsych reports on file. For those with gaps, teacher accommodations only extended so far, and students and parents had to make up the gap with remediation, tutoring/therapies, and hard work. A well-written neuropsych report is invaluable to parents and schools. There are several excellent practices locally. Get onto multiple waitlists now.

This is our experience. Our big 5 was not equipped in LS to handle much and the report was the guide needed. All is much better now and I always recommend getting tested.

Anonymous wrote:If the question is, should you do it, absolutely, you should do it. They are looking out for your kid’s best interest, and they are experts who have supported hundreds of kids and you are not. If you’re afraid that they may learn a diagnosis along with you and that they will ask him to leave, I think that will happen if it’s going to happen regardless of whether you get the neuropsych. But if they know how to support him, they can do so much better.

There’s absolutely no downside to getting a neuropsych, in my opinion, other than the cost. I had my suspicions about my kid going in and learned a ton of things from the results that I didn’t even know, like that he was dyslexic and had legit memory issues. If I hadn’t learned that when he was in third grade, his life would be really different and probably a lot more of a struggle. He’s currently got a great tutor who knows how to help him and I don’t get as mad when he can’t remember things. That’s just the tip of the iceberg.

So don’t be afraid. Don’t doubt them. Just sign up now because waiting lists are long.

+1

The potential downside is they might tell you they cannot support his needs. In which case, it's better for you to know so you can put him in a school that's a better fit. If you don't do it and they continue to have problems with his disruptive behavior or inattention - they will counsel you out because, in part because you didn't support their suggestions. You really have no option here.