Anonymous
Post 04/30/2025 14:53     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:I hope it’s not sexual abuse but that was my first thought.


Mine too.

I thought. 3rd grader is 9 years old - baby sister probably means new marriage - step dad is abusing daughter.

Sorry, just based on statistics and patterns.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2025 14:39     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your immediate dismissal of this as just because of a baby being born is alarming. Of course that is a possibility. But it’s only a possibility.

How have you not talked to school counselor, pediatrician, therapist? You know this is a potential sign of child abuse, particularly sexual abuse, right?

What the hell is wrong with you that you are self-diagnosing this, worried about play dates, and not caring for your child? Wake the eff up and get PROFESSIONAL help. Get off of DCUM.

Even if this is just “only” adjustment to a sibling, that is not normal, and you need to get PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR YOUR CHILD.

This. It is really concerning that you are being so dismissive and ignoring your child's cries for help. Get her to a doctor and a psychologist immediately. WTF is wrong with you?


WTF is wrong with you? Why do so many posters on DCUM decide to post abusive sh$t like this?

DCUM can often be needlessly harsh. The OP of this post needed a wake up call, and I think posters mostly did a good job of providing that along with constructive advice. OP’s attitude to her child and inaction were disturbing.


The above goes well beyond "needlessly harsh". It is online bullying.


No such thing. Go cry in a corner.


Thank you for illustrating what online bullying looks like
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2025 14:36     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your immediate dismissal of this as just because of a baby being born is alarming. Of course that is a possibility. But it’s only a possibility.

How have you not talked to school counselor, pediatrician, therapist? You know this is a potential sign of child abuse, particularly sexual abuse, right?

What the hell is wrong with you that you are self-diagnosing this, worried about play dates, and not caring for your child? Wake the eff up and get PROFESSIONAL help. Get off of DCUM.

Even if this is just “only” adjustment to a sibling, that is not normal, and you need to get PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR YOUR CHILD.

This. It is really concerning that you are being so dismissive and ignoring your child's cries for help. Get her to a doctor and a psychologist immediately. WTF is wrong with you?


WTF is wrong with you? Why do so many posters on DCUM decide to post abusive sh$t like this?

DCUM can often be needlessly harsh. The OP of this post needed a wake up call, and I think posters mostly did a good job of providing that along with constructive advice. OP’s attitude to her child and inaction were disturbing.


The above goes well beyond "needlessly harsh". It is online bullying.


No such thing. Go cry in a corner.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2025 14:32     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your immediate dismissal of this as just because of a baby being born is alarming. Of course that is a possibility. But it’s only a possibility.

How have you not talked to school counselor, pediatrician, therapist? You know this is a potential sign of child abuse, particularly sexual abuse, right?

What the hell is wrong with you that you are self-diagnosing this, worried about play dates, and not caring for your child? Wake the eff up and get PROFESSIONAL help. Get off of DCUM.

Even if this is just “only” adjustment to a sibling, that is not normal, and you need to get PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR YOUR CHILD.

This. It is really concerning that you are being so dismissive and ignoring your child's cries for help. Get her to a doctor and a psychologist immediately. WTF is wrong with you?


WTF is wrong with you? Why do so many posters on DCUM decide to post abusive sh$t like this?

DCUM can often be needlessly harsh. The OP of this post needed a wake up call, and I think posters mostly did a good job of providing that along with constructive advice. OP’s attitude to her child and inaction were disturbing.


The above goes well beyond "needlessly harsh". It is online bullying.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2025 14:03     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your immediate dismissal of this as just because of a baby being born is alarming. Of course that is a possibility. But it’s only a possibility.

How have you not talked to school counselor, pediatrician, therapist? You know this is a potential sign of child abuse, particularly sexual abuse, right?

What the hell is wrong with you that you are self-diagnosing this, worried about play dates, and not caring for your child? Wake the eff up and get PROFESSIONAL help. Get off of DCUM.

Even if this is just “only” adjustment to a sibling, that is not normal, and you need to get PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR YOUR CHILD.

This. It is really concerning that you are being so dismissive and ignoring your child's cries for help. Get her to a doctor and a psychologist immediately. WTF is wrong with you?


