Anonymous
04/28/2025 23:52
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Send out a reminder "No fraternization policy"
If both have spouses (and potentially children), an affair can end up disastrous for all involved, including the employer.
Most fraternization policies are pretty narrow, typically about bosses and subordinates etc. Plenty of people meet and date at work. It's morally problematic if these people are married to others but that's not the officer's problem.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 22:36
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
MYOB, you have no evidence that affair okis going and even if it was unless they are breaking company policy there is nothing to do.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 19:46
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You report the behavior to HR. There may be sexual harassment going on here. You don’t want to be the boss who witnessed it and let it happen.
There is nothing to report here.
There is definitely. Plus, there is a high probability that one of them is using their position to force the other into this sexual relationship.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 15:55
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:I hate how disposable marriages have become in our society, and how many people are just willing to look the other way.
Would you just look the other way in a car crash, robbery, rape? Because affairs are seriously abusive and destructive to a marriage and family.
Having an affair is in no way comparable to the crimes you listed.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 15:52
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
I hate how disposable marriages have become in our society, and how many people are just willing to look the other way.
Would you just look the other way in a car crash, robbery, rape? Because affairs are seriously abusive and destructive to a marriage and family.
Would you just look the other way in a car crash, robbery, rape? Because affairs are seriously abusive and destructive to a marriage and family.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 15:49
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Send out a reminder "No fraternization policy"
If both have spouses (and potentially children), an affair can end up disastrous for all involved, including the employer.
If both have spouses (and potentially children), an affair can end up disastrous for all involved, including the employer.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 15:31
Subject: Re:Subordinates possibly having an affair?
For my own curiosity, I'd want to know what would happen if the affair happens and one of the betrayed spouses complains to HR. Would they be compelled to investigate? Would any rules have been broken? Would anyone be reassigned or fired? If the answer to those questions is no, then I wouldn't worry about it.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 15:00
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:OP, why are you even concerned? These two are living rent free in your head. If there is no impact on performance, you are better off MYOB.
OP has a crush and is mad the mentorship didn’t lead to more.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 14:02
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
They'll do it once and the will have it out of the system.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 13:38
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
OP, why are you even concerned? These two are living rent free in your head. If there is no impact on performance, you are better off MYOB.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 13:35
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:omg...back in the 90s my workplace was a real Peyton Place. Not going to name names but it was a big aerospace company along the 270 corridor (which at the time could be a dozen different companies lol...all now gone).
Softball games were a blast as there'd be bets on who was hooking up...so yes, alot of extramarital affairs.
I worked at a nonprofit like this!
Anonymous
04/28/2025 13:35
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:I think that absent a performance issue, and without any direct knowledge of what is going on, there isn’t much for you to do at the moment. it may be that they just have chemistry; it may be that they will step back from the brink; it may be one of the great love stories. No way to know. In the near term, it’s probably just helping their performance, so get as much out of them as you can before the explosion. lol
This. There have been people at work I have been close friends with, or even might have dated under the right circumstances, but it did not cross the line on either side into anything that would remotely be inappropriate.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 13:33
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:You report the behavior to HR. There may be sexual harassment going on here. You don’t want to be the boss who witnessed it and let it happen.
There is nothing to report here.
HR determines that.
Anonymous
04/28/2025 13:31
Subject: Subordinates possibly having an affair?
Anonymous wrote:You report the behavior to HR. There may be sexual harassment going on here. You don’t want to be the boss who witnessed it and let it happen.
There is nothing to report here.