WTF is wrong with you? Why do so many posters on DCUM decide to post abusive sh$t like this?

DCUM can often be needlessly harsh. The OP of this post needed a wake up call, and I think posters mostly did a good job of providing that along with constructive advice. OP’s attitude to her child and inaction were disturbing.
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2025 12:32     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your immediate dismissal of this as just because of a baby being born is alarming. Of course that is a possibility. But it’s only a possibility.

How have you not talked to school counselor, pediatrician, therapist? You know this is a potential sign of child abuse, particularly sexual abuse, right?

What the hell is wrong with you that you are self-diagnosing this, worried about play dates, and not caring for your child? Wake the eff up and get PROFESSIONAL help. Get off of DCUM.

Even if this is just “only” adjustment to a sibling, that is not normal, and you need to get PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR YOUR CHILD.

This. It is really concerning that you are being so dismissive and ignoring your child's cries for help. Get her to a doctor and a psychologist immediately. WTF is wrong with you?


WTF is wrong with you? Why do so many posters on DCUM decide to post abusive sh$t like this?
Anonymous
Post 04/30/2025 00:25     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:Your immediate dismissal of this as just because of a baby being born is alarming. Of course that is a possibility. But it’s only a possibility.

How have you not talked to school counselor, pediatrician, therapist? You know this is a potential sign of child abuse, particularly sexual abuse, right?

What the hell is wrong with you that you are self-diagnosing this, worried about play dates, and not caring for your child? Wake the eff up and get PROFESSIONAL help. Get off of DCUM.

Even if this is just “only” adjustment to a sibling, that is not normal, and you need to get PROFESSIONAL HELP FOR YOUR CHILD.

This. It is really concerning that you are being so dismissive and ignoring your child's cries for help. Get her to a doctor and a psychologist immediately. WTF is wrong with you?
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2025 06:05     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:I hope it’s not sexual abuse but that was my first thought.


Oh lord. Not everything is sexual abuse, DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2025 06:04     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Nothing about this seems like it’s for attention. At all. What a strange assessment.

Take your child to the doctor, please.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2025 02:27     Subject: Re:3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Look up Encopresis.


It's more likely lactose intolerance. Most people completely misunderstand it. This kid isn't doing this humiliating action to get attention.


It is OP’s job as her mother to access doctors and figure out the root cause which none of us can truly know but I agree with you completely that whatever the cause is, it is NOT intentional to get attention.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2025 00:58     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
I hope it’s not sexual abuse but that was my first thought.
Anonymous
Post 04/29/2025 00:55     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OMG this is a VERY BIG DEAL. If not physical this is a serious psychological issue--obviously start with the pediatrician and go from there.

Was she potty trained late? My kids were potty trained by 24 months and that would have been completely insane and would have made them feel so embarrassed that I can't even begin to describe it.

How does this feel even remotely normal or like a disciplinary issue?


From the tone, it sounded like a therapist who sees kids who’ve already been medically cleared. OP obviously needs to go to the pediatrician first. I doubt OP will need that advice, but there are obviously families who have. Thank your stars you don’t have a child with PDA for example.



omfg aggressive exertion of authority is not an effective way to manage PDA. you are traumatizing your kid and they will hate you.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2025 23:51     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:OMG this is a VERY BIG DEAL. If not physical this is a serious psychological issue--obviously start with the pediatrician and go from there.

Was she potty trained late? My kids were potty trained by 24 months and that would have been completely insane and would have made them feel so embarrassed that I can't even begin to describe it.

How does this feel even remotely normal or like a disciplinary issue?


From the tone, it sounded like a therapist who sees kids who’ve already been medically cleared. OP obviously needs to go to the pediatrician first. I doubt OP will need that advice, but there are obviously families who have. Thank your stars you don’t have a child with PDA for example.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2025 23:42     Subject: Re:3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Anonymous wrote:Look up Encopresis.


It's more likely lactose intolerance. Most people completely misunderstand it. This kid isn't doing this humiliating action to get attention.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2025 22:57     Subject: 3rd grader is pooping herself for attention
Awww Mom! You seem to only be worried about what others think. I have been teaching for 17 years and the two times this happened with a first and 2nd grader, it was sexual abuse. Please run, do not walk, to the pediatrician.